Originally posted by :****utpala**
Whole family in a single bedroom?How can she feel comfortable when your father is also in the bedroom?
1. Generation of DIL’s harmoniously lived and grew up becoming Public Servants and or Pilots and or S/w Engineers and or Researchers and or Teachers and or Doctors and or even Mafia Queens from their bare existence post marriage out of 1 bed room space (i.e. 1BHK)! That’s short and long life in METROS for millions of dead and alive DIL’s.
2. Before 2006 (i.e. pre DV Act days) all above DIL’s (wives to someone) never felt un-comfortable living in 1 BHK after their marriage till 2006 Diwali celebration nite when NCW gifted DIL’s their best “residence rights in one shot as Law on a clean silver plate as Diwali gift”.
3. When marriage takes place both families finds out / visit living condition of each others as one of the point to check for comfort for their daughter – status compatibility in a marriage – right? Was the authors wife’s side never knew 1 BHK status of groom and or when the groom went overseas to earn GREEN BUCKS they only then suddenly discovered 1 BHK is not suitable living wise for their ladali now their married daughter !
Same was the case of Delhi where presents day’s third generations grew up from Lajpat Nagar, Punjabi Bag, Naroji Nagar and Sriniwas Puri’s 1 BHK’s everywhere and today lots of them are in their retirement age (I mean I am talking of retiring DIL’s from Public services being clerks / stenos in some or the other Govt. Departments from Delhi here as comparative illustration of life in 1 BHK) Even today in and around these localities of Delhi you will still find haphazard mushrooming 1 BHK only and it is post 2006 the maximum DV cases in Delhi are also from these localities. You can check yourself authenticity of my say by self filing RTI Application and what is the main complaint in them – residence rights protection order for this third neo-generation DIL. Now think in 1 BHK where this DIL will partition the property into and where In-Laws will commit suicide with their third generation tiny – tots i.e. third – forth generation kidoos from joint extended families of theirs!
@ Utpala, why do you say today i.e. post 2006 era 'wife feels un-comfortable seeing Father In Laws picking cloths in bedroom' when that is the only sustenance option of living out of a 1BHK flat for the entire family i sthere + were most wives married before 2006 blind not to realize life in METROS or were they straight away transported from some or the other villages not to know what 1 BHK living is all about in double digit inflation and high interest rates regime means?
I mean here if wife needs exclusive privacy in 1BHK all for herself for that she should have asked her parents to gift her 1+ BHK all for herself to live comfortably the day husband left overseas instead of threatening groom / in laws to fix the issue now that he is in a overseas country earning for a better living / may be saving for future per se dreaming for purchasing larger flat space once he returns – a Santro / Honda – or a bungalow at Juhu Tara Road – every half yearly holidays to wife to Singapore to play rummi there etc. etc.
Let us check what is the status in terms of space ownership back home of this wife first? Does her father own 6 BHK penthouse to complain today of 1 BHK which his daughter is married into after all due diligences done by him which normally majority of middle class families do before marriage – right or wrong?
The problem here is that of overnight becoming rich and nothing else more so of a third generation wife as she is the one complaining here and for raising complaint knowing about her pre-marriage living condition status is important and if her father had same status standing as 1 BHK then she should not now complain and if her father did not have same status then why the marriage took place afterall and no one in her family knew before her marriage how much problem she is going to face for the one and only bed room in a 1BHK!!!
It will not be wonder if her demands are not fulfilled on press of a ISD Tel. call to her husband the father in law will be behind bars on rape charges that is end of all generations rise and fall living out of a 1 BHK yet we hardly hear media news of FIL raping DIL from Mumbai’s 72% chawls and or 1 BHK skyscrapers is it not surprising for feminist that for DV Act was made and now Maharashtra Assembly is debating to pass “50% residence / property rights to DIL Bill, 2010” this Assembly season courtesy lobbying by Mazlis and Lawyers Collective and you feminists groups ………………..
Are you aware that in Mumbai several trial Court ADJ’s / Magistrates still live in 1 BHK with their DIL’s ! Even 1 ASJ of Delhi still lives in 1 BHK with his DIL so are 4 ADJ’s in Delhi living out of 1 BHK with DIL’s is stats. As per last count.
It feels sad to know you are quite away from realities of urban living in today’s times in the name of giving privacy to DIL’s and mind it lots of these fathers of similar kind of author’s too have grown up daughters where family’s cupboard are in their daughter’s room and till date no daughter raised such complaints as if for her there never are any privacy issues – then why divide the same gender now with a flick of status change (daughter then - now a DIL) !!!!!!!!!!!!!!.