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Anonymous   29 November 2015

Need advice regarding divorce / annulment of marriage

Hello All,

I require some guidance / Advise regarding my situation from the experts in this forum. Following is my situation.

I got married about 10 months back. My wife is short tempered and very stubborn and dismissive in nature. we had trouble in our marriage right from the day of marriage. When she gets angry, she throws things at me and also physically hurts me. I have made all possible attempts in saving the marriage but unfortunately she is not co-operative. Recently there was a big fight between us and the parents from both ends have been involved. I have come to a point where I have lost all hopes in the marriage. I have proposed to her that we can go to a Family Councellor to which she is not agreeing.

The marriage has not been consummate till now. I have taken her to a gynecologist and few things were suggested but still we were not able to make love. She also has OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) which is making the relationship harder. She has refused any help from psychologist.

Should I go for Mutual concent divorce or annulment of marriage ? what are the pros or cons of each.



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M Lakshmikanth Arya   29 November 2015

Sir,

 I gone through the Facts posted by you. As to me, try to go for mutual consent in case if she also agree/desire  for the divorce. Annualument is possible only when you are ready to prove all the circumstances by placing relevent proof eiher by meterial or medicle. You can file the divorce by mental crualty ground.  All these cisrumstances proves that mental cruailty. In case, if you failed to file the divorce by mutual consent, then try for Divorce under Mental Crualty. 

Nitish Banka (lawyer)     29 November 2015

file a case on grounds of cruelty.

Cruelty for the purpose of Divorce

 

 

Getting Divorce on Cruelty

The degree of proof needed to prove cruelty and gettingdivorce on grounds of it is far less than in the cases of498a, because in divorce cases preponderance of evidence is more important than proving cruelty than proving it beyond reasonable doubt.

In recent judgement

 

Cruelty for the purpose of Section 13(1)(ia) is to be taken as a behavior by one spouse towards the other which causes reasonable apprehension in the mind of the latter that it is not safe for him or her to continue the matrimonial relationship with the other. Mental cruelty is a state of mind and feeling with one of the spouses due to the behavior or behavioral pattern by the other. Unlike the case of physical cruelty the mental cruelty is difficult to establish by direct evidence. It is necessarily a matter of inference to be drawn from the facts and circumstances of the case. A feeling of anguish, disappointment and frustration in one spouse caused by the conduct of the other can only be appreciated on assessing the attending facts and circumstances in which the two partners of matrimonial life have been living. The inference has to be drawn from the attending facts and circumstances taken cumulatively. In case of mental cruelty it will not be a correct approach to take an instance of misbehavior in isolation and then pose the question whether such behaviour is sufficient by itself to cause mental cruelty. The approach should be to take the cumulative effect of the facts and circumstances emerging from the evidence on record and then draw a fair inference whether the petitioner in the divorce petition has been subjected to mental trauma due to conduct of the other.

cruelty

 

The major thing is that there is a breakdown of marriage because of the conduct and its not possible for husband and wife to live together, there should be a continuous atrocities and it should be apart from the normal wear and tear of marriage.

 
The married life should be assessed as a whole and a few isolated instances over certain period will not amount to cruelty. The ill-conduct must be precedent for a fairly lengthy period where the relationship has deteriorated to an extent that because of the acts and behavior of a spouse, one party finds it extremely difficult to live with the other party no longer may amount to mental cruelty.

 

Making certain statements on the spur of the moment and expressing certain displeasure about the behavior of elders may not be characterized as cruelty. Mere trivial irritations, quarrels, normal wear and tear of married life which happens in day to day life in all families would not be adequate for grant of divorce on this ground.

Sustained unjustifiable and reprehensible conduct affecting physical and mental health of the other spouse may lead to mental cruelty.

Therefore for getting divorce on the ground on this ground, whole marriage is to be assessed by the court, remember that the policy of the court is on reconciliation, one or two incidence does not suffice the grounds of cruelty.

By: Nitish Banka

B.E LLB HONS

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SAINATH DEVALLA (LEGAL CONSULTANT)     30 November 2015

No suggestions for anonmyous authors 

Anonymous   30 November 2015

Thank you for the advise. At this point of time, my wife has verbally agreed for mutual conscent divorce but given her personality, she might make react erratically when the actual day of signing the agreement comes. So I want to know which is the best approach. Mutual consent or annulation of marriage. I also understand annulation of marriage is possible only before 1 year. As far as proof is concerned, I have a doctor's note which mentions that my wife had OCD couple of years back and had taken medications for the same. Also there is prescripttion for drugs which will help in love making. I am for the mutual consent way but want to take all precautions. I also read online stating that the couple need to be living separately for 1 year before applying for divorce under Hindu marriage act. Does that mean I need to wait 1 more year before applying for mutual consent divorce.

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