divorce
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Anonymous
(Querist) 30 October 2009
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i am 25 years old married girl.i got married 2 years before.my husband is really a nice guy but d problem is that after 2 months of my marriage i came to know by my mother in law that he has married me coz just of the family pressure.he hadn't marry me willingly.i was nt aware of this fact before my marriage.though i don't have any complaints with my husband but every second i feel as i've destroyed his life.even after 2 years of marriage i never feel any concern,feeling of safety or intimacy from his side,he is so neutral,though i try alot to get into relatoinship.but he is leading his life as just his duty..this feeling is like burden to me.i don't know how will i lead my whole life with this guilty..what should i do?can i divorce him so that he can lead his life with the person of his own choice?if yes than on what grounds? please help me???
adv. rajeev ( rajoo )
(Expert) 30 October 2009
There is no ground to file a divorce. my advise is try to win his heart, make him to feel your necessity. this much can be advised to you.
If you want to get divorce then both sit to gether and discuss about the mutual divorce. There is no alternative solution for it.
K.C.Suresh
(Expert) 30 October 2009
Now your mother in law is the ghost in the deep woods. try to get out from the deep woods. You are always thinking about his attitude to wards you. His love, affection, smile reactions, words, mannerisms etc etc always echoed in the woods which is a natural reaction of a poor young girl who expects every thing from the husband. Don't go to that extend sister. You love your soul and try to consume one child. In about 90% cases love follows there after. Your M-I-L and hus will also drift to the same shore of love. Talk to him about the old connection through a friend. If there is no friend suited for that purpose forget about talking. Give some Pillow dosages of beauty of love. Your case is nothing but can be managed by give and take policy. Love him, just love him - again - again and again love him. God will definitely come on your left side. Help will reach from several unknown angles. Don't ever think of divorce.
PJANARDHANA REDDY
(Expert) 30 October 2009
GENERALLY AS ADVOCATE IN THE NOBLE PROFESSION NEVER THINK OF DIVORCE, WE TRY TO JOIN THE COUPLE,THE RAREST AND LAST CHANCE IS DIVORCE TO SAFEGUARD THE INNOCENT VICTIMS OF THE SO CALLED MARRIAGE BOND.
IN UR CASE I WONN'T THINK THE SOLUTION IS WITH DIVORCE, THE THINGS MAY WORST AFTER IT, HENCE FOLLOW OUR LD.FRIENDS SUGGESTIONS.
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 30 October 2009
The opinion of Suresh n janardhana is correct and I also go with them. Try to in your husband and mold his way of thinking and you can definitely do it.
Anish goyal
(Expert) 30 October 2009
Divorce is not the solution to the your problem. I think you r taking things in negative way after hearing of your mother in law. Just think positive that yous husband loves you. All the best
H. S. Thukral
(Expert) 30 October 2009
Big Brother advice of my Ld. friend Suresh is the best solution. They say time is great healer. Donot jump to conclusions in such a short time.
Shashikant V. Patil
(Expert) 30 October 2009
Our Ld friends each said rightly much about your problem. I too suggest the same that you should not think about divorce , do not break the beautiful bond. Try to win his mind towards you. Even you can win over your mother in-law in such a way that they all will think about you. Also you have to find out whether your husband having any extra-marital relations or not. If so, then you can go for the mutual divorce.
Ravi Arora
(Expert) 30 October 2009
Do agree with my Ld. brothers
