Male contested divorce help

I am the husband. I have been staying with my wife for last 9 years. We had an arranged marriage, which falls under Hindu marriage. We separated from my parents 5 years ago over disputes between my wife and my parents. While getting separated, my parents bought a house for us, which was put on my wife's name. My parents also helped us setup a cyber cafe for my wife and I was in jobs intermittently since then. Now, we have 2 kids, my wife and self staying in that house for last 4 years, with cyber cafe as primary source of income as my job is not stable.

After 9 years and 2 kids, you should not be thinking of divorce.  If you were without kids, then definitley what all you are undergoing is not agreeable at any cost, but as you are having kids, try to adjust for the sake of the kids.  Even if you pursue divorce, and there are plenty reasons for you asking divorce, there will be another headache of gaurdian rights of the children, and that gaurdian and ward case will get take lot of time to get over, same holds good for divorce case [5-6 years].

In last 4 years, the cruelty and rudeness of my wife has gone far too much.

- She gets into argument with me whenever I go to visit my ailing parents. My father has undergone 3 angio plasty (heart patient) and my mom is badly down with artheritis and thus cannot walk. They stay alone. My elder brother is in UK. I am the only other son in India. My sisters are married. My parents at time are even unable to cook food and do other houseold chores due to sickness but my wife still does not want me to visit them whatsoever. I have been in a lot of self disgrace over this. On one hand my family and on other hand my parents. Most of the time it is my sisters who come to help my parents and stay for day altogether.

- My parents keep waiting to see my kids. They have not seen them at all. My wife does not want me to take my kids to my parents even for a few minutes. My parent stay just 30 min away from my home but still my wife does not permit me at all nor she lets me take the kids. Once I tried to escape with kids to show them to my parents but then she followed me at my parents home and insulted my parents so much that I felt like killing her. I did not go to my home for a few days after that and slept at my friends house before returning to my wife and kids. Shameless me I really could not do anything despite seeing my parents weep because of this heartless wife.

- My father is retired and has pension. They also have rental income. But all that is just sufficient to survive. They do not have enough money to go to my sisters place or even join other old people of their age to go on tours to pass their time. I want to help them with some money whatsoever little amount but then my wife is totally against it. On the other hand, the money from my cyber cafe is mostly used by my wife's sistes and parents. My home and cafe is 1 min away from my wife's parents home. Most of the time, it is my wife's sisters and parents who take the decision and run the show for me. My wife is happy to fund her sisters and parents for their needs but does not give a penny to my old parents.

 

All the above reasons and lack of stable job, has got me into a lot of stress and thus into drinking habbit, honestly.

 You tell you are not in good finalcial condition, and you say you got drinking habit???  Drinking is no solutoin to any problem.  You have let looooooooooose your wife to dance around you for a very long time now, and such ladies wont mend their ways so easily.  The chances of her mending her ways are equal to zero.  Its better to dance to  her tunes for sake of your kids future, than go to court seeking divorce which you will easily not get, and not to forget umpteen number of cases which she can file against you in court of law to harass you and your aged parents.

Now, things have gone so worst that recently when I asked my original documents to go for interview then we went into an argument and she called Police. I had to stay in locker for the night. Since then I have left home and staying away in isolation, all prepared to get separated from her. She is now black mailing me via my friends that she will file a case against my parents and me for domestic violence. She says that she is happy to stay separate but will not give divorce.

 

My query is:

1) Whether the above grounds are good enough to prove cruelty and thus get contested divorce?

There are many instances of mental cruelty meted out on you.  But all that have to be proved in court.

2) How can I ensure that my sick parents are not tortured for this? I have asked my parents to put an application in court to separate me from themselves and their property but is there any other protection that my parents can get from that monster wife? I can't see my parents getting tortured for all this. I am OK to go jail even if she gets that done but not my parents.

If property owned by them is self-earned property, then your parents are saved by say 90%, but if the said property is ancestral then your parents and you will surely be in lot of trouble. 

Your parents disowning you wont do any good.  But you will have to think about what you will do with said property.  You have not explained anything about ownership of the property as to self earned or ancestral to answer further qureries which may arise.
 

Please help.

 

Meerut City \ UP