Many men/women want to divorce the current spouse and then have a 2nd marriage.
It's understandable if divorce is due to reasons like aduletry and cruelty.
But if it's only due to incompatibility,spouse's inability to have a child,etc,then these are petty reasons.Because these issues can be easily sorted out,if one is willing to.
What's the guarantee that the 2nd partner will turn out to be compatible?
For example: if a man who divorced his infertile wife,to beget a child from second wife may/may not be lucky with the second wife as well.What if she turns out to be cruel later on,or deserts him?
I know one example where a man divorced his wife because he found her " incompatible",even though he could have gone for marriage counselling.
After divorce,he met another girl who gave the impression of being an ideal future partner.However after his remrriage,she dint take care of his child from his 1st marriage,whose custody he had.So now his 2nd marriage also broke.And now he's paying maintenance to both his ex wives,besides being lonely,stressed out and repenting his past decison of divorcing his 1st wife.
It may seem that one will become free and relaxed after a divorce,but it's not like that..One becomes v.unsettled in life.
There's no guarantee also that one will get a partner to remarry.And even if one gets,again there's no guarantee if the second partner will live with you forever.
So isn't it better to go for marriage counselling,get into spirituality,meditation etc so that one gets the wisdom to live happily in his 1st marriage itself?
i have heard many cases where the litigating spouses got into spirituality,chanted mantras & meditated daily,etc and their marriage destiny took a 360 degree turn.
Essence of posted thread # 1: I’m Afraid Counseling Will Change "Who I Am" ?
Reality: Change is a constant part of life. Counseling can help you (generic) to change in positive ways that are consistent with your (generic) goals for life and your relationships.
Information essence gathered from source:
1. Rich, H. & Laks Kravits, H. (2001). The Complete Idiot’s Guide to the Perfect Marriage. Penguin Group: New York.
2. Santa ClaraValley Chapter California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. Marriage and Family Therapy Top 15 Myths about Therapy “What You Don’t Know Could Hurt You…”
"In relationship if one calls “change” leads to a 360 degree turn then DSM – IV anlaysis says it has gone from getting better to bad in evolution of a humane being."
Hence as a pointer suggestion:Join (generic) erstwhile bhajan mandali for a harmonious better tomorrow listening to Anand Richa's Divine Melody............
G. ARAVINTHAN
(Legal Consultant / Solicitor)
23 September 2010
there can be changes for divorce in any marriage and the same cannot be decided by other parties other than spouses
Once a husband is dragged to the court by filing criminal cases against him/his family its is very difficult to continue relationship with her.
I know a positive example where one husbad got rid of her cruel wife by giving Rs 10 Lakhs and he was re-married having a child from his second marriage and now leading a very happy life.
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when i said marriage life took a 360 degree turn,i referred to spirituality,prayers and meditation etc being the cause behind.........................while counselling can make it better
"Now, the people concerned for women's rights must buck up and formulate their opinions and send them to select committee and intervene effectively at this stage. Now the time has come for deep think and quick act."
Ha aha….
Coolly diverting the core issue of IrBM to "butter chicken and karela" ! yeh bhi sahi hai bhaiyo aur devi's ........
IrBM is not about butter chicken and karela (re. earlier citations of various Ld. Courts)
The issue is S. 13 D in the proposed Amendment.
Would you care to educate "women’s rights people" as called upon in above quote for educating about S. 13 D in IrBM ?????
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IRBM will be a boon to warring couples dragging in court cases for many years. in india there is a bad precedent of fault proving divorce. why bring two people on war in court , its so painful wen they have to make true/false allegations against each other to get divorced. why?
its very painful mr prabhakar to level allegations on each other and fight on those lines for several years in court.
irbm will let them part peacefully.
(Guest)
Good/bad marriage is due to one's destiny.It's upto oneself to belive in it.
one needs to be into spirituality to understand the dynamics of karmic law,the universal laws,etc to know how our lives are affected thru these laws...if we start living in accordance with these laws,our destinies will transform,which also includes marriage destiny
.spirituality basically teaches us how to change our aura so that we attract only good circumstances and people in our life..the aura means an energy field that's around our body.it's a very very deep science...india has become so obsessed with the west,that it has never bothered to encourage its studies in educational organisations.
so we keep "struggling",and thus face negativity,frustration,& hopelessness.
To quote an example: if we jump from a building,we can't expect to fly in air and be safe just because we are a good and honest person...so the gravitational law shud cooperate with us....it's better to live according to this law..
(Guest)
only fools wud break marriage on isuue of butter chicken and karela
(Guest)
there are many fools who apply for divorce on petty reasons..
i read in newspaper long back that a man filed for it since his wife wont wear traditional dresses which his parents wanted..and there was another man who filed for it since his wife wont wear western dresses
yet in one case,a divorce was filed since the wife had pimples on face..
the IRBM will be a boon for such immature couples,and a bane for sincere ones...
(Guest)
let fools be fools. we all make our destiny.counselling can help such warring ppl to an extent. law cannot bond warring couples if their minds the coupling has irretrievably broken.
(Guest)
In accordance with worldwide divorce, Indian divorce rate is also increasing manifold, as studied by some social groups it is because of incompatibility arising from intolerance, impatience, greed, lust and desire to dominate. Building a relationship needs utmost effort, but breaking needs a petty reason. Divorce seems to be an appealing way out from incompatible and unhappy marriage. The modern day divorce became fashion due to available alternate choices. But divorce is nothing but a negative change in life as stated by much analysis, where divorced people have shattered family system, low life expectancy, low standards of living, social isolation and the most important is “emotional distress”. Considering these reasons, divorce is painful, and post-divorce life is challenging. Probably many would think that if the first marriage fails, one can always go for another marriage, unfortunately as mentioned in earlier writings, divorce rate from the second marriages is 1.5 fold higher than the first one. In addition to this, separated or divorced couples are hardly believed for their honesty and sincerity. Whether it is man or a woman, second marriages in India are not so respected, and demands fortune.
Having said that the divorce in India is not a gregarious act, what prompts people for divorce is intriguing. Sociologists may say it is hyper-urban style and modernization that is instigating couples for divorce. The truth behind this is mainly anticipated independence- as individuals are seeking for individuality. In majority of the cases the new-independence is due to lack of adjustment in the core-family system and other subtle reasons, which includes being fancy about bossing on, financial freedom etc. In addition, it is not just the rising opportunities and choices, but the legal provisions available to women. Indian divorce shows a steady rise from ~1% in 1991 to ~15% in 2001 and ~20-25% in recent years. Segregation of human rights in the name of men and women with gender-biased laws, and with the implementation of spousal maintenance act, there is a sharp rise in divorce rate. The effect of divorce on individuals is rampant as mentioned earlier; especially men are most affected by divorce than women, because men are subjected to severe economic abuse in the name of maintenance besides social isolation. Women on the other hand are sympathized. Did you know about Tiger Woods's Marriage 'Irretrievably Broken' because of extra relationship with other women and he has to pay hefty price but this is not a solution. He should be punished.Now Elin Nordegren officially divorced on August 23, 2010 and she lives with her kids,she said she had lost her trust in him.She said that our marriage is over and we wish each other the very best for the future.
Yes its true that Good/bad marriage is due to one's destiny.It's upto oneself to belive in it.one needs to be into spirituality to understand the dynamics of karmic law,the universal laws,etc to know how our lives are affected thru these laws...if we start living in accordance with these laws,our destinies will transform,which also includes marriage destiny
This study included 2,127 men and 2,303 women from the British Household Panel Survey (BHPS), a multi-purpose annual interview of more than 10,000 adults in Great Britain. To be included in this study, the participants had to have completed the first nine annual BHPS interviews (1991-2000) and be younger than 65.
The Findings
The researchers found the following links between partnership transitions and mental health:
Enduring first partnerships (marriages or cohabitant relationships) were associated with good mental health.
Partnership splits were associated with poorer mental health.
Cohabiting was more beneficial to men’s mental health, while marriage was more beneficial to women’s.
Remarriage or re-cohabitation improved mental health, as opposed to remaining alone after a partnership split.
Men who had undergone multiple partnership reformations (i.e., remarriages, new cohabitant relationships) had significantly better health than all other men, even men in enduring first partnerships
Multiple partnership transitions (splits and reformations) adversely affected women’s mental health
Women took longer to mentally recover from partnership splits than men
Women-but not men-who remained single all their life had good mental health
Although these results are compelling, it’s important to bear in mind that the mental health questionnaire the researchers used was only a screening instrument for psychological distress. Like most screening tests, these instruments are less accurate than more reliable measures of mental health.
IrBM in HMA and or SMA is not defined and or was not in the wisdom then because marriage in Indian customs and traditions is sacrosanct which you as a Lawyer should be knowing better to educate general readers here instead of cribbing about butter chicken and karela to deviate the whole topic.
In Western Jurisprudence IrBM is 98.99% the in thing and they have already this well placed in varient forms in respective Supreme Courts. It is pervaiding into India family law by feminists and thanks but no thanks to wife centric lawyers collective like a lollipop to a husband and hence it will break more Indian families which is what lawyers colletive want so as to protect their commercial interest.
If you tell me one more time fool then let us play fool to each other and I publically ask you to give me one good thing about proposed S. 13 D IrBM as gender neutral statement point of Law which will benefit a couple undergoing IrBM when already so many civil Laws in existence to safeguard S. 13 D?.
Lawyers like you keep quite in public platform when such proposed amendment talks goes on simple reason being to protect your commrcial interests. (all you and your here are generic) and deviate the topic to corporate law as if family law is charity for lawyers what a stale arguments come lawyers come up with sometimes.
IrBM in HMA and or SMA is not defined and or was not in the wisdom then because of few simple visions; marriage in Indian customs and traditions is sacrosanct which you as a Lawyer should be knowing better to educate general readers here instead of cribbing about butter chicken and karela to deviate the whole topic. Philosophies of a lawyer is also not lesser than few repliers here it seems when the topic in this board is spirtuality and meditation !
In Western Jurisprudence IrBM is 98.99% the in thing and they have already this well placed in variant forms in respective Supreme Courts. It is pervading into India family law by feminists and thanks but no thanks to wife centric lawyers collective like a lollipop to a husband and hence it will break more Indian families which is what lawyers collective want so as to protect their commercial interest.
If you tell me one more time replier(s) are (is) fool then let us play fool to each other and I publicly ask you to give one good thing about proposed S. 13 D IrBM as gender neutral statement point of Law which will benefit a Hindu couple undergoing IrBM when already so many civil Laws in existence to safeguard S. 13 D?. And what about other Personal Law stake holders ?
Lawyers like you keep quite in public platform when such proposed Amendment talks goes on simple reason being to protect your commercial interests. (all you and your here are generic) and deviate the topic to butter chicken and karela and if these eatables were not enough then rocket it to corporate law where money is like statement posps up in family law forum as if family law is charity for family law lawyers what a stale arguments a lawyer come up with sometimes.
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