Not sure if my decision was right, But i am not Happy and want my wife back.
I was married in Oct 2012 with lots of dreams and ambitions. Being from a middle class family I had my responsibilities and duties to perform because of
which i could not continue staying abroad and return back to India to get married and settle down in India.
I was really happy to find my perfect half (Yeah, she was perfect in every sense). Having stayed with her in a different city(Bangalore) away from my
parents(Hyderabad) for almost 8 months. We had a very comfortable life. I earn decent enough to pay my EMI(bought land at my home city), live life
comfortably (In a rented house in Blr) and never compromise on any important luxuries like Movies, Roaming around, decent shopping every week, Occasional
gifting, visit either parents place atleast once in 2 months etc.
As in every married couples life, we did have some arguments like Me not agreeing to call her mom every alternate day (I speak to her once in 2 weeks), Me
not agreeing to take her sister along with us for movies etc. She not agreeing to visit my parents place once a month etc. These are of so minute intensity
that they get solved in some 30 mins and we will be back together laughing.
Life was going good until June 2013 when her mother and 2 younger sisters arrived at our place for a vacation of 1 month. I used to get delicious food every
day and also, i have taken every care of them by taking them to many places on weekends as its their first visit.
Slowly her mom started pressurising me about my plans of buying an apartment, buying a car, settling down in bangalore etc. I was not planning all those as i
already have my EMI running but definitely will like to settle down in our own apartment someday with a Car and other such luxuries. But for that i would
need some time and also some support from my wife in terms of finance if required. Gradually, on each passing day the talks started getting intensified.
One day my wife conveyed her wish to me to study further and complete her MBA which i was very much ready and did some analysis to come up with available
options and colleges for her. But i insisted to complete all her studying ambitions in next 2 years as we need to plan for our family. Her age has already
touched 30 now. There was an argument about why i am looking for kids so early and why did i marry a girl of this age. etc etc. there were few arguments from
her mother as well.
My wife and her mother one day demanded that my wife has a wish to complete her MBA in US and so, i should allow her to travel to US and i should sponsor her
education. I wasnt that comfortable with that idea because of my financial limitations and many personal reasons and so, i denied.
Finally after my mother-in-law left, my wife expressed her desire to go to her home town with her sister and spend some time there.I insisted to come along
her to drop but she pre-booked her tickets along with her sister and informed me just a day before about her travel.
Since then, the calls are never picked up and we never spoke. I waited for few days and then travelled to her place to get her back. As soon as i entered her
house i was welcomed with an argument involving my parents etc. I was angry too and returned back to my place in Hyderabad. I spoke with my parents and asked
my father to visit there and get my wife back. When my father was there they spoke in a harsh tone and my wife requested some time before she comes back.
2 months passed by with me sending SMS to her every couple of hours, calls almost 3 to 4 times a day and emails every day. Not only me but my Mom, Dad, and
sister also tried contactng them but they never responded.
I tried to contact them in every possible way, her parents, her relatives, friends, colleagues, my friends etc. FInally once i went to her place again to
apologise for any of my mistake and get her back. They didnot even care to open the door and abused me. They demanded me to come along with my parents to
talk further.
After a month or so, i convinced my parents and we all travelled together to her place to talk. it was pre-informed to them by SMS abt our travel.
Almost 15-20 ppl were present at her place for the discussion. As expected, the discussions were harsh and they came up to conclude that i am impotent and
were ready with Mutual divorce docs prepared by some lawyer for me to sign along with some allimony (Almost 20 Lakhs).
We denied the allegations and escaped back to our place. We took some time for things to cool down a bit before talking further. In the mean time. I
approached 2 famous hospitals to get my Potency check done and was ready with reports which were more than normal. I still requested my wife by Emails to
think abt such decisions as it is not going to help anyone.
After around 2 weeks, my parents started getting threatening calls from her mother and uncles that they would file some Criminal cases etc against me and my
family if i didnot sign the divorce papers in next 2 weeks. This started troubling me as i work in private firm, my father is govt employee. I immediately
spoke with my manager and other friends to know the impact if i am arrested or any FIR is filed against me. Everyone advised me to resolve this and get out
of this mess.
FInally with the help of my reports and other family members my parents and me are forced to sign the documents and they demanded some 5 lakhs as allimony
which we agreed to pay.
As a last try, Before i was signing the papers, i requested my wife again if she can re-think and wait for just 6 more months and if she still insists then
we can go ahead and sign. she and her mother were too stubborn to accept that. We got divorced on Nov 17th.
But, i still cannot get out of those thoughts as i had all my dreams involving her. I dream of her every day and sometimes suddenly wake up in sleep to
confirm if all that happened was a dream and my wife is with me.
But NO. She is gone, but what hurts me is. there is no reason for our split. Its just unexpected.
I am still trying my best to find appropriate time that i can meet her and convince her. Not sure if i am doing right.
