Family problem

1.    Suggested to give opportunity to both wife and husband to live in overseas country where the husband is for some time together forgetting past.

2.    Divorce via Court should be avoided. Instead mediation and opportunity to both spouses to live together should be offered by elders in the family.

3.    However keep on retainership a seasoned local advocate's services and watch the situation between them.

I am not an expert.. but what has the girl and her family  been doing for last two and half years? what instantly makes them desperate now to resolve the issues? if she has not been faithful to you till now, think wisely before you get trapped into something.

Dear Sirs, Thanks for your kind reply. It seems that the girl and her family intention is that time being she is interested to live with her husband. But there is no assurance. Their aim the boy's property and his earnings. The boy is also willing to settled at Bagalore. The girl is staying with her family in Tamil Nadu. If, the boy and his family is not accepted the girl and girl's family proposal, they are ready to go for the legal action ( It may through Women Police Station/advocate- already they might have consulted ).  The boy and boy's family fear/afraid that if they allow to live the girl,  is there any assurance to restart her old activities - i.e. making phone calls to her boyfrined/sending emails to others, not behaving propertly,etc. If she continued, there is no assurance from her side. Providing opportunity to both husband and wife through mediation with elders, time being OK.  But, there is no assurance.

Sirs, in order to get evidence, is there any way to track her last telephonic conversation made with her boyfriend?.  Already, her emails showing the proof.

Kindly reply,

Thanking you,

(D.Dakshina Murthy)

Dear Sirs, Thanks for your kind reply. It seems that the girl and her family intention is that time being she is interested to live with her husband. But there is no assurance. Their aim the boy's property and his earnings. The boy is also willing to settled at Bagalore. The girl is staying with her family in Tamil Nadu. If, the boy and his family is not accepted the girl and girl's family proposal, they are ready to go for the legal action ( It may through Women Police Station/advocate- already they might have consulted ).  The boy and boy's family fear/afraid that if they allow to live the girl,  is there any assurance to restart her old activities - i.e. making phone calls to her boyfrined/sending emails to others, not behaving propertly,etc. If she continued, there is no assurance from her side. Providing opportunity to both husband and wife through mediation with elders, time being OK.  But, there is no assurance.

Sirs, in order to get evidence, is there any way to track her last telephonic conversation made with her boyfriend?.  Already, her emails showing the proof.

Kindly reply,

Thanking you,

(D.Dakshina Murthy)

Dear Sirs, Thanks for your kind reply. It seems that the girl and her family intention is that time being she is interested to live with her husband. But there is no assurance. Their aim the boy's property and his earnings. The boy is also willing to settled at Bagalore. The girl is staying with her family in Tamil Nadu. If, the boy and his family is not accepted the girl and girl's family proposal, they are ready to go for the legal action ( It may through Women Police Station/advocate- already they might have consulted ).  The boy and boy's family fear/afraid that if they allow to live the girl,  is there any assurance to restart her old activities - i.e. making phone calls to her boyfrined/sending emails to others, not behaving propertly,etc. If she continued, there is no assurance from her side. Providing opportunity to both husband and wife through mediation with elders, time being OK.  But, there is no assurance.

Sirs, in order to get evidence, is there any way to track her last telephonic conversation made with her boyfriend?.  Already, her emails showing the proof.

Kindly reply,

Thanking you,

(D.Dakshina Murthy)

Engage one Private Detective Agency to reveal the truth of pre-marital life of the Girl and her connection with some one after marriage with proper evidence certified by that detective agency and if possible by the same agency try to collect the present plan of the girl only when you can arrive at a fair decision..

In my opinion the sudden change of of mind by that girl as well as her parents may b due to one of the following reasons:

1)May be because the  boy has started earning a very handsome and attractive salary through foreign employment in addition to his good economic background in the local;

2) The girl's boy friend might have discarded her after utilising her to the maximum extent or will be torturing her to bring more and more money for their reckless and easy/luxurious life style;

3) She realized that her future will be insecured in the hands of her paramuor/boy friend or that she became afraid of the society for the stritures passed on her for her adulterous life;

4)Or the girl has really changed herself realizing her mistakes of the past life and want to live a proper life henceforth;

My suggestion is that since ripe part of the  marital life was ruined by her intentionally, despite being aware of the consequences of her  activities, she cannot be taken for granted for a prolonged happy married life even if given an opportunity, hence, it is better to file a divorce case against her on the grounds of desertion, non cohabitation etc., or if she agrees, go for a mutual consent divorce.  The alimony aspect to be negotiated in the mediation session or through lawyers of both the sides.