Hi to everyone on the post including the advicer.
This post is done by my husband and also to defame me.
Yes,my marriage was a love marriage.
I would like to clear this state of mind and allegation put by my husband: "Since soon after the wedding I have been subjected to extreme cruelty at the hands of my wife. She has been constantly abusing me, making false accusations, finding reasons to argue and create fights in the family. She repeatedly started forcing me and fighting with me to shift out my parental home"
I would like to clear this by saying:
No, I am not abusive and till date, I am not. IF anyone instigate me to the extent then yes I had blasted that too after three years of my marriage, after going through lot of mental torture and physical torture at the hand of my husband.
"kindly note,, it is"I" who was subject to extreme crutelity at the hands of my husband and his family especially my father in law ,mother inlaw and brotherinlaw and my dear husband Mr. Gaurav Dennison."
As per indian society, I tried to supress my feeling till now but when it comes to defame me that too online.. I cannot buy this.
This was the love marriage and till date I am amending it in everyway.
He strangled my neck for my parentz property. He even starved me at his parentz by not buying anything. His Brother even pushed my Dad who is half paralysed and threatened him.
If wishes are not fulfilled, he create havoc, shout at me to the extent that I had been suffering from severe headache because of emotional pain and the pain that i got through from the hit.
Wounds are healed and cannot take pictures. My medical document and my office people and my manager are the proof of it.
He has preplanned everything to an extent that he even recorded my telephonic conversation to show that I am highly abusive and quarrelsome.
Tell me in this society, how many married couple fights and they record the day to day conversation or even a fight. Hardly anyone.. But he did.Just to the show the world i am cruel..whereas it is a complete lie.
=> A girl get seperated from her parental house in the hope that she will get the same affection and love in the matrimonial house. But the story is different. My marriage can be termed as love marriage but today if i go back and recap the pain, I think this marriage which was done by dupe and for money and not for love.
=> Third day of my marriage, I had been a victim of their cruelity. However I taken it and thought and I wil overcome it. But not.. After three month of marriage... I came to know he has to loan of 5 lakhs and other loans. He and his dad has given my number to the collection people to harrass me. What will you call this torture as.....I still carried since it was a love marriage and i loved him truely. Passing out was not easy.
=> Since the torture and mental agony that i received from my matrimonial house.. I moved to a rented house but opted to stay nearby. Since I dont have any mode of transport if anything happens to my parentz. I stayed nearby so that I can be easily assessible to both families. (Please note both families even after the torture.)
=> To talk about vacations.. I used to spend on vacation and I have a proof to show in my bank statement regarding the transaction. My husband does spend but spend stingly towards to our home. God knows where his money goes.!!!!!
=> Good news, Any expectant female is full of joy when she got to know about it.. I was, but not stayed for long. They killed my world from me.
I am recalling now about the doctor words why she was saying few lines to me that time... which was very odd to me.
Howcome, I gone through this.
For this operation as well, I have to shell money as my husband did not spend on the surgery.. Short of 12 thousand bucks.. ultimately asked his parentz for that shortage.. that is the only help I got from that family.
=> I was the person who was going through this pain in the hospital bed and with injections....medications. etc..I was the one who was taking the pain.
=> Please note.. I mentioned headache in the previous point ,,on every followup or admission i alwayz mention my history..but my husband states in his petition that he was unaware of it.. and was moved to know about my illness.. and I hided from him... Absolutely wrong allegation!!!!
=> Then april 2011.. he went to pune and bangalore for training...he made this has a habit.. every month he goes showing false email about the trip along with the pnr..number from his laptop.... he even named his manager in this case. Tell me i also work in a BPO industry.. I know what a man and women relationship is and to what extent,. I am not insane not to understand that .
=> Even i know what z the limitation about a women and man relation before putting such allegation. I dont put allegation without any proof and he very well knows this.
=> Never taken responsiblity in meeting a simplest need of our house.
=> I was at shock to know that he never went for a training. Office people never made such visit. I was a fool to believe each and every word of it. I alway wanted to trust him honestly... but never made till date. A marriage is stored on the basis of trust.. loyality and faithfulness towards each other.
=>I have a few questions to ask everyone.
=> They treated me badly for dowry and my parentz property..what should i do..I supressed it which was my fault and i admit that....since i was sufferer... but when it overflows the bottleneck I have to take a steps which i did by filing under 498// and not admist divorce.
=> Given continuous mental torture and physical abuse. He is rebellious and abusive in nature.. but still calmed by myself.. What should i do now for the mental torture given by him on material wants such as money,.if not given.. he shout and hit. Where should i go?
=> For taking small world from me..what should i do.?
=> Yes, for having extra marital affair what should i do. ?
=> What should i do if things are preplanned in such a ways that you dont have time to collect proof.?
=> His job was taken because of his deeds. I got that information from his office when I met his HR on two occasion....one occasion when he left me alone for the first time that too without any fight or arguments and on the second occasion when in his summon... he stated about his job...
=> What should i do if a wife is searching for a husband for 5-8 days without eating anythings and searching him on his parentz house.. where everyone was underground..... I can vouch on that because his vehicles was there. .... and they moved all of a sudden and a ticket his father showed....
Went seeking help from my inlaws and they abruptly says that he was not there with them during those days. Whereas my husband says in front of Additional SHO that I was with them on those days. Who is true ?
=> Asking my father inlaw to come with me if he also does not know where his son is. ....Even after the compromise done by police.. he asked for one day just to file a case against me.. Please note this...I mentioned one day to file a case...since i got a register summon by court and the date mentioned there. The date has been malified in that form as well.
=> He filed divorce on the basis that I have TB. I am a TB is dukaan. he cannot consumate this marriage because he cannot take responsiblity and that I have medical problems.. such a TB. A husband who cannot solemenzied one of the marriage vow. Think about the case...if in my place ..he is going through this...will i leave and go..because i cannot take responsibility. Live example is my mother.. even if my father is paralysed and my a mom a retired...did she left her....is she not taking care of him.. That is what I called a supportive family. They do fight.. I am not saying that they dont fight.... In every indian society or any married family...these small and big fight happen and they do settle down after course of time.....please note..in my few minutes .....it get sorted out..because they love each other ...and i can vow that after i opened my eyes..with all this pain i gone through..there friends can vouch on that...
=> What about the abusive words he has used to which I dont have recorded copy or he has not recorded that conversation and instigated me.
=> what should i do when he write explicit emails to his friends wife...?What words should i use..What more proof...
=> Please suggest what to do as I want to save this marriage. I want to give this marriage a second revival again even after so much of torture from them.. Yes, a second revival....because I am not brought up in this environment to crush this marriage.
=> If i dont give divorce then what happen.. he will get divorce and how. and upon going through the above agony.....
Looking forward to your reply.
