The spouse that has come to matrimonial home with police and advocate and pulled other spouse and in laws to PS and created scene so as to keep other spouse and in laws in Hawalaat can do anything…
To your moves your spouse can take countermoves and you will be there to see and face..
The spouse is asking you to leave your parents and come out to stay with her and live with your children and spouse and not bother for expenses…You have also categorically confirmed that your spouse won’t agree for divorce.
If your children are in your favor then they can state before authority/court that they want to stay with you… If they do so IT shall be a big defeat of OP..
The pertinent point is would they do so!
All instances posted by you do point to cruelty and if you have kept meticulous record of irrefutable evidences these can help to end the wedlock ………….by court of law, if you want IT.
The hazard of retaliation by OP and counsels of OP cannot be ruled out….