Reply TO LCI
Please do not misunderstand your Advocate. Unless he is polite, he cannot have a sound sleep. From the word Polite, what you meant is, he do not want to file cases against your wife. I too must have done the same. You have a daughter, and any demand for “revenge” will result in orphaning her. You should have only the aim of survival of the marriage.
Just because one case is dismissed in default, please do not celebrate. She can apply for “restoration”, and the case will continue.
The point is about your life. My question is the life of your and your daughter.
You did not write anything about anticipatory bail obtained by yourself and your family, amount spend in it, whether bribe was paid to the Public Prosecutor to keep silence during Bail Applications etc. Without all those details, it is difficult to know the “Pulse” of your wife, her parents and their Advocate, and your Advocate.
To repeat about your advocate, please note, the Advocate and Doctor can convert own party/ patient into “Basmam”/ Ash. If he is not willing to file cases against your wife and her family, he is preventing expenses to you. Even the murder accused get relieved after few weeks in jail, then you think about your present opponents.
ABOUT YOUR JOB:- you did not say you are at your home town. Good that you are without work now. It is like a Long Non-pay leave, to settle your family life. Please come back to your home town immediately. File a case under the Mental health Act, in the Magistrate Court, normally the same Court where the Maintenance, Domestic Violence, Cruelty 498A case etc are pending. Select the Magistrate of the area where your wife is residing and not your area. Write all the truth. Surely the Magistrate will be able to help you.
Your consulting Psychologist is good. However, my experience is, to avoid stress, I do not tell lies and I do not permit liars to come near me. Once you are down-to-earth truth speaker, (usual exception of telling a lie to save face of a friend, to prevent a useless quarrel etc), you will have a peaceful life in long run. The last word of every argument will be this: “if I tell lie, I cannot remember that everytime, in future do not participate me in any of your lies”.
Another technique to prevent Stress is, do not be Bully, and throw out all the Bullys from your friend circle.
ABOUT YOUR FAMILY:- Normally a girl will come to your family and life to live there till her death. However your parents, siblings, neighbour etc some one may be there who is telling a lot of lies, bullying etc to your wife, which prevents her from entering your house. At the same time, there are a lot of other rules about Do not show Harami/ Namak-harami nature, Do not do anything by which the son will be separated from his parents, Tolerate like an Earth, Always obey your elders etc. Only with tough scrutiny of your each and every parental house people, it will be known who had “repelled” her as if she is a mosquito. Same analysis will be necessary about her parents and others, to find out whether anyone came to your parents house, to create unnecessary prestige issues etc.
All these things will be discussed before a Psychiatrist and not a Magistrate. Thus petition under the Mental Health Act will help you to find truth.
You can give a print out of this and previous advice, to your advocate and it can be enclosed in the Application to be filed.
(Note: due to shortage of time, this letter is not read again to correct grammar and spelling mistakes).
26-8-2013 at 5.45 pm.
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