I suggest for an out of court settlement with out the presence or interference of the lawyers. The out of court settlement means that friends/relatives/well wishers on either side should be involved in a harmonious atmosphere. The number of sittings could be more than one for proper understanding the issues and to bring in the compromise between you and your husband. Time is the best healer in marital relationships and life as such. Do remember always, the children born following the marriage, would be the worst sufferers due to break up of the marriage. It is essential that there has to be a compromise if not sacrifice for the sake of children's bright future and welfare.