I am a 27 yr old SC category(Turaiha) Boy, m in love with my graduation classmate who belongs to OBC caste. we both have decided that we will marry each other. But her family are not at all agreeing for this. Her family has asked her either to choose him or them. But we find it too-too difficult to live without each other. Our relationship is 2 years old and we both are very serious for each other, But her family is pressurizing her to get married to a boy of her caste.they say that Rather u can elope with that guy. and it will spoil my family's reputation. so we will take poision and die. plz suggest how to make her parents agree.I feel very much helpless in even thinking to live without her. as he is best for me..(Acc to me).is there any way out by which i can called as upper caste not SC??plz tell if there is any any way so dat her parents become agree on caste issue.
There is no way you can change your caste. After reading your story it seems that you have lost faith in yourself. First of all don't think of taking any drastic step as if the girl is major and is ready and willing to marry you then no person can stop you to marry her. If both of you are Hindu then you can marry under the Hindu Marriage Act. otherwise you can marry under Special marriages Acts. Also, you and your girlfriend both have to first think of changing the minds of her parents in proper way and to convience them that if the two persons are comfertable with each other and that you are capable of keeping their daughter in good and proper condition and provide her everything and she will be happy if she marries you instead of marrying to some unknown person from her own caste. If the girl is not ready and willing to go beyond the wish of her parents then you can't force her to do so and in that case you will have to change your mind, instead of thinking of dying and weasting your precious life.
Cast can not be changed. If u want to leave your cast you can change your religion. But it wont help you to get your goal. So act as per advice of the Ld. friends and try to solve the problem amicably.
Mr. Arup Kumar Gupta, will you pls explain under which law the person who change his religion can take benefit of his cast. Can u pls specify the Act or any SC ruling in this regard. I want to know it because as per my view if a person has change his religion means he has left all his rights in his family & property.
"change his religion means he has left all his rights in his family & property." - wrong.
no law is there that, change of religion will deprive one, from his property or caste benifit. on the contray property is one's constitutional right. caste benifit given to one's caste bassis, not religion basis. religion is changeable not caste. i have seen several cases where caste benifit remains intact after change of religion. the party officially inform about his change of religion to his office, central govt - undertaking.
perhaps one supreme court rulling is also there in this effect. but i do not have it.
Life is precious. Do not spoil it . Please wait and see. If your partner is much more fond of her caste and parents please let her allow to leave you and join them. If otherwise, marry her and lead a sober life and try to become a standing example for others. Do not haste. Hindrance in love and solving them is praised as beauty of love.