Dear Madam,

there are two options left for you

1. start new life with new energey forget about old hell experience

2. file criminal complaint in Police station against your boy friend under section 420 IPC cheating , 376 rape. once after getting the Non Bailable Warrant from the Court, inform US consulate and Indian Embessy in US regarding the same. i will tell  in detail in my next mail

don'nt lose your hopes start new life with new energy

Dear India,

I have empathy for you. you can drag him into litigation then after sometime he will take bail etc then what????

Sadly you acted foolishly or trusted him too much. you cannot force him to marry you. these things are characteristic of our present age. there is nothing more to it...

flush him also from your life... If you need legal help.. lawyers are there in your area to help..

HI MISS INDIA ,IAM FULL SYMPATHY OF YOU BUT

MY SUGGESTION IS THAT U SHOULD FORGET THE OLD EXPERIENCE AND STARTED THE NEW LIFE ????????

Hi India,

Ur not a child If m wrong correct me,

canot u know y r in 26, bcz of ur mistake why r u blaming at him.

u know no end for wishes in our life, should be limt for somthing, prevention is always better than cure, u should have taken proper decsion at the begning ,

prima facie there is a mistake on the part of your sdie.

Do't not go beyhond our wishes,

I m not blaming you just i m advsing u to prvent other to do like this.

Hi,

I think i can advice you better bcoz i have gone through the same almost the difference being that i was never physically involved with him. I can completely understand ur situation but I am sad with you. Your boyfriend is a bad guy no doubt but there are crores of people like that. By destroying yourself  u r just helping him. He may have a good job, earn great bucks and marry a beautiful girl but y r u bothered. U want to spend life with a guy who never loved you? Thank God first for saving u from him and utilize this gift that God gave in a better way. Make this anger and resentment a passion to achieve ur dreams.

Remove that guy from ur head. A guy not able to fight for a girl is not worth wasting ur time. Love and marriage is not life. Life is much above that. Make urself so big that when ur boyfriend comes to know by means about u he should feel the pain (and he will bcoz selfish people always think about being with more successful people). By reading ur mail i understood that u r a sensible emotional girl with  innocent heart. That is great gift from God. This life is not worth wasting by crying.

This may sound theoritical but think about it. Please come out. Give him a nice kick in ur thoughts and leave. One more thing i want to advice all the girls - Dont have physical relationship with any guy before marriage (Atleast Indian girls).

Thats all i can say. Sorry to write a long reply as i really want to help u. Please be happy and think that doing so u r making someone else happy :-)

As one sows, so one reaps!

rape complaint will b of least help as d relationship was formed with consent. there will b various ques fired on u upon evrythn by defnce n d cicum wl also nt prove that u have been raped.

START NEW LIFE INDIRA

Points for your legal proceedings.

People having live-in relation can't complain of infidelity: HC
Deccan Herald New Delhi, Aug 9 2010

A partner in a live-in relationship can walk out of it without any legal consequence and people cannot complain of infidelity of partners if one of them ditches the other, the Delhi high Court said today.

"Live-in relationship is a walk-in and walk-out relationship. There are no strings attached to this relationship nor does this relationship creates any legal bond between the parties," Justice S N Dhingra said while quashing criminal proceedings initiated by a woman against her live-in partner after he refused to marry her.

"People who chose to have live-in relationship cannot complain of infidelity or immorality as live-in relationships are also known to have been between a married man and unmarried woman or between married woman and unmarried man," the court said.

The court passed the order on a petition filed by a London-based lawyer, against whom a criminal complaint was filed by a lady with whom he had live-in relationship, seeking to quash proceeding against him.

The petitioner, Alok Kumar, submitted that he refused to marry the woman as his parents were against the relationship.

Granting relief to Kumar, the court said the FIR should be quashed to prevent misuse of criminal justice system for personal vengeance of a partner of live-in relationship. "It is a contract of living together which is renewed everyday by the parties and can be terminated by either of the parties without consent of the other party and one party can walk out at will at any time," the court said

"Those who do not want to enter into this kind of relationship of walk-in and walk-out, they enter into a relationship of marriage where the bond between the parties has legal implications and obligations and cannot be broken by either party at will," the court said.

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இன்னா செய்தாரை ஒறுத்தல் அவர்நாண
நன்னயம் செய்து விடல்.
Inna seidhaarai oruththal avarnaana
nannayam seidhu vidal.

நமக்கு தீங்கு செய்தவர்க்கு கொடுக்கும் தண்டனை, அவர் தலைகுனியும்படியாக அவர்க்கு நன்மை செய்தலே.
To punish a evil-doer, is to do good to him in return for his evil action, which will make him ashamed of himself.

கறுத்தின்னா செய்தவக் கண்ணும் மறுத்தின்னா
செய்யாமை மாசற்றார் கோள்.
Karuthinna seidhava kannum maruthinnaa
seiyaamai maasattraar kol.

ஒருவன் கறுவுகொண்டு துன்பம் செய்தபோதிலும், திரும்ப அவனுக்குத் தீங்கு செய்யாமல் இருப்பது மாசற்றவரின் கொள்கையாகும்.
It is the determination of the wise, not to do evil in return for those who had cherished enimity and done them evil.

Still if you think you want do something for that person approach very good Women Rights Advocate in your City. They can help you in all the possible way to ruin that guy's life. But don't forget your life will also go along with that process.

Think wisely. Move on with better life.

Dear Friend,

No Doubt, I can understand your agony as I have suffered the same but in my case the girl had the courage to move out. I have gone through the different postings put here in your case. See, live in is of course a decision which partners take as option with complete faith on other and here I am with you that you did no wrong if your intention were true with his promises as your strength. So, first stop the guilt that you are wrong & do not listen to any one demoralizing you on the issue.

I want to repost your anxiety to all of them who believe in "LET GO". If one person will not protest the evil deed, All laws will sleep in bags.

Dear, alternatively have courage. Handle a two way approach. Flair in your life with new thoughts. This will help you come out of your own shell. There must be someone to take you to your dream lands & family will not go so far that they cannot recall you.

Secondly....do take a close look on all possibilities to bring the guilt behind the BARS. Rather this will stop crimes that are evolving around the new trends (Not live in but freedom of choice) but where people like me and you are cheated and made emotional fools. This will raise back your self-respect within you. I will certainly suggest to take all possible advices before you take any legal course. You can also see all the IPC in google where your case can be applicable in your favor and take it forward with a lwayer.

Wish you better future ahead.

Dear All,

Please suggest that whether there is no alternative way out on such emotional ditches. Lawyers are requested to take a new chapter needing the justice.

Regards.

Dear India,

I can understand ur sufferings, but trust me.... no court can bring ur age n time back. Pls try to move on n start a new life since itz never too late. Ur BF is settled in US n there's nothing much you can do abt it. Legally if u try to punish him, u & ur  family wud suffer more in the process. Its lengthy, tiring n embarassing. Take up a job, try n start a new life may be in some new place. Just thank god, u didn't get married to him since reversal is not possible. Time is a big healer. Pray to god n find peace with yourself. God Bless n move on dear. there's so much more in this life then marriage n Love. may be dis happened for d best..

Now it's been like 10 days he's not talking to me , he's keralate  and I'm from hyderabad we met in Gulf bahrain , we were in love relationship for 2 years after that he went dubai and I have to come for vaccation,  because I also wanted to go with him to dubai , I had mo plans in going to bahrain and like 6 months I was in home , he spoke to me daily for 2 min on phone , I use to help him in money wise and also sending his mails and responding them , even my family knows him he spoke to them except my father , but none of his family knows me , when they're times we fought about it because I told him about him in my house and he didn't even tell about me after having physical relation,  he use to tell me that I want u to get nice job then I can intro u , then even I gave a thought about it , later on from 5 days he's not talking properly and not msging me so I have to request him and beg him what's the problem he don't open up himself because my bf is introverted so one days he told me let's stop , I asked him y he said I don't want to cheat u , then he told I want u and my parents , then after 2 days he told me they won't accept , this is good for ur life &my life , u will get good person in ur life and then marry , then I tried to die 2 times but I didn't succeed , I wanted to talk to his mom that I want to marry him , but he don't want me to talk with anyone he don't want to spoil his name his said me .

I have all kind of proofs I really want to screw him and I want him to know what mistake he's been doing , I don't know anyone in kerala , even to communicate it's very problematic for me , I want to try to make an attempt in talking to his parents through any lawyer or councillor then I would like to wait for their decision and I will decide what to do .

I know my life will get spoiled but I don't want to marry other person than him , I want him only that's y I'm trying my best to keep our relation , but he don't even try to keep me and he don't want me to say this to anyone , I'm having hard time I'm not eating and crying alot , my parents r crying also because of me ..

I want that god to give me strength and courage to fight against this 

Querist,

I am surprised to ascertain, you were having a physical relationship before marriage.

Worst decision you ever made.

WHY WHY WHY you did this?

 

It solely depends on how you want to proceed.

1. Fight to get the justice.

You can lodge FIR & file cases u/s 375 (Rape), 417 (Punishment of cheating) against him. I don’t guess about the verdict of these cases, at least you can harass him.

Court proceeding may be time consuming and you have to wait for years to get the verdict. These suits are enough to make his life hell. In general, after these suits accuse approach the petitioner for the withdrawal of the cases. And petitioner becomes hostile as a part of out of court settlement. So, you can either claim money or ask him to marry you, as a part of the settlement. Claiming money is the best selection. Marriage will not ferment, but after the marriage, again, you will get the opportunity of filing matrimonial suits.

OR

2. Forget everything and move forward.

 

Coming to the legality:

In this case, why the boy had taken 6 years to introduce the girl to his parents?

Because from the very beginning he doesn't hold an intention to marry the young lady and he was well aware of the fact that his parents will not permit him to marry her.    

A s*xual relationship with a woman after making her a FALSE promise of marriage amounts to rape. The so-called consent under a FALSE promise of marriage is no consent. A man receiving consent to s*xual relations under false pretext does not amount to legal or valid consent and saving him from being accused and punished for rape.    

Even if the woman is assumed to be a willing participant in their physical union, the fact that the man had no intention of marrying her would make it an instance where consent was given under a misconception, nullifying the efficacy of approval.    

If the accused had made a false promise only to gratify his lust, it will fall within the ambit of cheating or deception and there is a distinction between the mere breach of a promise, and not fulfilling a false promise.    

In some situations the prosecutrix agrees to have s*xual intercourse on account of her love and passion for the accused, and not solely on account of misrepresentation made to her by the accused, the situation does not necessarily lead to rape.    

Consensual s*x under the promise of marriage is basically cheating, right?    

Most other forms of cheating are punishable under Indian law, they have provisions. Like cheated on advertising claims, cheating on financial products, cheating among family members, they all have an outlet to address it and get legal support.    

Doesn't this come under the same pretext?