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Nandha (NIL)     08 September 2011

Change of residence - can wife refuse to come?

My earlier thread was: 

https://www.lawyersclubindia.com/forum/Intimidation-by-wife-her-family-members--43442.asp

 

In continuation to my above thread, I would like to have advice on the following:

 

 

I am planning to resign my job in the gulf and return to India. Can my wife file a case against me stating that she married me because I would continue to work in the Gulf ?
 
(Note: After marriage, she joined me in the Gulf and was with me for 8 months. I dropped her at her parents house for delivery of our baby. She was neither thrown out of the matrimonial house nor anything compelled her to leave the matrimonial house.)
 
If I shift my residence in India to a place which is just 10 kms away from the present residence, is there any law that protects my wife if she refuses to come and live with me there? If she does not come to live with me, on what grounds can I file a case? 
 
Thanks in advance!
 
Nandha


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Amit (General Manager)     08 September 2011

No, your wife can't file case on the basis that you are coming back to India.

You can file RCR if she doesn't come back. 

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Saurabh..V (Law Consultant)     08 September 2011

@Author

 

There is no such stupid provision in any part of the world that permits the girl to enjoy free trips till the husband is on a world tour and when he wants to come back she compell her to let the tour go on.

 

She did not married GULF but you. While marrying she might have anticipated many things and similarly you  might also have anticipated many things, but it does give your both any right to compell your spouse to do as per your anticipation.

 

Also if your wife does not join you in the matrimonial home in India, then go to court and file for mediation. Let the mediation go on for 5-6 sitting or months whichever is later. If still she do not agree then you file RCR (Restitution of Conjugal Rights) as per HMA,1955.

 

Word of caution:

As soon as you would file RCR she may in return file 498a etc. So be ready to fight it out. Start collecting evidences that you never coerced her or did anything contrary to law.

 

As far as your divorce is concerned, if you first spend 6months for mediation, then if you can wait for 6more months and she do not come home, then you can file for divorce on the ground desertion for mroe than one eyar without reasonable cause.

 

So you have 2-3 ways to go about your situation now. I suggest with this knowledge you approach a lawyer and discuss your strategy. Setting up a well planned and discussed strategy helps to fight the case in a better and cleaner way.

 

All the best!

 

//peace

/Saurabh..V

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Nandha (NIL)     08 September 2011

 

@ Saurabh, @ Amit

Thank you for your Advice. 

I need to clarify two things:

1) Instead of going through the court for mediation, can the medication be done through the local panchayat? If it is not successful, then can we directly apply for RCR? Does the court accepts the  Local Panchayat's findings atleast as a proof? 

2) I understand, Matrimonial home means the home where my wife comes to live with me after marriage. If I shift to a new house, can she refuse to join me stating that she came to live in this house only and not anywhere else? My question may sound silly, but what do to.. our judicial system forces to ask such questions!


Thanks in Advance!


Nandha


Saurabh..V (Law Consultant)     08 September 2011

@Author

 

See answers/clarifications below: 

 

1) Instead of going through the court for mediation, can the medication be done through the local panchayat? If it is not successful, then can we directly apply for RCR? Does the court accepts the Local Panchayat's findings atleast as a proof?

A1) Yes. Panchayat is kind of mediation centre if you live in a rural area and if it is possible then nothing is better than this. It enjoys legal approval and courts give due weightage to them. Panchayat includes prominent & respect members of your area who could later on become a witness before the court to show that who amongst the spouses is really the cunning member and who is spoiling the marriage.

 

2) I understand, Matrimonial home means the home where my wife comes to live with me after marriage. If I shift to a new house, can she refuse to join me stating that she came to live in this house only and not anywhere else?

A2) No. None of the spouse can claim like this and no law supports such pressumption/appeal/desire. One may dream big and may insist on staying in a big bunglow but if the spouses go bankrupt, then law cannot allow either of them to still claim to live in the same affluent bunglow!!

Moreover if the guardian desires to move the residence for the betterment of the family then the dependents are bound to follow and agree to the advice. In your case you are the guardian and your spouse is the dependent.

 

Just keep in mind ............ She married you and not your money/residence/cars/credit cards........ :)

 

All the best !

 

//peace

/Saurabh..V

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Saurabh..V (Law Consultant)     08 September 2011

if the guardian desires to move the residence for the betterment of the family then the dependents are bound to follow and agree to the advice.

Provided the decision for moving residence should not be in a nature to cause detriment to the welfare of the family or any of its member or deprive any member of their fundamental rights.

 

Also as you rightly said "matrimonial home" is the one where you two live together and it does mean that it has to be US, UK or somewhere abroad. It can be in a remote Indian village too....... If she desired to live abroad by taking your facility to make her visa etc., then you are legally free to get divorce from her (if she doesnt joins you in the new residence).

 

Filing RCR has its own side-effects like 498s etc. as explained earlier. So mediation and then divorce on the ground of desertion is a better option. Also making a well-planned strategy which work in favor of the intitution of marriage and peace should be adopted....

 

//peace

/Saurabh..V

Tajobsindia (Senior Partner )     08 September 2011

@ Author

I slightly differ to advise given so far;


1. Yes, there is a law S. 125 CrPC wherein a wife can very well 'refuse' to join company of her husband however she has to "give valid reason for such refusal to join her husband" but the moment she is asked to place her grounds it becomes matter of trial. such refusal or more or less not looked into at prime facie "relief" stage and meanwhile court proceedings "meter gets charging" You get my point !.


2. I differ (read as add-on) to a suggest given on "panchayat gaining legal approval" In fact it is approved only if your personal family Law approves of the same. I doubt that is the case here as nowhere you have stated that your personal law approves panchayat intervention as legal approval but that is teh doubt que. you ar asking us. However I am open for furher heatlhy discussion on "panchayat having legal approval qua personal family law read with Hon'ble SC guidelines" subject with ld. members if any.

3. In my observation she has "some issues" and those are becoming contentious issues take for eg, a good faith act of husband i.e. dropping her to her natal home for child birth if per se alleged in any of the civil / crl. suits by her it becomes a "issue" and menawhile "prime facie" relief order(s) gets awarded to her which may go against a husband too is my forcast unless not faught well. So consult well with a local ld. Adv. and act as per legal on ground instructions accordingly.


4.
Matrimonial home in instance brief is one where you live correctly and or intend to live in near future with onfo. given to her and for the same a "offfer to re-join post child birth" is extended in writing is my view for a simiple fact "some issues" are developing between a couple. Now if you intend to return back to native place and intend to live 10 kms. away as informed here from previous matrimonial home and intend to establish a matrimonial nest then to safeguard yourself purely on 'good faith grounds' atleast shoot a open one page RPAD letter to her and take xerox copy of such open one page RPAD letter as your intention to negate possible 'desertion / cruelties issue cropping' and refusal by husband issues which may come in any of the civil / crl. suit of future if she plans to file.

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Saurabh..V (Law Consultant)     08 September 2011

@Tajobs

 

I would appreciate if you clarify my below points:

 

1. Yes, there is a law S. 125 CrPC wherein a wife can very well 'refuse' to join company of her husband however she has to "give valid reason for such refusal to join her husband" but the moment she is asked to place her grounds it becomes matter of trial. such refusal or more or less not looked into at prime facie "relief" stage and meanwhile court proceedings "meter gets charging" You get my point !.

 

- Interim maintenace is granted on reasonable grounds where the court is satisfied of the grounds on which the maintenance is sought. If the wife refuses to live with the husband solely on the ground that he has shifted residence from Dubai to India due to compelling reasons then do you feel she is entitled for seperate residence??

 

If answer is yes, then I feel every married woman on earth could enjoy free trips and stays at every known city of the world like London, Paris, Sydney etc etc etc...

 

Pls clarify....................




 

2. I differ (read as add-on) to a suggest given on "panchayat gaining legal approval" In fact it is approved only if your personal family Law approves of the same. I doubt that is the case here as nowhere you have stated that your personal law approves panchayat intervention as legal approval but that is teh doubt que. you ar asking us. However I am open for furher heatlhy discussion on "panchayat having legal approval qua personal family law read with Hon'ble SC guidelines" subject with ld. members if any.

 

- "Panchayat is a legal identity" in our judicial system now. Lok-Panchayat / Gram-Panchayat etc have the power for local judicial services. However, even if presumed otherwise, when prominent and respected members of panchayat give their evidence in court about the mediation and behaviour of the parties, wouldn't it be judicially acceptable as evidence?

 

//peace

/Saurabh..V
 

Tajobsindia (Senior Partner )     08 September 2011

 

Originally posted by :Saurabh..V

"

I appreciate you que. to me.......

- Interim maintenace is granted on reasonable grounds where the court is satisfied of the grounds on which the maintenance is sought. If the wife refuses to live with the husband solely on the ground that he has shifted residence from
Dubai to India due to compelling reasons then do you feel she is entitled for seperate residence??
Take: Let me clarify with "my feeling" Law does not wheel. Had it been so in re.  to S. 125 CrPC the moment a metro wife alleges in her Application "my husband has refused to maintain me as he left me to my natal home instead of caring for me even during child birth" the entire context "prime facie" goes for a toss. "Refusal ti lie" rebuttal in majority of ld. Courts are taken as "evidence matter" atleast this much you shall agree having read several citations is my view. In instance brief without touching 'compelling reason" which are all matter of "trial mans evidence" I made principal underlying "perception" of ld. Courts (trial courts). Now the que. we shall ask is how many Indian husbands are lucky on "prime facie" stage all
India level to get "no interim maint. Orders" simply on above "trial allegations" Think aloud..............Now I do agree to MRA fact which should have been underlying spirit even during "prime facie" stage but that is nobody’s case here !
 

If answer is yes, then I feel every married woman on earth could enjoy free trips and stays at every known city of the world like London, Paris, Sydney etc etc etc...
Take: No comments onto this, it is a persuasive take. Sometimes wishes are not what one sees in Order Sheets ld. friend. It takes lots of efforts a social engineering skills to see light on one shot. It is other matter I may or may not agree but  I reserve my thoughts on it qua authors briefs. 
 
 
"Panchayat is a legal identity" in our judicial system now. Lok-Panchayat / Gram-Panchayat etc have the power for local judicial services. However, even if presumed otherwise, when prominent and respected members of panchayat give their evidence in court about the mediation and behaviour of the parties, wouldn't it be judicially acceptable as evidence?
Take: Yes Panchayat is legal Authority I agree only upto this line. Yes next line I too agree. well onto third line there could ne doubt on "pre-assumed otherwise" kar key why otherwise when it is already there in defining such Authorities ! Now here comes the catch when same principals are apllied on Personal Laws and personal practices of a couple. Has this husband clarified anywhere that his Personal Law practices Panchayat’s pronouncements? Further What does Hon'ble SC says on Punchayat pronouncement  qua matrimonial personal Laws !


Fix that and clarity comes that only those personal Laws which have a Punchayat sanctity of authority to mediate and pronounce Authority to a couples problem are only recognised by Hon'ble SC and none other. That is where the catch lis is I hope I am clarified.

"

 

Ssorry for posting reply in other thread

Nandha (NIL)     11 September 2011

Dear All,

Thanks for your valuable advice.

On 19th September, we are having a meeting wherein both the family members are going to discuss on this. If nothing works out, then we have to take further course of action.


Can anyone explain me 'Personal Family laws?

Some more queries:

Which Panchayat Board has to be approached for a hearing? The local panchayat board where her matrimonial home is or;

since she is now residing at her parents home, is it necessary to approach their local panchayat?


Can anyone throw light on this?

Thanks in advance

Tajobsindia (Senior Partner )     11 September 2011

@ Nandah

I apologise, I have been mis-understood on "panchayat" point. Below is referred interpretation on subject matter;


Hindu Marriage Act, 1955, S.. 9 and 13-B -A divorce got through the panchayat as per the local customs of a particular community will not be recognised by any court of law. A divorce, in order to be legalised, mandatorily requires a judicial decree from a court of law and nothing less would do. Dissolution of marriage through panchayat as per custom prevailing in that area and in that community permitted cannot be a ground for granting divorce under Section 13 of the Act, 1955. HC has rightly held that dissolution of marriage through Panchayat as per custom prevailing in that area and in that community permitted cannot be a ground for granting divorce u/s. 13 of the Act, 1955 - Moreover, in case the appellant wanted a decree on the basis of customary dissolution of marriage through Panchayat, he would not have filed a petition u/s. 13 of the Act, 1955 - Filing this petition itself means that none of the parties was of the view that the divorce granted by the Panchayat was legal - No reason to interfere with the well-reasoned judgment of the HC - Appeal dismissed.


Supreme Court of India

Civil Appeal No. 1801 of 2007
Date of Judgment: 25 August, 2010

Mahendra Nath Yadav vs. Sheela Devi

 
O R D E R

Hon'ble Judge(s):  P. Sathasivam & Dr. B.S. Chauhan


1. This appeal has been preferred against the judgment and order dated 8th October, 2004 of the High Court of Judicature at Allahabad passed in First Appeal Nos.786 and 787/2000 and by which the decree of divorce granted by the Family Court, Varanasi has been reversed and dismissal of the petition under Section 9 of the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 (hereinafter called as 'Act, 1955') filed by the respondent before the Family Court has also been reversed and her case has been allowed. The parties herein got married on 3rd May, 1990. The ceremony of 'Gauna' was performed in 1991. Appellant is serving in the Army and respondent is serving as a teacher. There was no proper opportunity for both of them to lead a normal family life. Thus, differences arose and litigation started between the parties. The respondent-wife filed an Application under Section 125 of the Code of Criminal Procedure, 1973 (hereinafter called as 'Cr.P.C.'), before the Judicial Magistrate, Ist Class, Varanasi. The Magistrate vide order dated 10th May, 1995, allowed the said application by directing the appellant to pay the respondent-wife a sum of Rs.400/- p.m. as maintenance. She also filed Case Crime No.131 of 1991 under Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code, 1860 (IPC) against the appellant and his family members in the Police Station, Choubeypur, Varanasi. The appellant preferred Revision No.330/95 in the Court of Sessions Judge, Varanasi against the order of the Magistrate granting the maintenance to the respondent. However, that was dismissed by the Revisional Court vide order dated 15th February, 1996. Though the order passed under Section 125 of Cr.P.C. was subsequently modified by the Family Court vide order dated 2nd June, 1997, the relations between the parties deteriorated, an attempt was made by the appellant's family to settle the matter. According to appellant, it was customary in the locality and in the community to which both parties belong to have a divorce through the Panchayat. Thus, the Panchayat was convened on 7th June, 1997. The said Panchayat decided that the appellant should pay a sum of Rs.30,000/- to the respondent's family. It was paid and a document was prepared which was duly signed by the parties. Thus, the marriage came to an end. In order to give legal effect to the said customary divorce, the appellant tried to persuade the respondent to get divorce from the Family Court under Section 13-B of the Act, 1955 by consent. However, she did not agree. Thus the appellant approached the Family Court by filing Petition No.370 of 1998 under Section 13 of the Act, 1955, seeking divorce on the ground of desertion and cruelty. The respondent filed the counter case i.e. Petition No.57 of 1999 under Section 9 of the Act, 1955, for restitution of conjugal rights. The Family Court decreed the suit mainly on the ground that the marriage stood dissolved through Panchayat and dismissed the petition filed by the wife for restitution of conjugal rights vide order dated 15th September, 2000.


2. Being aggrieved, the respondent preferred appeals against both the orders before the High Court and the High Court has reversed the said order in both the cases. Hence this appeal.


3. In spite of service the respondent-wife did not enter an appearance. Thus, we have heard Dr. J.N. Dubey, learned senior counsel appearing for the appellant. Dr. Dubey has taken us through the evidence available on record and through both the judgments. The High Court has rightly held that dissolution of marriage through Panchayat as per custom prevailing in that area and in that community permitted cannot be a ground for granting divorce under Section 13 of the Act, 1955. We fully agree with the said decision for the reason that in case the appellant wanted a decree on the basis of customary dissolution of marriage through Panchayat held on 7th June, 1997, he would not have filed a petition under Section 13 of the Act, 1955. Filing this petition itself means that none of the parties was of the view that the divorce granted by the Panchayat was legal. In view of the above, we do not see any reason to interfere with the well-reasoned judgment of the High Court.


The appeal fails and is accordingly dismissed. No costs.


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