1. It is seen in Family Court counseling sessions that if proper counseling done to the parties by a trained Counselor then such bad drafting is left behind and parties start afresh.
2. Here if you feel hurt by his advocates bad drafting that also in a RCR petition then be honest about those paras before Counselor and ask simple questions to Husband that is; if you have read and then signed using such bad wordings in a petition about me (your wife) then do you think you should call me back to restitute your conjugality? See his reaction and keep telling him to be honest about choice of wordings used in his petition atleast before Counselor.
3. If he says he honestly meant them, then the marriage is beyond repair and you should not insist to patch up and yet hire via reference an advocate and rebut his allegation paras with your version of correct facts and may be his RCR petition ends up in dismissal and both remain married on paper. Whereas if he shows symptoms of loss of words to answer you or to answer back the Counselor to wordings that a draftsmen has penned in the petition which you believe are not true then the marriage is fit for a repair by small tweaking exercise here and there and for the same trained Counselor help comes handy and case can also be referred to a private marriage counselor outside Court under reporting outcome back to Family Court.
Illustration:
Allegation in a RCR - "My wife never used to even cook breakfast and I used to go to office empty stomach". Whereas Prayer para says I want my wife back !
In above allegation eg. you know you used to cook breakfast for him, may be not enough quantity wise or may be not upto his taste or still may be daily the same menue, but it is basicaly a false allegation by him that also in a RCR so what you should ask him is ‘why you want me to come back when I never even used to cook for you your breakfast?’. He will be having loss of words to answer before Counselor this eg. allegation and so on so forth you can make simple questions to ask him.
Likewise as above you have to find which paras of his RCR are not true and make simple liners as fun questions to ask him before Counselor and keep watching his reactions and replies and then decide if this reunion demand he has placed before the Court is worthwhile effort to rejoin with him or should part amicably each others company. For these exercise you donot need Advocate as housewife’s intuition ability are self sufficient for facing Counseling sessions as it is not akin to end of the world!!! Also remember divorce is no more dirty word in urban India, it is better to divorce then live with a person who speaks un-true statements.
You need advocate only if Counseling fails so that a legal professional can draft reply and follows Courts procedures thereof. Try above simple exercise first on your own as Advocate presence is not even required during Family Court instituted Counseling sessions as Counseling is done between parties.
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