atleast u admit that lareke wale take these "bribes".....good.
the entire system asks for bribes.it's polluted.wot can bribe givers do?
if they refuse to give this bribe,they will hardly get a good match for their daughter.even if they get one,the family she's wedded into may start torturing for this "bribe" afterwards.and this results in litigation of many yrs. and perhaps a divorce.so there's no guarantee that a so called simple family who did not ask for this "bribe" will treat the bahu properly post marriage.
and in this way, parents are actually forced into giving this bribe.THEY ARE NOT AT FAULT
if parents act idealistic b4 marriage & want to complain legally against the bribe askers,they will again get engaged into long litigation.and u know how "great" our indian legal system is....and how "fast" an innocent person gets justice.so no one wants to get involved into these litigations.
and they end up paying this "bribe" to avoid these ugly legal battles later on.
now after reading all this,wot do u suggest to bribe givers who gave under pressure pre-marriage?
lets talk of the solution instead of focussing on the problem and beating about the bush..