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need help on wife desertion


Hello,

Need help how to proceed legally with my family issues.

We are muslims married in 2012, i have contacted my wife through matrimonial portal and married by an arranged marriage. Happily married, next day i came to know that she and her family fabricted her age but i didn't say anything and everything was going good. She intially worked for about 9 or 10 months and accompanied me to other foreign country as i was deployed there. Small domestic issues were there with my wife but my parents and me we decided we will not fight. But after returning to India we had child and wife started fighting putting false allegations saying as she was foreced to go for work. One day she picked up fight and i coudn't control and slapped her, then i was away to other city for work. she packed bags and left home saying she will return in couple of days as she was not feeling good at home. and from then i have been trying to convince her to come back but she is not returning and her family also not supporting in sending to her matrimonial home. Myself and my parents visited her house for intial six months to see my daughter and to reconcile but their parents (only mother) behaving as if it is only our fault and telling try to convince her daughter and her elder son and take her back. Both my wife and her brother are talking as if it is only my fault and demanding that i will take care of her properly. But i have done anything like that and told it is not my fault she has to accept all her mistakes and should come back home since my 2 year old daughter is suffering. There is no response from them. Please advise how go about what to do in this case.

Regards

Shamsk

 

 
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Vakeel No. 1

The chances of your wife filing DV case on you are quite bright. Consult a good criminal lawyer locally, and discuss this with him.  Maintenance cases may also be in pipeline.

 
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You slapped her that was wrong and thats the loop she is encashing on to blackmail you and control you. Egos here are playing a major part. Kisi ek ko to jhukna padega Sir , to save ur marriage at the earliest. Rest "Vakalath" has rightly pointed whats in store for you in future.....

 
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Born fighter:

If she files DV case left her file i will see how she will succeed and you are absolutely right! Biwi chahe kuch bhi bol sakthi hai lekin hum haath nahi utha sakthe yahi hai yahan ka kanoon. She and her family saying this repeatedly that i have slapped her though they know it is her mistake. They are not talking beyond that. 

I have told already that if you are willing to come whole heartedly by accepting mistakes you are welcome otherwise take Talaq, am I going right?

regards

Shamsk

 
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xxx

 

Biwi chahe pehli ho ya dusri, india ki ho ya japan ki ...wo apni mistakes easily accept nahin karti hai. (exceptions are there but rare !). In ur case u slapped her so u just forget that she will apologize. Your one slap has washed away all the good u did for her. 

 

On top of it our judiciary has made such laws in favour of women that many husbands who fear false cases literally end up being a puppet in hands of the wife.  Adjustment/Compromise karni padhti hai to survive in a marriage. Jo sehte hai wo shaadishuda rehte hai and rest end up in divorce.

 

I personally feel in ur case egos are playing a major part, see if u can forgive and forget. Even if u cant forget u can try to ignore. Is biwi se chutkara pa logey but dusri acchi hogi iski guarantee koi de sakta hai kya ????

 

 
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This was happend more than a year ago, they are not showing any interest of reconciling. We only going to them to see the child, but when we starting discussing the matter they are showing that it our mistake.

Pls. advise.

 

 
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Vakeel No. 1

Originally posted by : Shamsk
This was happend more than a year ago, they are not showing any interest of reconciling. We only going to them to see the child, but when we starting discussing the matter they are showing that it our mistake.

Pls. advise.

 

Your mistake or her mistake, if you continue like this you will spend another 20 years in courts.  

Have a forgive and forget approach towards any matter.

 
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You have done mistake. You should not slap her. You have accept your mistake infront of her family that's good. Try to reconcile her. In future never accept your mistake infront her family if they record and produce recording in court case you may get trouble. Think about your child future and keep your ego one side. Dnt spoil your child life. better forgive her and reconcile. Spend a happy family life.
 
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I'm in weird situation again!

Last week i made my wife and her brother realize thier mistakes and after having long discussions my wife initially agreed that she will come back after 3 to 4 days but again she is giving reasons that her sister is not well and she has to take her hospital and it will be possible to come only after a week, thinking she will give reasons again after one week i said you take divorce if you can't come back now angrily and she agreed for it.

I'm in strong opinion that she is not taking her matrimonial relations seriously. My family has decided that to divorce her. Please suggestion how to proceed further.

Regards

Shamsk

 

 
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why don't you appy for the Restitution of Conjugal Rights as this will give you a firm and upper hand in future course of actions.

 
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