I am agree with all your 8 points as i am facing all first 7 problems in my life due to divorce case . Here i am expalining the same.
1) When i had done marraige disscussed frankly with my husband about my expectations and health etc, as we all know that if the marriage will become fail, then in court cases women could not get proper justice, maintence, stridhan etc. They have to wait years and years to gt justice and right.
2) During our dispute my Husband told me that i will have to accept his all bad habits, otherwise will have to wait years years in court for justice. As wife i will have to pay the big cost. So, i feel that due to IPC 498, now some men are doing mental harrassment, which becomes difficult for women to prove
3) After marraige i had resigned from my job and came to city of my Husband . Then after dispute i came back to maternal home, and tried for job. But i could not get good job in pvt Ltd company due to my legal matter as it requires leaves . So, i have only option to accept simple job and l to eave other benifits.
3) Before marraige i was doing job, but i was staying with parents and they were maintaining me. But now my husband is earning appro.1 lac pm, but court had passed order for Rs. 5000 pm, which is aslo my husband is not depositing in court regulary or in advance. To recover it also i have to spend 1 year, but till appro.8 month amount is due.
4) I am staying in town of one of the state of India and my husband is staying matropolitan city of other state and had filed Divorce petition. I had attended courts regulary for 2 years, and my relative had accomodate me in their home every month for 1 /2 days, as i had no job, done legal expenses myself and stridhan was in custody of my Husband. But court had not given me accomodation expenses as i could not submitt Hotel bills. But if there is no clear law to pay the travelling expenses at actual, How i can spend money in advance without any finacial support ? In India courts always says that to get travelling expenses and Rent women will have to submitt bills and rent receipt first/in advance . But there is no any essurance that court will pay the same at actaul. There is no any guarantee in law, so is the women will bear that loss?
5) All my stridhan, from which mostly given by my parents in custody of my husband. From the first day of court i am saying to the court and advocates that as per Hindu customs and laws stridhan should be given back to the wife first. Then appro. 25% of husband's income should be given to wife immedialty, But since last 3 years stridhan is in custoday of my husband and court had given me 5% maintence of My Husands income, after 3 years. So, women like me how can maintain herselves? Here i want to point out that i found i am not alone there are thousands of court case where women are waiting for stridhan and proper maintence since years and years.
7) If Govt /court is not in position to give right to the women like me then after divorce or saparation how women can make demand from her brothers/parents for their right as daugher? If i will do sattlement without any amount is my brother or father will not raise question why i had not given fight against my Husband?
8) Before marraige both men and women knows very well about finacial condition of each other . So, Rich men also not can say that his wife had done marraige for money or property. If any men says the same i will say he dont have sense.
9) when my marraige was fixed all relatives of both sides were present . when disput raised no one was came to solve or discuss the dispute.
10) After coming back to maternal home, due to my social relations, everybody asking me about my family problem and As they know me very well and i am hearing bad opinion from my relatives, friends or society about my husband, i feel very bad and shame for my husband.
11) Like the other divorcee women, it is not easy for me to do remarriage. Also, due to legal matter i feel mentally very tired, and lost my confidence.
12) Advocates are not taking proper interest . Most of the advocates are not interested in case and could not understand feelings of women . They are mostly interested in fees only, and in India compare to men women are always financially weak. So, Husbands can give big offers to advocates for case.
13) In this new era also till the condition of divorcee women is not good. They have to face bad experices in there surrounding and workplaces.
14) I was working before the marraige and was staying in home of father. But during the case court say to submitt the receipt of rent and not given be Hose rent to me . So, now again i have to stay with parents. So, is it not duty of my husband to give me Home ?
I am very strong lady and giving big foight against our law and system, however i have to face all this situation, so how the women will come in court to get justice if law itself is only "for the men, of the men and by the men"
Is there any approved sensors awailable of divoce/maintence cases in india ?