My self Bhavesh I had marriage on 14.11.10 and i want to solve my life problem.rightnow my wife is pregnet with two months and rightnow she is always rawing with me, my mom, my brother, sister and also with my family. We are living in joint family with our uncles. On fifteen days she was gone already at her father's home but one day ago my wife and her sister were came at himatnagar for checkup with doctor and doctor said avoid travelling for better health of my baby and i requested her that for stay with me at my home but she said no. and also then i was take both to at my home and then she had created problem at my home and as per routine life she insult me, my mom, and also my sister. she is not understand our marriage life and for future. now i think that she is not good for me becouse i felt very bad to know that after marriage my life is going to in well. and she is very angry woman and i face problem of her behaviour from one year. and after marriage she have one boyfriend. and she told me that i left him so i trust her. but now she is not with me as relationship husband and wife. so can any one suggest how to solve this problem? i want to divorce from her becouse i know she is not care me and also of my baby .
It is better if you consult a good marriage councellor who would talk with both of you and help you to resolve the situation. Do not think of going legally at this early stage of marriage. Your marriage may be saved with little understanding and mature handling of the situation. Involve elders in the family.
What is Ur and ur wife's education, what u do, do u know that b/f or have proof. What her parent says, what is in ur mind after divorce. When situation go beyond ur conrol then file divorce( 1 yrs after delivery), u should wait as she is pregnant.
theres nothing much grave or severe in your issues that u mentioned..really ive to say this..
..its more about feeling bad and temporary emotional pangs, incase of both of u..
Its necessary that u rule out all the lil differences communicating with each other and dont get all people involved in the mean time..and if not just go to a marriage counselor who can listen to u both and conclude ..
And just dont freak out, the baby is coming in ur life, just be mature and act wisely , at this time she needs ur care and love too..so do away with the troubles its a moment of happiness for u that u are not able to realise being surrounded with thoughts that pull ur spirits down..
In your case it is only the adjustment and misunderstanding problems, and u have mentioned that she is pregnat. and the suggestion is that you try to resolve the issues by yourselves, talk to her and ask whether she is comfortable in joint family or not, I wish no one byheart would feel deviding the family, but since she is pregnant you have provide her necessary comforts and privacy as her moods will not be normal and stress like these may affect the baby. So talk to her and try to accept all the possible demamnds of her, once she becomes a mother her behavious has to change and it will. You have also mention that she is studied 12th class and not more than, so you need inderstand the understanding and maturity levels according to them and according to their age too....... there must not be complexities with that issue, but the point is it take time to understand the intention behind your speech, so u must give her time and try to solve the issues as amicable as possible and be simple in dealing with her, and avoid discussion complicated issues before you really understand each other... try to be friendly rather dominating and give her pace let her deal with her pregnancy first for the future betterment.
Wish you good luck for your early fatherhood.......