LCI Learning

Share on Facebook

Share on Twitter

Share on LinkedIn

Share on Email

Share More

Santhosh S   16 June 2015

Really worried - Game played by wife, need advice in family issue -



I am Santhosh, I got married on 03-03-2011, the day I started my marriage life started with loads of problem, Wife pledged her jewels and bought a land in her native, along with that we have pledged jewels for family expenses as well, however I got a personal loan of 5 lacs and took all jewels for 2 lacs in Chennai and we have gone for lease by shifing our house from Chennai to Coimbatore (Wife's Native),

Now we have some family problem, she is telling I am not ready to live with you due to some family issues (PS. I have a proof confirming that she has an affair with a guy after marriage - sent by her ex boy friend explaining all our family situation and her wrong contact in facebook), now I have thought of living for sake of my boy baby 2.5 years old but she is not ready to live with me at the same time as I am jobless now,  I have asked her, if I get job, can you live with me, she said clearly that she is not ready to live with me as of now, however, I thought of vacating the lease house in Coimbatore and get the lease money back to pay off my debts, wife and her relations came to that house and threatened me that you cant get the money until you give a settlement to their daughter, they are not ready to live with me, at the same time they want the land purchased in the name of myself and my wife as a settlement,

1. my wife dont want to live with me

2. they are not allowing me to take the lease money from the house owner to pay my debts, since they need settlement without divorce agreement or any other agreement.

3. I recorded the phone conversation had with my wife as well

4. I am helpless, as everyday I am getting calls from 2 banks asking me to pay off my debts but I am jobless and my wife and her relations threatining me that you cant get the money without settlement.

Can someone help me what should I do in this situation as house owner is saying that both (me & my wife) should come to collect the things and money at the same day.

5. I tried already but they are expecting money and land as settlement but they are not ready for a agreement on the same.

Request you to advice what I should do get the lease money to pay off my debts


Santhosh S


 3 Replies

saravanan s (legal advisor)     16 June 2015

try to make her accept about her affair with that guy by some means.if she talks through mobile record her calls.generate proofs for the adultery she is committing.then you can use that to get divorce through grounds of cruelty and need to act now.dont budge to their threats.

record your in laws threats and tell them that you will file case for criminal intimidation.

file an nc in the local police station that your wife and inlaws might file false cases on you and your family.

if you are well qualified try to find a job soon.

N R Dash.. (Advocate)     16 June 2015

1. Try for amicable settlement

2. If you have the rent agreement on your name ad receipt of the security amount on your name, you can very well ask the owner to pay the money back to you only elase, you may lodge an FIR for fraud.

3. Hire a local advocate and show him the evidences, he would guide you whether they would add any value legally

4. Get the money and pay back the debt.

5. It was a blunder that you took personal loan to purchase a land at the native place of your wife and also you bought that on her name. She can claim the property on her name and have share on yours too.

Either you initiatelegal proceedings against the house owner and your wife (which would be very complcated as your wife will also file counter), or you can go for amicable settlement. The choice is yours. There is no escape to your problems.

Biswanath Roy (Advocate)     20 June 2015

Take help of common friends and relatives more particulary those who were present in your marriage ceremony for concilliation and amicable settlement.  From the given facts it transpires that you are the victim of your own fault.

Leave a reply

Your are not logged in . Please login to post replies

Click here to Login / Register  

Post a Suggestion for LCI Team
Post a Legal Query