@ Ms. manisha,
First of all, if you have started living in a society, which is not as per your mental pr=erception, that can be your own fault, not theirs, as you would not have gone there to live on their invitation.
Secondly, if you don't mind, your descripttttion can make one feel like you are a "Square peg in a round hole" in hat environment where you live, as you have stated, "We live in a local colony, where people are illiterate. They have no sense of living in any society."
Thirdly, don't you think that instead of your society, their own society of like-minded may be sacrosanct for them, as yours society to you and your family. If you have some ideal society for you in mind, they also have society of their own, which may be ideal for them also. So, like your own thinking, they may also be thinking, as if you are misfit in their society.
Your own family members may be accustomed to obey your orders or instructions, but all others, living in the locvality, cannot be expected to follow your instructions. So, if unable to compromise with your position, better shift to some place, where you can find the people of your dream society. That will be an ideal solution for you.