Separated from past 5 yrs and want divorce

I would advise you to file for Divorce and injunction asap.  If she comes in the meantime, you and your family will just have to restrain her from entering

First, move into rented place. Engage a lawyer. Try to get an understanding what your spouse wants? She may have moved on.

Being petitioner is double edge sword. Waiting for 7 years desertion is best policy.

Why wake up sleeping snake?