Guidance regarding correct procedure
ayesha Rauf
(Querist) 28 May 2017
This query is : Resolved
Hello,
I would like to know what is the legal procedure against someone who has threatened another person by making promises of marriage for ten years. Finally when it was a meeting to see the divorce papers filed, the person is taken to a PS under false pretext and forced to go inside as there is a case of harassment filed. It was a very shocking incident and I would like to know if there is any legal recourse.
dr g balakrishnan
(Expert) 28 May 2017
how one can go on promising for ten long years, obviously one shd take it some false drama playing...if u wait 10 long years would you not become old as to how to continue the love? so i can't understand how the PS without right grounds - harassment cannot continue so long , without police reporting to magistrate for criminal action by his investigation report, so some not correct complaint like , sorry .
dr g balakrishnan
(Expert) 28 May 2017
true crimes can remain alive even for long , but without action how harassment can be not investigated by police is the major question here pls. tks
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 28 May 2017
State clear material facts of the problem if any.
How are you concerned / related with the query?
Guest
(Expert) 28 May 2017
Agree with Mr.RK Goyal
Guest
(Expert) 28 May 2017
State Material Facts
Guest
(Expert) 28 May 2017
Discuss in Detail Please
Guest
(Expert) 28 May 2017
Well Advised Please
Guest
(Expert) 28 May 2017
Nothing to Add More
ayesha Rauf
(Querist) 29 May 2017
Thank you for your response.
This was a true case of being lured and enticed. I'm not going to ask for anything besides what you as professionals in this field will partake from your experiences.
I'll try to be as brief as possible and summarize it so that you can have a better picture and come to your conclusions.
Leaving to go to the US at the age of 17 and not being too familiar with our laws here I want to make certain that I am not leaving myself open to further complications legally.
Milind came back into my life at a time that was relative to my coming back to India for the purpose of my son studying medicine. We were not 18/20 anymore, but the onslaught of phone calls and messages, wanting to be together and spending the rest of our lives was fervently strong and he wasted no time in promising me everything that we had missed in our marriages. He told me he had no relationship with his wife and they had grown apart in the early 90's. He wasted no time in getting in touch with me as soon as he found out I was in Hyd. He now lives in Pune. We talked and decided that we both wanted to get divorced and go thru the process as difficult as it will be but he insisted that we should not waste any more time. "Soon, babe"
This led to the textbook case of complete trust and faith and naiveté on my part. I was foolish is a very mild word. The relationship started getting abusive in every sense and it changed to a toxic one. I was blamed for being selfish, who didn't care about his heart condition, his family and all the people whose life depended on him. I was blamed each time anything negative occurred in his professional life too and was told that i was not letting him live a normal life. Yes, I was physically abused numerous time as and when i insisted that we make things official and give the honor the relationship was promised on. The bitterness and hurt I was never allowed to bring up. He was in a good mood talking about anything else. If i told him that he hurts me when he hits me he would pretend like i was speaking latin or on rare occasions apologized. (In my professional life i have taught women not be victims of abuse).
Anyhow, this sordid affair went on for 5 years and I finally told him that we cannot go on like this and he agreed that we should tell our families. I told my ex and family and the divorce proceedings started. M was upset that i had not discussed it with him first as he said he needed time or his daughters won't get good proposals. I went thru a nightmare is an understatement. He had in those years also got a job in the US and he would tell me that the house he lived in was for me. I never, thank God, ever needed or took money from him, apart from the hotel stays that he did mostly and the food or movies that sometimes I also took care of. I bought him many gifts that he said he liked, colognes, shirts, cufflinks, shoes, ties, books etc. etc. and even though he talked about all kinds of things he liked that i used and wore, he never brought any gifts for me. It was very pointless asking him as i felt embarrassed so i stopped expecting anything. I kept telling myself that those are materialistic things and not important. (He once picked up a scarf for me from an airline in India that is sold in their on flight catalog).
I came back to India to sell some property and told M about the finalization of my divorce. He expressed surprise but then wanted to get together again as in his words, "it was a conscious choice he was making this time"...unfortunately after another 41/2 years of fake promises and continued abuse and begging me not to be impatient and selfish he had finally agreed last Oct. to tell his family. Yes, again i fell for all the emotional drama and lies about his divorce being filed. I insisted for the first time to see a copy of the filing. He said he could show it to me only after it is completed which would take at least 18 months. I persevered and went to Pune to just let me see the copy that it was filed in court and I would go back on the next flight to Hyd. He spent all day in driving around aimlessly and took me for breakfast and then lunch as i had taken an early flight. Towards the evening he said that he would check me into a hotel. This time i refused and said that I'm tired of going to hotels and as soon as he shows me the divorce papers i would leave and he kept saying that he would come to Hyd and show me the papers. I said No.
Next thing i saw that he had pulled into a parking area and we got out of the car and walked inside gates of a university and i thought he had a meeting with a client that he usually did.
Unfortunately, it was a Police station and I saw his nephew was taking his laptop bag and two other friends of his nephew, one was a supposed lawyer, three male policemen and a female policewoman asked me to come inside the station. I stood my ground even though I felt the ground beneath my feet disappearing. I was told that i was harassing M and he is tired of it. I looked at M who was standing next to me and asked him what was going on?? The lawyer and the female police officer tried to pull me into the building but i resisted and really do not know where i got the courage to tell Milind, "you made love to me a few days ago and held me in your arms, you told me that you paid a lawyer Rs. 75K to initiate and file your divorce. I'm here to see the copy of that filing so what are you doing?" The lawyer said that i should come inside the PS and I refused stating that I do not have a lawyer present and I also have my rights. The police officers soon disappeared and the female po said that I should file a case against him after i briefed her about what had been happening. I told M that I wanted to talk to him alone and he was smart enough at that point to see the benefit for him in this. (He signed some paper that I do not know about but saw him do so). He took me to a hotel and promised that he will take care of everyone and i shouldn't worry as he would soon be filing for a separation from his wife and that he would come to Hyd packing his bags to prove to me that he loved me. I was stunned and cannot describe what i went thru for the rest of the night and following days.
He did come again in Dec. and said all the same things, but this time they fell on deaf ears. He managed to be in a very good mood and talked about our house that we would be purchasing in the US and divide the time between families. I asked him when? He said "soon" and this time I replied, NO Milind, this is not happening because we're DONE, you don't have it in you, so don't try to contact me ever again, don't message me, I don't want to ever see your face and will not marry you even if you divorce your wife because I'm forever kicking you out of my life". I was deathly calm and didn't have any emotion either in my voice or my face. I asked him to leave me alone and go back to wherever he wanted.
I would like to know legally what i can do to protect myself from the incident that he says he has really not filed as it was taken back. I do not trust him is an understatement and being alone now I need to make sure there is no recourse from a coward like the one i made the huge mistake of ruining my life for. He is getting away Scott free from the damage and destruction he created with his selfish sadistic ways and i hope he rots in hell as long as he lives and beyond.
Guest
(Expert) 29 May 2017
Instead of emotional story telling, please discuss the real problem with brief description of events in chronological order.
ayesha Rauf
(Querist) 29 May 2017
Sir,
1. You do not need to answer if you are busy.
2. It's entirely voluntary and you are not being forced to read my "emotional" story or ask for chronological events.
3. As far as I know this is a independent forum.
Guest
(Expert) 29 May 2017
If you believe that an independent forum is meant only for wasting time of others by posting emotional stories, rather than the most essential orderly events for advice, you can feel free to write a full thesis of your marital life or love story whatever that be.
However, to be frank, as gathered from the style of your response to my observation, your own ego and arrogance may probably be the cause of your problem.
Anyway, best of luck!
ayesha Rauf
(Querist) 29 May 2017
Gee, thanks...I thought I was on a professional forum... But not only do you have ample time on your hands but you also seem to indulge in other unmentionable professions. Good luck to you and your ever blown up arrogance and lack of manners!!! I don't need your wasteful emotional luck... Best or worse!!!
dr g balakrishnan
(Expert) 29 May 2017
Ayesha - no arrogance but just opinions cannot be classed as arrogance - see Judge Karnan was very arrogant not to follow the Apex ct NBW and arrest and sentence of 6 months, by 7 member bench just he was blowing his trumpet, he is some dalit and he wants to arrest SC Judges and so many funny things - even now ducking his arrests - obviously we in india on the cross roads of constitutional breakdown today - today Modi as PM simply goes on talking big big thinks he achieved nothing except so many rapes on high ways, so many suicides, many agriculturists commit suicide, he never meets aggrieved agriculturists still he is PM, his govt never accounted for 27000 crores of rupees his govt got to CAG.
professional forum is one here they talk on some laws and legislation, law and legislation have no remedy for emotional issues...i sympathize with you - this professional group cannot solve emotional issues like a forum of psychologists pls.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 29 May 2017
Discuss in detail with some senior lawyer, case need detailed study and suggestions as warranted.
dr g balakrishnan
(Expert) 29 May 2017
Ayesha, see , Milind is a clear fraud, he has committed breach of contract and he used as stepne like, he might have misused that wfe too or he had not married her but also playing with her as he did with you ,
You have a relief, filed FIR he defrauded by false promises of marriage ; if he had any cohabitation with you it amounts to rape that you can use against him under penal code r/w cr.p.c sections. if police don't accept your complaint , you can file private complaint to the relevant jurisdictional magistrate where u were enticed can also be place you can file cases against him.
u need to preserve yr air tickets hotel bills and other evidences that could be handy, if you really want to teach him a lesson i think he can go to any extent, most unreliable person, crimes have no limitation law application after all crimes are called state cases,
but you need to be very careful with such kind of persons.
obviously his friends (fiends) could be like him i trust.
these kind of men are many these days but ought to be rounded up, how he had daughters is it your children ? obviously cheated to you - can cause serious problems to him - if the daughters were not yours why you shd care him or if the daughters are your with him naturally he had kidnapped by sweet talks for which you could ave fallen - see i am in USA, if he has a gainful employment, and if he is an NRI in the USA you can lodge complaint on him at the indian embassy at New York or at indian consulate in the state he lives he can be deported for criminal trial .and so on.
I really sympathize with your plight. but yr first post is very vague gut yr detailed post now tells yr issue reasonably well. sorry mdm
always tell yr lawyers everything clearly else none can help u. without lawyer correctly understanding you, how will he able to argue..so scant information leads to misunderstanding pls.
Guest
(Expert) 29 May 2017
Better deserve first before requesting for any help. Commanding persons don't at all deserve charity help.
So, better hire services of some local lawyer to listen to your emotional stories. But mind it, even your paid lawyer won't tolerate your unwarranted commands and arrogance.
