I was married in April 2012. Ours was a love cum arrange marriage. She used to visit her parents on almost every weekends (Sat & Sun) apart from staying there on every festival and her family function days, sometimes for 4 to 5 days. Her all other relatives stay in the same locality as her parents. My mother disliked this very much and used to tell her that if she does not give sufficient time to her in-laws, she will never get the sense of ownership and realize her responsibilities. Her parents also supported her frequent visits, in fact used to call me and my father to let her. If not allowed, she used to start crying, and somehow managed to go. Also, her parents used to interfere at times. It became a daily routine. My parents started feeling very disturbed, even I was finding this annoying.
To avoid, I shifted with her to Delhi/NCR and got a job soon. But, being the only son, I could not run away from a son's responsibilities. After 4 months, I started to convince her to get back to Kolkata, but in vain. However, after 6 months, I decided to get back without her consent. She preferred staying with her uncle (her father's childhood friend). However, she returned after 3 weeks, but left for her parent's place after 1 month in the pretext of job in their locality, although it is a 40 mins journey from our place. She used to visit us on weekends, but not every. It was very irritating. Since Nov'13, she does not stay with us, visited us twice only. After Jan'14, we are no longer in touch. I asked for divorce with mutual consent, but she declined. We also involved a family friend to know her opinion - she will not stay with my mother, I have to stay away from my parents, also she says that she married me only b'coz I was a topper in my MBA class, and now I have started my own business, she is doubtful and regrets her decision to marry me. She will not give me divorce as well.
I consulted a lawyer, who opined me to avoid contesting for divorce, as she might revert with false allegations of DV, dowry and many more. Asked me to persuade her for mutual divorce, which is not willing to.
Kindly advise.