geeta (chief accountant) 28 April 2011

As the dream of most parents I had acquired a degree in Software Engineering and joined a company based in USA, the land of braves and opportunity. When I arrived in the USA, it was as if a dream had come true.

Here at last I was in the place where I want to be. I decided I would be staying in this country for about Five years in which time I would have earned enough money to settle down in India.

My father was a government employee and after his retirement, the only asset he could acquire was a decent one bedroom flat.

I wanted to do some thing more than him. I started feeling homesick and lonely as the time passed. I used to call home and speak to my parents every week using cheap international phone cards. Two years passed, two years of Burgers at McDonald's and pizzas and discos and 2 years watching the foreign exchange rate getting happy whenever the Rupee value went down.

Finally I decided to get married. Told my parents that I have only 10 days of holidays and everything must be done within these 10 days. I got my ticket booked in the cheapest flight. Was jubilant and was actually enjoying hopping for gifts for all my friends back home. If I miss anyone then there will be talks. After reaching home I spent home one week going through

all the photographs of girls and as the time was getting shorter I was forced to select one candidate.

In-laws told me, to my surprise, that I would have to get married in 2-3 days, as I will not get anymore holidays. After the marriage, it was time to return to USA, after giving some money to my parents and telling the neighbors to look after

them, we returned to USA.

My wife enjoyed this country for about two months and then she started feeling lonely. The frequency of calling India increased to twice in a week sometimes 3 times a week. Our savings started diminishing.

After two more years we started to have kids. Two lovely kids, a boy and a girl, were gifted to us by the almighty. Every time I spoke to my parents, they asked me to come to India so that they can see their grand-children.

Every year I decide to go to Indiaâ€¦ But part work part monetary conditions prevented it. Years went by and visiting India was a distant dream. Then suddenly one day I got a message that my parents were seriously sick. I tried but I couldn't get any holidays and thus could not go to India ... The

next message I got was my parents had passed away and as there was no one to do the last rights the society members had done whatever they could. I was depressed. My parents had passed away without seeing their grand children.

After couple more years passed away, much to my children's dislike and my wife's joy we returned to India to settle down.

I started to look for a suitable property, but to my dismay my savings were short and the property prices had gone up during all these years. I had to return to the USA.

My wife refused to come back with me and my children refused to stay in India. My 2 children and I returned to US after promising my wife I would be back for good after two years.

Time passed by, my daughter decided to get married to an American and my son was happy living in USA... I decided that had enough and wound-up every thing and returned to India... I had just enough money to buy a decent 02 bedroom flat in a well-developed locality.

Now I am 60 years old and the only time I go out of the flat is for the routine visit to the nearby temple. My faithful wife has also left me and gone to the holy abode.

Sometimes

I wondered was it worth all this?

My father, even after staying in India,

Had a house to his name and I too have

the same nothing more.

I lost my parents and children for just ONE EXTRA BEDROOM.

Looking out from the window I see a lot of children dancing.

This damned cable TV has spoiled our new generation and these children are losing their values and culture because of it.

I get occasional cards from my children asking I am alright.

Well at least they remember me.

Now perhaps after I die it will be the neighbors again who will be performing my last rights, God Bless them.

But the question still remains 'was all this worth it?'

I am still searching for an answer.................!!!

START THINKING

IS IT JUST FOR ONE EXTRA BEDROOM???

LIFE IS BEYOND THIS ..DON'T JUST LEAVE YOUR LIFE ..
START LIVING IT .
LIVE IT AS YOU WANT IT TO BE

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6 Replies

Manoj kumar sahu (student) 28 April 2011

True kind of story..

Ravikant Soni (LAWYER IN JAIPUR) 28 April 2011

ufffff

horrible

VictimOfBiasLaw (Professional) 28 April 2011

really pinfull , after all life is emptyness.....

i am also software engineer from very middle class family. when i started earning good salary i had same dream for marriage. my parents are 70+ and i am staying away from them. i m only son of my parents.
i thought let me stay alone for some years so that i can save enough money and can have good home so that after marriage we will stay togather at the place where i was working.
i had lot of dream to give happyness to my parents and stay to gather during their old age.

i married and just after 1 month i realised that my wife and in-laws are only interested in my money and want to seperate myself from my parents, they did demand money and threaten my parents also. and i was shoked and feel that my dream and future are distroy and feel why i marry. but i decided not to give up and learn lession to wife and inlaws.

After 1 year of marriage i have to go to abroad and during that time my wife ask money. i firmly denied and suddenly cut all my contacts with her. this time i decided to stop this relation at any cost...
Earlier my parents were imotional about my marriage/social life and also about my carrier as after lot of hard working and struggle of my parents i reach at this position. so they were ready to stay away from me and my wife i know that it was very pinful for them but for my marriage life and because i can enjoy my carrier and merriage life they intentionally stay away and avoid to call me ( before marriage they used to call me daily.)
Everybody in sociaty , frient , relatives were praise my carrier and marriage life. but i was not happy , i had good salary , good social status , but decided not to go ahead on this path and stop all kind of relation to my wife.

Finally they filed false/fabricated DV case on me and my parents. It was very painful as in society everybody was advising me to compromise and also law are very bias which can distroy my carrier but we were firm.
As i am abroad my parents regularly attend court but i never appear in court since from last 1.5 years. now my position in DV case is strong.
but my lawyer advice me not to come india till it finish.
Now i daily contact to my parents ,
everybody in my relatives and society blaiming me and telling i m mad to give up such a good marriage life.

but i feel very happy and satisfied , don't know why.... i know i lost everything
( my marriage life , social status , relatives respect ) which i could have continue if i keep mum and didn't firmly stop this relation.

till today i am facing and fighting DV case...
when i had everything i was feeling empty and when i gave up this i feel satisfied.
i don't know what is my future but in present i am happy...

Krishna Kumar (Business) 29 April 2011

I understood the real feeling of this guy as I also felt (feeling) the same. I went to onside for two year because of it and got a land and paying EMI. I still wanted to go onsite to settle the loan amount.

There was lots of nights, I passed with full of tears. I returned India by cancelling Visa. I live near by my statem but I could not live with my parents.

All this for whoom... For my beloved Wife, son or doughter. But Wife left me in three months and God not blessed any kids. No meaning in this life, but required to live.

But, It is a real story of an Indian. There are lots of persons are living with the same dreams I could see near me.