Probably you are referring to:
16. Benefits to the family on the death of a member:
(5) (a) A member who is not married or who does not have any
living spouse and/or an eligible child may nominate a person to
receive benefits as laid down hereinafter provided that in the
event of his/her acquiring a family subsequently, the nomination
so made shall become void. In the event of death of the member
such a nominee shall be entitled to receive a monthly pension
equal to the monthly widow pension, as admissible under sub-clauses (I) and (ii) of clause (a) of sub-paragraph (2).
And probably employer is referring to:
16. Benefits to the family on the death of a member:
(5) (a):
36[ (aa) If a member dies leaving behind no spouse and/or an
eligible child falling within the definition of family and no
nomination by such deceased member exists, the widow
pension shall be paid undersub-clauses (I) and (ii) of clause (a)
of sub-paragraph 2 either todependent father or dependent
mother as the case may be. Ongrant of Pension to such
dependant father and in the eventof death of the father
pensioner, the admissible pension shall be extended to the
surviving mother life long]36. Inserted by G.S.R.66 dated 22nd February, 1999. (w.e.f
6.3.99)
It shall be better to clarify the doubts with employer and resolve the matter by persuasion and clarifications.
You may look into;
38[16A. Guarantee of pensionary benefits
None of the pensionary benefits under the Scheme shall be
denied to any member or beneficiary for want of compliance of
the requirement by the employer under sub-paragraph (1) of
paragraph 3 provided, however, that the employer shall not be
absolved of his liabilities under the Scheme.] 38. Inserted by G.S.R. 134
dated the 28th February 96 (w.e.f. 16th March 1996)
Then you my look into
40[17A. Payment of Pension
Valuable advice of learned experts/members is sought.