Dear Sir,
I am facing a difficult situation in my personal life. We might have seen several instances of woman abuse. Even in these types of forums I am seeing mostly only laws, suggestions supporting women.
I am telling this honestly with no bad feelings..I swear to god what I am saying is true. I need justice on what needs to be done. Suggestions..etc.
My wife doesn’t listen to me so easily. There were minor issues between us during my beginning stages of married life and still continue to have. Those issues are fine which are ok and is common in every married life. We have been married for 4 years and with 6 months old kid.
After my son was born, my wife’s attitude changed. She gets arrogant,angry so easily and I am unable to convince or soothen her. She says she wants to go to her parent’s home by evening and shall return 1 or 2 days later. I will say,why not tomorrow morning because I can spend time with my child in evening.
I try telling her in an ordinary way. She never listens. If I shout since she doesn’t listen after repeated sayings..she acts like eccentric patient. She uses abusive words.throws things to the floor.What if it hits my child? If I say these things are wrong.. lets talk to a counselor she never listens…she never respects me … my parents are so good… most of the kitchen work at home are completed by my mother.
But she insists, my mother is not helping to feed the child,bathe the child ..etc. but that’s not the case since my mother is busy with kitchen and my medically ill father(acute backpain &unknown nervous problem..still trying to figure out.. think of the mental trauma of my mother worried about her husband as well)…, she says can do it once she is free or if my wife calls, she will be available to help.
But my wife is finding faults continuously with her saying my mom and dad doesn’t come voluntarily and help. But who is doing the kitchen work? It is my mother…
There are so many other things which I can say….
The bottom line is , I am trying and my parents are trying their level best to take care of her and she is taking undue advantage of me. Basically I am soft spoken and also my parents. But when things go worse, it really hurts us. The kind of words my wife uses.
My in-laws, father in law and mother in law and brother in law are also supporting my wife only without listening. I explained she has a medical condition of losing her temper for simple advices… there is no freedom of speech.
I expect maturity from her. That is all I need. In future, we need to raise the child in an effective manner mature enough to handle him, she has to take care of her school work, teaching along with other household work. From my side, I can lend my support to some extent outside of the office hours…my parents as usual, will help… the point is to make all these happen, my wife has to change her silly behavior,control her anger,stop talking non-sense like woman equal to man..etc.. (these things can be told only if exploitation is happening). She is a home maker and she should happily do her job with pride. I respect every genuine home maker.
Bottomline : I am seriously worried about my wife’s immaturity to cope up with the new life style (post baby born).She is always dependent and never acts independenly. No good advice, effective advice to her daughter from in-laws. Instead they teach her wrong things since they are not that educated enough. My parents, graduates and post graduates, worried about my wife’s immaturity and her constant arguments with me,father and mother over simple matters & advices. When I say advice, a sample like .. don’t over feed the baby if the baby refuses to eat since the child might become obese. My wife overfeeds him sometimes.. this is just a sample.
We all feel we are losing authority.
Impacts: unable to concentrate on job, mental trauma,agony…worried about future. Do I need to file for divorce to get rid of this trauma? I need my son with me. Reason- an eccentric person cannot handle a child in this world. Take him to school and from school… teach him with patience …
her parents are very stingy. No car, no two wheeler for my father in law ..dependent on his son…
whereas I own a car,..etc. I can keep my child with luxury whereas they can’t …like these so many concerns I have…
what should I do… is this justice to leave the kid with mother just for the sake of law knowingly she is eccentric and incapable of handling family life…. I don’t know what to say … L
Is divorce an option? Am I thinking correct?
