Dowry has been made a hated term through feminist propaganda, and hence it is difficult to do an objective discussion. But let me try.....
One thing is property, income, wealth....... other thing is harassing somebody or killing somebody or harming somebody for property/income/wealth. Such harassment or killing or harming is never justified and must be punished. Once this point is clear, we can proceed to discuss about dowry, the property.
You have answered yourself,
"u also say girls want to marry high earning boys....can i know wots the harm in it?if suppose you have a daughter,will you not want a boy who's very well settled and well earning or will you send ur daughter to someone who's not well settled and facing many hurdles in life owing to financial constraintts?to explain better...if u have 2 job offers...if one is higher paying and more beneficail then the other one,will you not choose the better one so that u have a smoother life?"
Thus when a boy has two offers- one for higher value and other for lower value- what will he choose?
Let us examine poor parents of girl:
"u keep saying that once girls parents give her property share boys will stop demanding...so entire blame is on these poor parents only....that they are responsible.already they are victims of circumstances...spending their lifetime saving on getting children educated,then married,then give them shares.."
What about the boy's parents? Didnt they educated the children, taken care of them, married them.... and they give their property share too. Why should the girl's parents should not do it?
Many sages died trying to give gyaan to people. Lord Krishna could not succeed in giving gyaan despite babbling Geeta. Do you think I or you or anybody can give gyaan to anybody? I dont think so.
Solution lies in accepting the basic nature of human beings.... SELFISHNESS... we have to accept that human beings are selfish, be it man or woman. And solution has to find keeping in mind what a "selfish" person will do in given circumstances.
Certain laws are legislated under the wrong presumption that woman is not selfish..... they sacrifice their life, devi type.... these laws are most likely to be abused by women. We oppose these laws. Dowry laws is one of them.