First of all, I am sorry to put this question over here. I dont want to hurt anyone.
Q. 1) How can a boy assure before marriage that girl and her family is good enough and will not take a decision of 498a in hasty manner.
2) Based on your experiences guys can you tell some of those "dangerous signals" that you ignored from girl/ her family in your married life or before your married life that lead to 498a against you. ?
3) Did any one of you found any "specific behavior' from in-laws objectionable before fixing mariage that you might have ignored it?
4) Why will a girl takes a decision of 498a sometimes within 15 days of marriage? or period on avg. is very less. 15 days to 1 yr
5) What are the things that you will suggest one must check before getting married that such a disastor wont haapen? For ex: a) Assessing girls family on social grounds and their place in society b) Girls family social status c) Girls opinions on particular things blah blah... assessign these things will help at least to be sure that family wont take any decision hastily?