Harassment to my daughter

@Author,

You do not need advise from legal point, you need advise from normal human point of view. Talk to your Son In Law and Inlaws and find out what the problem is.

There can not be smoke without fire.

Most of problems you are saying your daughter should be able to solve herself, assuming she is not minor. Do not interfere, you looks over reactive and end up in spoiling your daughter's life. Better let her solve issue herself or use some mediator...None of problem you narrated is serious for legal help.

Also do not use word harrassement, this normal huma behaviour where ever 4 people live in house some kind of difference happen. But looking your over reaction and reacting on daughters internal family issue I am sure you will end up in mess.

Your problems are also feminine kind ..Do you want to keep her jewellary correct? If your daughter wants she can ask jewellary. I am sure all these things came from your daughter if she keeps passing on such information to you and you react on such issue then none can help. Also what kind of freely you want to speak to your daughter if your daughter is making calls and speak against them tahts what you are expecting? As you said daughter visitied 4 times in 11 months is this normal? Generally married woman goes 1 - 2 times in year so doen't look your daughter has any restections.

i wonder why my in-laws did not post the same question at LCI !!!

i m facing the same complaints from my in - laws.

@author

1)First you should try to findout why you SIL is not coming to your house. If your behaviour or giving respect is not up to the mark then he will not come. Thats a common thing.

2)Mobile is taken- Your daughter may be telling you the small small things/complaint of her house. You may be misguiding your daughter as per them so they had taken this. whats the problem if she phones you in the presence of other members in the house. 

3)You may be interfering in their home affairs through your daughter so they want to control it.

4) Now these days if a qualified girl works in house then they thinks that she is a Kammwali bai. You already married her in a joint family setup then if she will not do the house work then are you expecting that her MIL do all the work.

If you want to save the marriage then you pls advice your daughter that by doing house work she is not a kamwali bai. She has a beautiful daughter and she should concentrate on her family as well as daughter. you may also requst them to visit your house. one day definetely they will appreciate you approach.

The reply given above may look harsh but pls save the marriage otherwise it will give more trouble to both the families.

The best way is to talk directly.

As of now, it is a social problem, unless there is a drastic harassment, you should not make it a legal issue.

Regards,

Shonee Kapoor

harassed.by.498a@gmail.com

This is a very common problem i personally had listened my mother in law blowing my wife's ears and teaching her all bad stuff. One day i heard my mother in law teaching my wife that get a baby and then once she gets a baby just come over and then your husband has to pay maintenance. I don't blame husbands family as truly mentioned by expert there cannot be smoke without fire.

@ Author why do you want to control things i don't see any harassment here these are small patty stuff which can be resolved within family.

My son- in-law stopped coming to our house after this. He never comes to our house to take my daughter back whenever she comes to us. She her self has to come to our house and go to in-laws house.

My son- in-law stopped coming to our house after this. He never comes to our house to take my daughter back whenever she comes to us. She her self has to come to our house and go to in-laws house.

@ Author if your son in law is not coming to your house then you should drop your daughter to her inlaws house and then can also see your grandchildren. It clearly reflects from your post that once your daughter comes with your grandson or granddaughter next would be the legal step itself and her inlaws don't want this to happen this is the main reason they are not allowing your daughter to visit your house with your grandson or granddaughter.  But once again there could be some mistakes from her inlaws as well. They cannot abuse or insult your daughter just like that and such issues should be resolved within family legal step is definately not an option.

Almost 80% of the complaint is matching with my case and now facing 498a and other cases. As Zeeshan and Anonomouus told that its all common complaint which DIL tells. I dont have any answer as all the people here already explained the real issues.

Til ka Taad aur Rai ka Pahad mat banaiye shrma ji nhi to Hus Wife dono ki jindagi barbaad ho jati hai!!!!

all problem is in your and your daughters thinking mr.sharma...let them live their life...dont interfere if u want ur daughter to be happy...ur support is making her ego more strong and ur ego is already strong..thanks to 498a and domestic violence act...everthing is in ur hands..handle it properly...rightly advised by all members here..follow it..

Zeeshan is bit straight and may sound harsh but advice is based on real facts. Please settle it by talking to your son-in-law directly with pateince and calm mind

Thanks to all for their valuable advise.