Harassment by neighbours for females visiting me.

I understand from your post that your neighbours have given a police complaint. You  have not stated what are the allegations made in the complaint. It is not a crime for friends to visit your place. But the neighbours are also entitled to have a decent surrounding. I really do not know what the real picture is. But if you people are creating any nuisance, they are going to complain about it. And you are answerable to them. 

No. They haven't done that. Well, not really. They threatened to call the police, and so I said I would myself and called them. When they came, my neighbours just verbally told the police they'd been telling me. I agree, totally, that the neighbours are absolutely entitiled to decent surroundings. And I respect that the most. But then, all they do, is take undue advantage of me being one, and they being many. I do not roam around on the streets being a nuisance of any sort at all. The only problem they have as they have said time and time again, is a female entering my house, or being at my house, during the night. I mean, this is ridiculous. I never even make any noise or talk loudly or anything at all that might even disturb them.

So basically, what they said to the police was, that this boy, "gets girls at night"! And that is messed up. They claim, since they are so very non ignorant and intelligent and all knowing, that any girl coming by herself, or with another guy, or being at my place, at 3 in the morning, is a prostitute or some sort. To quote, translated into English, " What kind of an innocent girl will visit a friend at 3 in the morning?!"

I hope you get the picture clearer now. Please do answer.

What are the allegations made against you in the complaint they preferred before police?

what your parents say?

Sir, I can understand from your explanation that you feel nothing wrong if a girl visits your home even at odd hours. But please understand from their view point. They must be thinking that there is some immoral things happening at your place and so, they have been asking to restrain from having a girl in your home. All they can do is to call the police. And you say, you have called them by yourself. It is up to you to make the things clear to police that there is nothing illegal or immoral happening in your place. If it is done, then your neighbours cannot do anything against you. 

Other than that, speaking legally, if you are not doing anything illegal, that girl has every freedom and right to stay wherever she wishes to, if she is a major and person of sound mind.

To Suchitra.

Yes, I understand totally! But that is what, "They must be thinking", yes, they most definitely are thinking so, and there is no doubt about it. They are entitiled to their opinion. Their "idea" their "notion" of what's happening. But then, that is all it is, their idea, what they think. Just because a hundred people "think so" doesn't mean that it "is so" does it? No, most definitely not. And that is what. The mentality here, people coming up to me and saying things like, "Leave it, just agree it wont happen again..." WHAT wont happen again? Nothing wrong happens so what right do they have to agree to such a thing?! The police, said the same things. That the people have a problem with it, so I shouldn't do it. I mean, this is retarded. Just them having a problem is reason enough! All by itself. Whether the problem is warranted or justified, is something totally irrelevant to them! Now when the police too act in such an ignorant fashion, which I have come to realise is more than expected of them, what am I supposed to do?

To Aravinthan

The allegations made against me before the police arrived are the same made against me after they arrived. They had a problem with me, and what they said was, that this boy, get's girls to his place at night. By which, they mean, that the girls visiting me are prostitutes, or basically, solely for s*x. They do not have any clarity in what they say. All they have, is volume. And curses. All they do is scream and shout, because to them, that compensates for the lack of intellect. Anyway, so they claim that they would not have any girl come to my place. This was at first. When it happened a few months ago. THEN, after I stayed put saying that I was doing nothing wrong and wouldn't agree to such a thing, they changed it saying, that I could have girls visit, but only during the day. Why? Prostitutes during the day is fine? No, their super explanation is, that a girl coming over at night, or late at night, is and definitely HAS to be of bad nature. And that a girl coming during the day, will be a good girl. These notions truly depress me thinking this is thinking and ignorance of the people I share this world with. So then, I shouldn't have girls visit at night or stay over or anything of that sort. My parents are totally aware that my friends, be it male or female, visit and stay over. What do I do? I feel truly helpless.

Khan Sir, recently we had one famous case of Swami Nityananda. Hope you are aware of it. It is just similar to your case with slight difference. People had problem with the Swamy for having physical relationship with women who came to his Ashram. The Swamy was acquitted as there was no complaint filed by any aggrieved party. !! How can police file a case against you when there is no specified allegation under law ?Fundamental Rights of citizens are protected in our country. Do not worry. At the most, the owner may ask you to vacate being influenced b your neighbourhood.

Well, Hemant. You sound very clearly that you have no interest in helping anyone out. I am Indian. I am not retarded to call India my country if I weren't. I've lived in Saudi Arabia before I moved here. Prior to that, I've been in India itself. I was born here, grew up here, and then moved. Got it? And you are really ignorant to tell me to compare the behaviour and attitude of neighbours in Saudi Arabia. Suppose I come from Afghanistan. There, I couldn't even talk to a woman who isn't either my sister, wife, mother, aunt, grandmother, or daughter. So that makes sense here? Please dont comment if you have no useful information to give. Regardless. If the allow me to have s*x on the street in Saudi Arabia, it should be allowed here?! No. It ISN'T dependent on what another country just allows or doesn't. And afternoon is one word.

I gave you the information just for some background.

Relevant information and all you need.

I am an INDIAN CITIZEN by BIRTH.

I am a major.

My friends visiting are all majors.

We have the right to come and go as we please without causing a disturbance.

But still, even apart from us being majors, our parents are aware of our visits.

I hope that clears it all for you? Because you sounded very hostile sadly.

And Suchitra, I'm not even in any s*xual relationship with the girls that visit! They're all friends. And it's all the same even if I did have any such relations. It's my wish, it's consentual, and we're above 18. That's all! But then, they claim I that their visit's purpose is "of course" s*x, because they're here at night or are staying over! Amazing, isn't it? But yes, he will at most evict me, but that is what, why should he? He has no right to do so. I do not want to move. This is exploitation. Some form or the other, but it is.

Well, I guess no one really wants to help. All they want to do is increase their scores on their 'scorecards'. Good. Thank you nonetheless.

Mr. Khan,

You are absolutely right that I am never interested in "helping" anyone and neither I intend to ever in future.  The Lord Almighty says that  "Help those, who help themselves". 

YOU could try to ask your parents to Stay in your rented house for a month or so AND THEN let all your different Girl-Friends and Boy-Friends come over at 3 in the morning OR overnight stay  OR week-end stay  or whatever,   AND then see IF they are amicable to your friends visiting you at all odd house.    Forget the neighbourhood or the police.  LETs ALL know  what your parents say to your above activities.

Okay .... Here is some useful information :
1.  Having  S E X, without condoms, may help in contracting AIDS.
2.  Having  S E X  without condoms with  multiple partners may also help in contracting AIDS.
3.  Live-in Relations have been legalised by a Supreme Court judgement,  which says that  "live-in relations"  is not an offence. 
YOU may show this SC judgement to your society neighbours, the police and others.

WRIGGLING :
Sometimes you say that  "I came from Saudi Arabia"
Now you say that "I'm Indian by birth"

FURTHER :
You are looking for solutions,  which fits into your likings.  AND the law does work that way.  IF something is not according to your likings OR to your prejudiced mind, it is obivious that it would seem "Hostile" to you.

Personally, I would not wish you to  "keep smiling",  If I wanted to be hostile towards you.

Keep Smiling .... Hemant Agarwal
 

Aw..that is so sweet of you! You said keep smiling! Can I send you roses or something? You are truly brainless. Sad. No illiterate, no, not at all, ignorant. The difference is, an illiterate person knows and says that he knows not much, whereas an ignorant person says just the opposite!

Simple things can't add up in your little head?

I can't be Indian, then go somewhere, and take a plane back to India? Every person landing on Indian soil from some International flight is an Alien?! Retarded.

And no, why would I look for a solution that fits my likings? No definitely not, who does that? You for example wouldn't ever want to take a job that pays you ten times of another job. Because that would be fitting your likings. So you'll choose the lower paying job. Move to a bad part of town. Choose education from a run down college bad at academics? Are you plain stupid?! OF COURSE I am looking for a solution that fits my liking! And, HOSTILE, because, read carefully and slowly so you may have a change of understanding, " THEY ARE AGAINST WHAT THE LAW CLEARLY AND EXPLICITLY ALLOWS ME TO DO". I don't know, perhaps you have disregard for this country's law. I don't. I respect the Judicial system, and I believe it to be one of the pillars of being a civilized society. But you don't very clearly.

"OF COURSE I am looking for a solution that fits my liking"

-------- your words clearly says your attitude. All your liking wont give solution. It is not law only for you, that is for all.

You are speaking about civilized society but you not intending to be a part of that civilized society

In my view, you are not respecting anything which is true and at the same time against your liking.
 

My heart says " Better you go away, dont come back

Your attitude is a known well as you stating an expert of this site as stupid, who came to answer your query. 

If at all your query is answered, you go out of our club.