Subject to mental cruelty and abuse by wife need advice

Dear Querist,

 

A man in India with an estranged wife is in a vulnerable position. Before seeking divorce on the ground of mental cruelty, prepare basic groundwork for your protection, because as a counter blast to your case for divorce your wife can attempt to misuse the process of law. I've wrote an article exclusively for people like you : https://www.lawyersclubindia.com/articles/How-to-fight-a-false-498A-Case-Fighting-misuse-coming-out-winning-4864.asp

it's a step by step guide on how  tackle a headstrong woman

Dear Sir,

I am really sad about an unhappy married life of an Indian Army Officer. I can understand your problem. Though you don't want to disclose your identity in this forum, your wife or her relatives can identify you if they happened to visit this forum. If precautionery steps were advised herein, the same may be taken note of by her side and counter action would be taken by her in advance and some hurdles would be put in your attempts to secure justice through legal means.Therefore, I don't want to render any legal advice to you in public. If you want,  you can speak to me on (0) 9842197857. 

 

https://www.jeevaganadvocate.com/contact.php

Join the site and know more- "498a.org", it will help u more. Secondly i know the army officer resides atmosphere as i m now living in this, take record or spy everything, remove maids and dnt keep, dnt give her more relief. If she visits ur office and creats drama, it is also a crime, record that. Dnt afraid everyone is suffering by his wives. Collect evidence in audio or vdo as ur time starts now. U dnt react just cool do something strng whichever u can. Avoid her. Dnt seek help frm army or aawa(avoid its interfere). U never be angry on ur children. They should be ur supportive.

What for a wife required. To born a child, all work is done by the maid and "sahayak". just collect evidence and file divorce. Let her bark anything. Take custody of children, then she will get nothing.

Thank you Bharat for the advice. I shall bear that in mind. I have never asked for a penny from my wife or inlaws. But as advised by you, I need to take care of all angles.  But my questions remain unanswered. Where amd how do I give a notice or start proceedings? Should I first gather evidence by recording her behaviour?

Dear Mr Jeevagan,

Thanks a lot for your advice and the number, I shall try and speak to you tomorrow, if it is ok with you . Thanks again.

Thanks Jaswant.

Yes dear, u prepare for the WAR AHEAD.

See Abraham Lincoln said: If I have eight hours to chop down a tree, I'd spend six hours sharpening an axe.

@ Author;

 

1. For your que. 1 and 2:-

 

Consult a seasoned local advocate where you are posted right now. Even otherwise by now you might be knowing few personals in Army legal cell, consult friendly officers and your CO should be taken in confidence before launching smallest canon in family war of roses.

 

2. For your que. 3:-

Oral evidence as well as proof affidavits of kith and kin and sub-ordinates / staff and independent witnesses who have seen her in action is more than sufficient for *.

 

3. For your que. 4:-

Dependent upon court load read with various adjournments it is hard to say but prepare for 2-3 years.

 

 

4. For your que. 5:-

You can use local jurisdiction to file suit.

 

The best / safest suit which you can file in given situation is decree of *"Judicial separation" i.e. this is the smallest cannon in your facts which to be recoiled. You are bound to get it and after 2 years it is said to become a decree for divorce.

 

 

In family war of roses one should not be keeping too long h/er defensive position. Otherwise what happens is you yourself have narrated to us J


Today voluntary retired Army Personals are much in demand in Corporate World with much better pay and perks. You had your adventures / thrills which Army gives to its men, now time to test those adventures in real life scenarios. If you are not afraid to face our enemy’ across the borders then how come you are showing fear to face a "gospel truth speaking abala". All abalas just speak and speak and when reality hits her she wriggles out of it by filing left and right cases and then all comes down to accepting Banta (lime and soda) i.e. Mutual Consent Divorce i.e. at the end of all collateral damages both parties may suffer due to being in a bad marriage.  Also see everytime Indian Men are afraid to file first telling in general about their position in society / about their career / weeping about their old parents / adding their dozen un-married sisters and or dozen children in hand and showcause themselves to be the bette rof "innocent" among the two spouses about to go for social war!. Now compare and see does any Indian married wife thinks twice all these before showing one fine mornign at an Police Station or cozing up in a/c chamber of an rakhi bhai Advocate!!!!!!  

No officer – so how come you showing your weaknesses that also being an Army Officer?

Nice answer by tajob sir.

tajobsindia ,as always ,nothing left to added.regards