I'm a 30 yrs old and married in Mysore on 24-Feb-2010 and currently residing in bangalore. We both are software engineers working in
different reputed MNCs.
This was a Hindu arranged marriage
with the consent of the bride and groom.
Due to my tight work schedule I couldnt spend much time knowing my wife before our marriage.
However, It was quickly evident from her behaviour and talks that we both lack heavily in compatibility.
Right after the marriage the same day in a fit of anger she asked me to file a divorce. Thats just an example of
how angry as a person she is.
I've been experiencing mental torture everyday spending my time after work arguing and fighting with her.
She had a laid few conditions before marriage i.e
a) her widow mother to be allowed to stay with us after wedding.
-- I rented a separate house(leavin my parents) as my current house would have been small to accomodate
b) she should be allowed to choose any profession
-- agreed
c) no dowry
-- not a single rupee as dowry. in fact asked to have a simple ritual at a temple
I agreed to all the above as she seemed to meet both mine and my families expectations in terms of behaviour and talks.
Now, after marriage
-- she is insisting me to let her give money to her elder sister(married)
-- trying to distance me from my parents by not letting me meet my parents
-- dont provide proper cooked food neither her mom or she
-- lot of arguments and unnecessary quarrels
-- she is very very short tempered
-- never lets me focus at my work, she calls me atleast 20-30 times a day inspite of requesting her not to do
My reaction to above
-- i've become assertive and staying with my parents in the same city in a different home
-- identified the root of the problem and asked her mother to leave to her native. They have some property in their native and a home.
-- asked her to manage all household monthly expenses using her salary and the rest of the family financial plannin shall be taken bourne by me.
My above reactions to the problem has only added more fights and arguments in my life.
but am hell bent, and i dont want to stay away from my parents anymore.
I want to take care of them even if it costs my marriage.
My parents have been very good and kind to her which she and her mom too acknowledge.
I've reached to a decision and i dont want to continue with this marriage and suffer everyday.
My wife is not willing to divorce me or for any mutual consent.
Please help me and advice how to get out of this marriage asap.
I'm going mad each day. My life was lot more peaceful before marriage.
my parents too are very sad about my fate.I'm a 30 yrs old and married in Mysore on 24-Feb-2010 and currently residing in bangalore. We both are software engineers working in different reputed MNCs. This was a Hindu arranged marriage with the consent of the bride and groom. Due to my tight work schedule I couldnt spend much time knowing my wife before our marriage. However, It was quickly evident from her behaviour and talks that we both lack heavily in compatibility. Right after the marriage the same day in a fit of anger she asked me to file a divorce. Thats just an example of how angry as a person she is. I've been experiencing mental torture everyday spending my time after work arguing and fighting with her. She had a laid few conditions before marriage i.e a) her widow mother to be allowed to stay with us after wedding. -- I rented a separate house(leavin my parents) as my current house would have been small to accomodate b) she should be allowed to choose any profession -- agreed c) no dowry -- not a single rupee as dowry. in fact asked to have a simple ritual at a temple I agreed to all the above as she seemed to meet both mine and my families expectations in terms of behaviour and talks. Now, after marriage -- she is insisting me to let her give money to her elder sister(married) -- trying to distance me from my parents by not letting me meet my parents -- dont provide proper cooked food neither her mom or she -- lot of arguments and unnecessary quarrels -- never lets me focus at my work, she calls me atleast 20-30 times a day inspite of requesting her not to do My reaction to above -- i've become assertive and staying with my parents in the same city in a different home -- identified the root of the problem and asked her mother to leave to her native. They have some property in their native and a home. -- asked her to manage all household monthly expenses using her salary and the rest of the family financial plannin shall be taken bourne by me. My above reactions to the problem has only added more fights and arguments in my life. but am hell bent, and i dont want to stay away from my parents anymore. I want to take care of them even if it costs my marriage. My parents have been very good and kind to her which she and her mom too acknowledge. I've reached to a decision and i dont want to continue with this marriage and suffer everyday. My wife is not willing to divorce me or for any mutual consent. Please help me and advice how to get out of this marriage asap. I'm going mad each day. My life was lot more peaceful before marriage. my parents too are very sad about my fate.
