Money enables people to buy many things; unfortunately, it can't buy happiness, love or a lasting relationship. And surprisingly, money turns out to be the leading cause of today's separation.
The corrupting effect financial incompatibility has on a marriage is compounded when couples don't discuss their financial problems.
People aren't discussing finances. Money is such a taboo subject. People associate bad things with money. If you're in a serious relationship, talk about this. If you don't, it will cause a huge gap."
The unequal division of money causes problems because control isn't equal. One person will have control and more money than the other. If one person is mismanaging funds, the strain comes when it doesn't benefit the other party. It puts a strain on who will be the person to handle the finances,"
The lack of money generated by one person in the eyes of the other can cause a problem because the expectations of the other person haven't been met," says Wiggins. "You also have people who have married young or before they acquired stability, and they tend to get selfish. They will feel that they want to enjoy their funds alone because they are doing so well."
Reason money is the leading cause of divorce is because a spouse could use it as a symbol of power in the relationship, says Dr. Allen C. Carter, a clinical psychologist from
"When the wife tells her husband that he doesn't spend money on her, she's really saying he doesn't care about her because if he did he would spend money on her. She wants more attention. When the wife shops all the time, the husband will feel that she's wasting money. He's saying she doesn't care about the resources ... he really means she should spend more time at home, focusing on their relationship, instead of being at the mall.
Materialism is not good, one may be lucky at a particular time but one can eventually become a loser. The lady was living in an old hut with her husband. They became lucky and had a pretty house from the magic fish and later a castle. But she wanted too much and lost everything. If you want too much, you may not respect your husband. This lady did not respect her husband and even insulted him.
