How to avoid child support and alimony

First question which court allowed the spousal and child support, secondly if the wife not caring or providing for child support seek complete physical custody of child if you are being exclusively burdened for it. For detailed case discussion you can contact me after checking my profile in this forum. vijaymahajan5758@gmail.com

Weschester County Supreme Court located in White Plains, New York, USA. It is impossible to get full physical custody for fathers unless mother does some extremely horrendous to the child. It is very difficult to prove she is a neglectful mother. I have video recordings where child is crying and going into tantrum when mother comes to pick him up from me, but court says "all children cry during exchanges". My son is only 4 years old and court is not going to weigh in his statement.

it is better to compromise or divorce...9816374011

I am already divorced with joint custody. But court adjudged for me to pay child support to the mother until the child is emancipated or turns 21 and mother can spend the money at her sole discretion with no accountability.

are you paying any spousal maintenance also or you are paying only for the child

you can consider filing a petition for reduction in monthly amount based on change of circumstances OR if you have documents which prove that your ex lied / exaggerated the expenses before the court which led to award of higher amount by the court - because you have stated that she is stashing all the money in bank account. You are having joint custody of child. You can also consider possibility of modification in order to the effect that you yourself will pay directly for the school fee, extra curricular activities, medical attention etc. to the concerned offices/authorities