Second marriage

to avoid some unavoidable the laws was framed well before

so in your case also you cannot marry leaving your child means no law will give you permission to marry second time without divorceing your first wife except with the permission of your first wife that say you want kids and she cannot give you so with the permission of the same you are marrying second time 

It is a man who always tries seeking proverbial mirage ignoring the goodies good he already has…………

1.    All facts mentioned in your brief are no ground to seek second wife or live-in or disown them or look towards others Personal Laws.

2.    Democracy does not mean on whims – fancies one takes – leaves spouse just because previous one is simpleton and not upto as one wished for post once marriage. The stage of such wishful thinking is past now for a fact one should have stood firm of what one is looking for in marriage before one marries and not after marriage. After marriage ‘adjustments’, ‘continuity’ and/or tweaking lifestyle changes in such facts are what once goes through.

3.    There are good – bad in each Personal laws, from outside each personal LAws looks rosy.  In olden days we did not codify our personal customs – traditions in matters of marriage, custody, alimony etc. It was in later days codified and what we have today under Hindu Laws still needs much tweaking but we are getting there and complaining about once personal Laws does not solve once immediate issues.  

4.    Discuss with present spouse if she would agree to you having second wife in a subsisting marriage under same roof. If she agrees and does not complaint and all her rights of being a legal wife is satisfied by you with fine balancing with second wife and society that you keep does not whisper much then you may jolly well search for the second one and see if she adjusts with first one and then all three live happily and for all these why complaint and look for answers from Law?

5.    Hence, advice is ‘don't pour away your water due to a mirage’.

Dont make the mistake of comparing hindu law with muslim law. Islam was revealed to the world in around 530 A.D. Before advent of Islam, there was no protection for the woman. Man was allowed to use her and throw her out at his wish without any protection, financial or otherwise.

In that scenario, Islam provided that a man can marry up to four. In one way this was like protection given to muslim woman against the society.

Same has continued till now.

This is not the case among the hindus.

Due to vote bank politics, it is very difficult to have same personal laws for persons of different religions in India.

So instead of worrying about all this, in your case either adjust with the present wife or if you want  to go for second marriage, divorce the first one and then marry.

You cannot carry on with two wives. It is civil wrong as well as a crime.

Dear Mr. Mani,

Its a bigamy and an offence punishable under criminal law.  If you have take care of your child, consider your wife also to be another child and take care of her instead of trying some illegal ideas.