Hi, i was in a relationship for 2 years with my ex-colleague.We were colleagues and started seeing each other 2 years ago. It was a typical Brahmin / Non – Brahmin drama (He is Brahmin). Right from day 1 we knew things will not be smooth from his end, we waited for 2 years for his family’s blessings - they still do not budge- we decided to get married with my family’s blessing.He was completely fine with it and convinced my family for the same.
I work out of India, flew back to Chennai last Nov 2012 to look around for wedding halls, menu, dates etc. Now as wedding date is set for Feb. Since my mother wanted his mother’s blessing for the wedding,my fiancé have had a final talk with all his brothers and mother (2 elder brothers /1 younger) was apparently rattled by them. Now, he wants to back out – he keeps saying I deserve someone better, he might end of ruining my life after marriage, he might have health issues etc. All elders in my family,All the senior men / friends at work and family knew about us and now he wants to back out.. He convinced that we speak to our respective bosses on our marraige, i spoke to my current boss and he promised to find fiance a job in Malaysia. I was working out to get him a job at Malaysia (where I work for last 6 months) and he refused to send his resume because he is scared whether he will ever find a job! He says he suffers from mental block and low confidence. When i pressed further, i realised he has not communicated our marraige plans to any of his seniors and have lied to me on the same.
When my mother initiated the discussion with the elders at his place, they came back lashing stating they NEVER knew any of this action. Neither was he discussing anything about his plans to marry me.When we tried to contact his elder brother, he hang up the phone on my mother and refused to pick our calls.
My family is looking forward for our wedding this Feb and he has stopped communicating now. This has caused me tremendous stress and my reputation at work place has gone for a toss. I find this extremely autrocious, he has planned and executed this act of marraige. Has cheated everyone in my family on false hope, have been with me for 2 years - i have trusted him with my finances, personal life and ive been intimate with him.
Is there a way to legally take action for have coerced my family and self in false hope of marraige?
I honestly dont know whether i have intentions to share my life with him, but i dont want him to get away by cheating a girl and a single mother easily.Please advice.
Nandha