Sir I got married on March 10 and March 11 2012. Before marriage our family made it clear to girl’s family as well as their relatives orally in front of all elders that we are not expecting anything from girl side and whatever their family feels they can give to their girl and whatever we feel, we will give to our son. Then girl side family said voluntarily we will take care of marriage and we too agreed for it. Marriage happened in a normal marriage hall with minimum expenditure.
I stay alone in Bangalore in a medium size 1 BHK semi apartment flat paying rent Rs 6000/- + maintenance extra. The day she got married evening she fought with me that her grandma will come and stay along with her in our Bangalore house. I refused saying your grandma is very old (85 years old) and I stay in third floor too. If something goes wrong whole family will blame me lifelong.
When she came to our home she came in bare hand with very minimum vessels not more than Rs 1000 and with her own 60 grams of gold. My mom has given her 65 grams gold for mangalsutra and wedding ring. Girl side has given me bracelet, wedding ring, chain totally covering around 45 grams. We have given them Rs 30,000 (+ additional 3 Sarees costing around total Rs 16,000/- )to buy Sarees for marriage and they give us Rs, 50,000 to buy bridegroom suites etc.
She in Bangalore started arguing me saying she can’t stay in small house and she needs big apartment flat to stay. She wanted her cousins who are in Bangalore to stay with her and also whenever relatives visits Bangalore to stay with her. They all needed separate bedrooms to stay and I was unable to afford it. I told her my valet will permit this much only and above it you start working somewhere so that we both can afford big house. She refused to work anywhere and every day started fights with me for money and luxury things. Her uncles, parents, relatives too supported her and started talking roughly to me. I told everyone this is what I can afford and you are all welcome to stay with me with the existing house. To maintain this house around 15000/- expenditure is coming to me and above this earning alone I can’t afford. Essential things I already had before marriage like Refrigerator, Washing machine, Microwave, HP gas connection with 2 cylinders, Grinder, Cot, Sofa set, all kitchen utensils enough for two families etc and hence she dint even open box containing few vessels she brought from her home. BUT EVERY DAY SHE KEPT ON FIGHTING FOR BIGGER HOUSE AND FOR MONEY TO HER. She wanted to buy gifts etc to her relatives.
Totally out of six months she stayed with me around 1 and half month and rest she stayed in her hometown only arguing for bigger house and money. Also she kept on saying every alternate day she is suffering from Jaundice, Fever, Dengue and when I took her to CMH hospital, report said, she is fine and normal. She kept on arguing she only shows to family doctor in her hometown and not to any other doctor outside. So all the time she stayed in her parents’ house and when I asked her for doctor report, she said doctor won’t give report. Later I came to know simply she is lying to stay in her parents’ house and to create pressure for money and luxury things.
One day without my knowledge she has made a call to her parents and they all came night time and took her to their home. They told me that she called them saying if they don’t come and take her to their home she will go for suicide. So we are taking her to our house. Earlier she went for one month continuous and then came to my home just for 6 days. Within this six days created drama and again went to her home. Now it is one month over and no communication from their side. I too din’t call them since including her and their family they all use very rough language on me. My parents too tried to talk to them but they spoke very roughly to my parents too. I HAVE RECORDED THIS AUDIO IN MY CELL, THE DAY SHE ALONG WITH HER FAMILY LEFT MY HOME.
I work as a web trainer and whole day I will be outside. She won’t even take care of house being housewife and whole day keeps on spending time by going to one or the other houses in our Apartment. I need to clean my house myself as well as work outside to earn money. The moment I say any work to her or say something she will start fighting like anything and even she calls her uncles, parents etc. They all will raise voice against me and so I am leaving in fear in my house. Other than few time s*xual contact in initial stages of marriage, now she straight forwardly says no to it. Neither she is pregnant and nor interested in me. She is now 35 years old and me 38. Even we are sleeping separately too.
I as a web trainer conduct training for engineers and all transaction happens in cash only. Monthly I earn around Rs 25,000 and till date I have not even gone for IT returns. I have not shown my income anywhere and I do have credit card with Rs 20,000 limit. I don’t do much bank transactions other than paying rent. My family is having own earned house and few acres of land. Ancestral property we got 3 acres only and I have not shown my income anywhere from my parents property. In case if I need to pay monthly allowance how much it may come and what law says against it. She is MA in Economics, healthy but not interested to work where as I am MSc in Computer Science earn around Rs 25000/- monthly unaccounted.
I AM REALLY NOT INTERESTED TO STAY WITH HER AND LOOKING FORWARD TO DIVORCE HER. PLEASE SUGGEST ME WHAT I NEED TO DO NOW AND HOW TO PROCEED.
