Sir/Madam,
I got married 5.5 months back. But my husband , everyday, in everything , criticized me, abused me, threatened me, demeaned me, non-consummated the marriage, and criticized every effort of my paternal family, and its all members, inclusive of parents, for everything.
I am a well qualified girl earning handsome salary. Also, my husband. Also, my in laws earning good pension.
1. Criticism- of the way i look, as i don't have zero figure. By comparing me with every other girl. Making me feel dejected. Even clearly i was told that i was rejected earlier but he does not know why he said yes.
2. Instructing me - how to sit, how to walk, how to eat. Just like thing. are visible on a tv. The ultra modern society etiquettes. That too, with criticism. To use what budjet cosmetics. To wear clothes of his mothers choice on one side. On other side, the look of a tourist girl going from a tourist road i should carry myself.
3. Salary - They havent told any of theor relatives about my job. And i was told to keep it a secret , on the engagement day,that their son is marrying a post graduate jobless girl and later, they will get me a job by their appraoch. Binding my expenses to 5000. Rest of it to his mother. Not as respect, but becoz , my father have donated me to him. And he has the right on my salary similar to the way, when someone buys a cow and his owner has the right on her milk and child of cow. These are wordings of my husband.
4. Character - I shared with him that i used to like a boy 3/4 years back, but could not marry bcz of caste. He is return shared with me that he slept with a prostitute. And now he is telling my paternal family, that i had phsycal relation earlier. but still, he is ready to accept me.
5. Dowry - He n his family first demanded dowry as a part of custom. Then they said that they wont take in front of public. And we were forced to sent it to their home. And in receipt, the cunning husband wrote....recived from...the name of the driver. Not acknowledjing that they have received.
6. Killing- On the meeting of reconcilliation, he told his parents that he will drive into the khaai....in hills, if they said anything to their son.
7. I came back to my home to join my service and get relived. But, did not go back till date. becoz of dispute...of non consummation, criticism, to the extent that i went to depression for months, and self obssesion of husband as GOD of me, in his words, and treating/valuing me as animal, and valuing my job by saying k if i leave job, he will laeve me, by demanding salary/previous savings, half honeymoon expenditure, always it was the job. The salary. The budjet. the criticism. Not ven a single moment i felt that i married to a human who can become a friend, and a husband.
Till date, after the reconcilliation meet months back, he has never called. Nor his family. But he is going to my realtives by defaming my character, forcing them to get weakened and so that they send me back. And my family is very weak.
I am alone to fight. Becoz he knows to speak. And my family is not bold enough to fight for my happiness.
We sent him notice through lawyer. He denied everythinng obvious. And put blame of evrything on me. But i have some of the call recordings that broke me complety, as some evidence. Nothing else i have as evidence.
People say that before 1 year, i cannot go for divorce. I am getting sick day by day becoz they have just excuses. No answrers. they never called my parents. me. fantasy of husband as god, wife as slave.,
Please guide. I dont want to become criminal and destroy everybody and everything becoz of such mentally sick people who dont consider me a human even.
