Need suggestion before filing for divorce on ground of impot

@ sufferer:
nice descriptttive educative write-up.
writer of this post mention somewhere tht she is also willing to give this test alongwith his hubby.
i hear somewhere abt its presence in women also. bt not sure.
so m grateful if u put some light tht this is also prevailed in women also.

@  A sufferer....
it means any woman can allege IMPOTENCY on her hubby. like to knw does any responsibility on her side to  prove whether her allegation is true or false.

@sufferer 

Thanks for your reply, it was really informative.

First I want to tell that I do not want to go back to my husband becoz from the day we got married he has treated me very badly, he used to simply not talk to me and used to only talk when he wanted to scold me. He had no respect for women and used to treat his mother and sister also in the same way. I had tried to ask reason for this behaviour but he used to always make petty matters big and tell it as reason for not speaking.  I don't know y he got married and can only tell he did becoz of social and peer pressure. And let me tell you he has personally not messaged me or called me even once to go back to him. Only when we met psychiatrist after putting blame on me for everything he told me to come back by keeping conditions also.

So no relationship was also one of the factors in me coming out of this marriage and not the main reason, but by filing divorce having this reason is the fastest way in which I can get divorce, so am going for it. As he used to tell a lot of lies I suspected that he might take drugs to prove that he might not be impotent. I just wanted to clarify if this was possible but I don't know whether he took any drugs and have not seen him take any.

Anyway the info you have posted about impotency gives a lot of ans to my questions. Thanks

Apporva, my case is same as yours. He never used to talk to me or entertain me. But he used to talk to his colleague who is a lady very nicely and intimately. He is good with his sister and relatives too. I used to think and cry thinking about whats wrong with me.

I am surprised by the original post.Infact my case was exactly the same(almost 85% it matched every situation described here) except that my wife used to behave the same as mentioned here and we never went for honeymoon either before she deserted to her parents place.

https://www.lawyersclubindia.com/forum/Unconsummated-marriage-84573.asp#.UffnnNJvDh2

Clearly she confuses on that  'Drug' part but what i infer is she is probably referring to Viagra or other drugs for ED used at times or even during tests, wherein the husband could need it to prove his potency....

Hi,

I am not a lawyer but my case is similar.My wife is impotent.

I am filing divorce petitin under section12

when i requested her for the medical test(TSH,FSH,LH,Androzene,ultra) IN GOVT hospital she refused to come and take the test.

Better if he agrees fo ra medical test u can do the list of belwo test in government hospital and dont forgett o take the seal and certify of the doctor.You can a file a divorce pettion based on this and court will send this person to the medical test..if he is impotent obviously he will skip the test(no one dare to take test)

So you can file a case under 420,406,120B(non bailable sections).This you can file with medical prooof(private or govt)..

List of tests for Men

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Investigations and tests to diagnose erectile dysfunction

Duplex ultrasound: It is used to evaluate blood flow, venous leaks, signs of atherosclerosis, and scarring or calcification of erectile tissue. By injecting prostaglandin, a stimulator produced in the body, an erection occurs. Then an ultrasound is used to see the vascular dilation and measure penile blood pressure. All the measurements are compared with flaccid penile state measurements.

Penile nerve function tests: These tests are used to determine if there is sufficient nerve sensation in the penis. The tests include bulbocavernous response. While squeezing the glans of the penis, contraction will be seen in the anus if the nerve functions are normal. Using this procedure, the doctor will examine if there is a delay in the two responses and will accordingly make some interpretations. Particular nerve tests are performed on patients with suspected nerve damage due to diabetes or other nerve disorders.

Nocturnal penile tumescence test: Normally a man has five to six erections while sleeping when in the rapid eye movement (REM) sleep phase. The absence of erection indicates a problem with nerve function or blood supply to the penis. Using the snap gauge and strain gauge technique, penile rigidity and circumference during nocturnal erection are measured and interpreted.

Penile biothesiometry test: Using electromagnetic vibration, sensitivity and nerve function in the glans and shaft of the penis are evaluated and interpreted. A decreased feeling of vibration indicates nerve damage in the pelvic region, leading to impotence.

Penile angiogram test: It is performed to visualise the blood circulation inside the penis. This test also has value in the treatment of priaprism.

Dynamic infusion cavernosometry test: Fluid is injected into the penis in this test at a known volume and pressure and the results are interpreted. Prostaglandins have value in the procedure of this test.

Corpus cavernosometry test: This test is based on complex fluid dynamics. Test fluid is injected into the penis and later, using some calculations of flow dynamics, venous leakage is worked out.

Digital subtraction angiography test: Digital images are taken in a dark room and the blood vessels are studied using this technique.

Magnetic resonance angiography test: It works on the principles of magnetic field and generally produces high quality and detailed images which are very helpful for a clinician. Sometimes a contrast medium can also be used to enhance the images.

Also SEMEN Analysis.

I am sure your husband is not impotent. Infact he does not love you a very simple answer.

I will suggest , try to find a root cause from his past life before marriage .

What to do ? talk to his family / friends and him directly in a ppolite manner .

If things still did not turned well then A) taslk to him and convince him for mutual divorce. B) Stay with him and may be with passage of time things will become ok , but you have to show lot of affection and love and care for him for a very long time , without expecting any output. C) just leave him , and moveon in life , dont get involve in any kind of civil/criminal cases.

i will say option A is best.

Good reply by 498A, sometimes I feel when husband doesnot love wife, thats the imortant factor for not doing SE*. But if he doesnot love he should not marry her in the first place and ruin her life.

@schpvred86

When its not a love marriage but an arranged marriage, it takes time for the newly married couple to fall in love and understand each other for mutual good. So its better to give him space instead of falling apart for physical reasons. It more to do with feelings. If you would have understood this simple fact, you should not have been roaming in this forum.

@Author

Go for marriage counselling. Dont get into litigations so early in your marriage. Then its upto you.

Stalker,

basic interest and attraction should be there before marrying any person otherwise guy should be man enough to stand up and say no to the marriage instead of marrying under force and denying a person later. rejection and separation are the worst things in life. Noone can bear this.

Seems you are also roaming more than me in the forum. I am just a new member.

to all readers & seniors.
it is like who is first born/arrive on earth, HEN or EGG ?

MAN or FEMALE who denies to hv ? who is culprit ? hw it is proved ?

GOD put something in mind of MEN so tht he believe blindly whatever EVE say or direct.

for e.g. EVE say or deny indirectly in this way " wait for such period and nt before ". during this period if something untoward dispute happen, thn false blame of IMPOTENCE is handy with EVE.

Never think that a man is wrong especially when a woman raises a complaint against him. There are both sides to a story.

hope learned readers knw all this.  so no need to specify.

As i mentioned earlier he does not love you . Dont think that he ruin her life ...It might be girl who is not up to his mark and may be he tried internally to be good with you but failed in his efforts because she are not up to his standards. Or may be his expecation from wife is different and what he was getting from her was different ....May be some other reasons also ...anyways bottom line is same the 3 options i suggested earlier....

Hi 498A, exactly its the same version of my husband. Now my question is why doesn't the husband make effort to changer her or tune her into his standards instead of sitting and ignoring with cold behavior. Is divorce the only way? In my case husband wants divorce.

Even i am going through the same trauma of not able to find the exact reason 

1)Either the spouse had a love affair before

2)Spouse is physicall ill or Mentally ill

3)Spouse expectations are not matched and is forced into the relation just because of family pressure

I  would agree with both stalker  and schpvred86 here.In an arranged marriage it would take a while for people to get along at the same time some basic interest and attraction should also be there....