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ASAP (NA)     28 January 2013

Need your guidance in a divorce matter.

Hi – I need your guidance in a divorce matter.

 

I am a divorcee and for the purpose of resettling have started interacting with some people. One of the very good matches is getting his divorce through in Bombay.

He is a qualified individual settled in the US whereas his wife is not so educated and after 10 years of marriage asked for a divorce because she is in a relationship with someone else. She has moved back to Bombay and is living-in with her boyfriend. The 7 year old boy from the marriage is staying with his father (they have mutually agreed that the wife does not want the custody as she does not have a very strong financial status).

Although they recently filed for mutual consent, a lawyer advised my friend that he should file a contested divorce on the basis of adultery. He has some evidences which can prove a relationship outside the marriage. Based on this, he has now presssed charges against her and filed for a contested divorce therein.

Few points and questions are:

·         If they had gone for a mutual consent and an alimony is paid to the wife (custody of boy with father) can the wife come back/harass at any later point in future for more money etc.?

·         If they go for contested divorce and seeing that the wife’s financial status is not at all good, what could be the possible next steps?

·         What could be the minimum and maximum time that such a case could go on (she has a measly job and lives with her boyfriend, I assume financial status is not good and she needs money).

·         In such a case, should I wait for this person with the hope that all of this could be wrapped up in the coming year or 18 months?

 

Please confirm to me.

 

Many thanks



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ajay sethi (lawyer)     28 January 2013

dont make any commitment unless divorce goesthrough . divorce if contested can go on for years . only if it is by mutual consent can it be decided in a year


(Guest)

Congratulations there, you found your potential match.

 

But dont jump as yet.  Let the man get the divorce, and be through all of it, maintenance, lumpsupm settlement etc.

 

And onlyh after everything is finished legally, then can you go ahead with what you have thought.

Now specific reply to this particular question

"  If they had gone for a mutual consent and an alimony is paid to the wife (custody of boy with father) can the wife come back/harass at any later point in future for more money etc.?"

 

Can wife come back harras at any later point, that cannot be predicted as such.  With laws like this, anything could happen.  Custody of boy, with the intent of getting more money etc any thing can happen.  But am not scaring you, but just putting in a word of caution.

 

Eitherways be prepared for anything.  All the best.

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Chetan Joshi (Advisory/Advocacy)     28 January 2013

I dont understand preference for contested divorce over a mutual consent...Wait!! If you think he is worth waiting for....

 

 

Regards

Chetan(dot)7679(at)gmail(dot)com

SRISHAILA.DHARANI (Advocate&consultant)     28 January 2013

It is better to go for mutual consent divorce proceedings, it will be completed within shorter period of 8 - 10 months[including the cooling period of 6 months]

Inthe mutual consent proceedings both have to file a compromise petition and in that whatever the safty precaustions have to be taken , it has to be taken including allimoney,custody,share in the property etc tec.

Srishaila,advocate,bangalore,9741425514,sdharani120@gmail.com

ASAP (NA)     28 January 2013

Thank you for this suggestion. However, it was advised that the lady is a cheat if a mutual consent is filed (and her extra marital affairs are ignored) she may start harrasing at a later point in time for more money etc. however, if at this point, there is a contest, then there may be no basis for her to come back.

She currently does not have a good financial standing and therefore may concede and once a settlement is agrred upon may not come back for any other gains/harrassment.

Please could you let me know if this understanding is right and if we have been guided correctly?

If not, then now that charges are pressed against her, what are the chances of this getting wrapped up in the next year, if she wants an out-of court settlement?

 

ASAP (NA)     28 January 2013

HI Chetan- i do believe he is worth the wait, however i also want to be realistic . What is the best bet?

SRISHAILA.DHARANI (Advocate&consultant)     28 January 2013

Go for mutual consent divorce and have a compromise petition involving all safety measures regarding allimony,custody etc etc. Lateran she cant not demand, as she will be bound by the compromise petition and it will be having judicious approval.

This is the best way and it will be faster when compared to contested one

ASAP (NA)     29 January 2013

Thank you for the advise.

I also want to know, based on the information above (it was a love marriage 10 years back) and a fairly comfortable marriage, can she file for 498a? or any other case against  this person?

Basically, the risks?

 

Msk-need -nuetral- laws (self)     29 January 2013

ASAP,

When you file MCD, laweyrs( obviously good one) will put all conditions in the pettition to an extent that later wife will have no means to come back and claim any material or monetary claims once the second session is passed in MCD. Please find tajobs posts which describes when to pay maintenace and what need to be  in MCD. Once MCD is accepted and second session is over, legally, she cannot file 498a or DV as a wife, but however if she is devil, she can use other legal sections to harrass.

sri (ceo)     29 January 2013

you move out or live in... unless the slate is clear...

divorce is not easy if huge financial assets are involved...

all possibilities, combinations possible with intelligent lawyers helping even an idiot...

be ware...

 

SRISHAILA.DHARANI (Advocate&consultant)     29 January 2013

To file a case under section 498a , the marriage need not be loved one or arranged one.

If a wife wants to harrass the husband , then she will file case under 498a or DV act, 125 crpc matainence etc etc.

But once case decides on MCD basis and that too wihich consists of all the safty measures, including filing of 498a/DV/Maintence etc etc whatevert the legal cases, then she canot file any types of cases.


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