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Got married 2 years ago, and since initial days there were lots of fights. Everytime i let go thinking she needs time to adjust and gave her support. Problem is she took that as my weakness and she became more and more rough, threatening me with divorce and suicide!!!  In all this she got pregnant tellling her female family members have history of conceving problems so we needs to try conceving and not delay it.

Once her pregnancy is confimred and is past 21 weeks beyond which there can be no medical terminmation of pregnancy she starts becoming even more acidic. Says i earn money, i will stay alone with child and raise the child, If i had not married i would have adopted a child and done the same thing, but now i have my own flesh and own blood, my own biological child. Every 2-3 day she will do some stunt and fight with me. In all this my 70 year old mother would cry and beg her to not to behave like this atleast with she being pregnant. Thne she went to her parents place for delivery, and from there is telling me that she is in 2 minds whether come back to my home after the child is born or not!!! On day of delivery i was just smsed and called, my mother was not told. Her siblings and her parents used to motivate her more against me rather than give right advice or try and solve this. Infact her father is not wanting my wife to come back, becasue he doesnt work and my wife earns 80-90000 per month-he is interested in her income, but sadly my wife is not realizing all this right now. She is blindly getting influneced by them.

Daughter is born and still she is on her major overdrive of lying and creating more and more mistrust. Infact she started her work from her parents home within 15 days of child's birth eventhough i had requested her not to and wait for atleast a month or two. She keeps on saying lets separate says 1 parent is better than 2 fighting parents for a child to grow up properly, say for sake of child why should we kill our individuality by trying to make a bad marriage work etc etc.

Finally i lost it and said lets take a divorce and that was the moment where she took a U TURN. Now says she wants to comeback, says she wants child to have love of both the parents, that she is willing to change-now she has put on a mask of abla nari in all the joint meetings we had with elders and other well wishers, in her smses to me, but now i am decided on divorce. Once a trust is lost its not possible for me to continue with the person for rest of life. I know its all a drama to enter my house again and then harass me and my family.

Now she is staying with her parents since 12 months and her family saying that they will consider MCD, but 1st give her jewellery, money in the bank (cheque book is with me) and other sundry articles back. Me and my family are very sure that once they get their stuff back they wont even take our phone calls. 

My wife has already our 11 month old daughter with her, and she is self employed person earning substantial money in cash, with income tax returns being filed for a minimal income, while i am salaried :(

Am at such a stage of not knowing what to do, whether to wait for them to REALLY agree for filing MCD or file a contested petition right now. Please please please help and tell me what do i do?

 
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Worker

she took a U TURN. Now says she wants to comeback

her family saying that they will consider MCD

 

inlaws are just fooling around.

MCD is always better. 

return her belongings at the time of filing MCD.

seems that, if u file for divorce, she will contest & bring long lasting series of troubles to u .

 
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i dont wanna keep her belongings, but my worry is moment i give her belongings then they wont respond for filing MCD. They are not even taking the draft to read it, which i requested them. 


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Worker

moment i give her belongings then they wont respond for filing MCD

 

wife is earning 90 K pm - not returning - not divorcing

 

Immediately after conceiving, ladies playing such tricks = a very sorry state !!

 
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Teacher

u can give all her stuff back during the mcd proceedings itself..convince them that itl be made all documentary proof where she would recieve all that but she need to comply with the divorce agreement..

Apart from legal issues..id suggest u may give her a chance in light of ur child and for the sake of giving ur marriage another chance..if at all u want to make things work out

..u said she agrees now to be with u alas !..so why not give it a shot once..afterall divorce is an option open every time..but reconciliation and opportunity may not come again and again in life..


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how do i send u a PM? Its not allowing me to do so-says i need to be a freind to send a PM


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just click the button -   Send PM   located at the bottom of profile pic.

 
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Teacher

yeah u need be frnds first to send a pm to anyone here..
 
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Worker

Aishwarya, 

its not required to be friends.


PM can be exchanged by any 2 members - try it !!


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Now she says she wants to come back, but i know her true intention is to get inside my home and from inside my home harass me and my mom with various cases

 
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