Hi All,
I am from Bangalore and I got married about a year ago, and we ve stayed together only for about 4 months, 3 months at my moms place and one month in a seperate house.
As this was a matrimonial match, we couldnt do a complete background check as they hurried the marriage to be done in 1 month. They guy dint give me mangalsutra, saree or any basic things that are expected in marriage, in turn they had forced us to give dowry and a very grand wedding for which we had to sell our property.
After marriage, he stayed 3 months at my moms place to save rent. He had asked me to for divorce thrice in 3 months. He would also force me to sleep with him irrespective of my condition. After moving to a small rented house, he dint spend even a single paisa for house maintenance. I would give the rent, get groceries, cook breakfast, lunch, wash clothes, maintain the house and also goto office. After all this I had to face his daily abuse, ridicule, demand for money, humiliation, etc. He would make up connections between all the ppl i talk to, be it a shoppkeeper, vegetable vendor, or my friends. I stopped talking to many of my friends after that. He also forbid me from talking to my parents. He would take away my mobile. I was left with no money except my credit card.
He would force me to goto church ( we both are hindus, he wants to goto church as they ll help him goto US) and take me to the pastors there. His female friend shifted to Hyderabad and he started forcing me to shift to Hyderabad with him. Then his mom dad bro and grandma everyone shifted to the same small house and I had to serve them all apart from my work, again to be abused by all of them. Even after that they used to demand that my dad should send him to US for higher studies and I should not accompany him. His mom and dad dont live together, so she couldnt bear me staying with him. She sent me out of the house immediately in 15 days. No one came to take me back. After two months his cousin came n took me to my husbands home. After which his torture had increased more. I had got sleeping pills to commit suicide. My sister came and took me home in time.
Now he has run away with all my stuff and dowry we had given. He is not telling his address. He has also left his job and vacated from Bangalore. He has messaged me that he wont give me divorce. 15-20 people have come to our home and threatened us not to put a case against him and to go and stay with him, without any contact with my parents or friends. When asked to return my stuff, they said after marriage its his stuff, why should he return it to you. His aim in life seems to be to extract all he can from us and torture me till I die.
Please help me on what should I do in such cases. Police dont want to accept the dowry complaint and also dont take it as robbery since he is my husband. I do not have proof of him having affair with the hyderabad lady nor his abuse. I just want to live a peaceful life. How do I resolve this problem.
