we say that once a lady starts earning,she becomes financially "independent" and "confident".she can take her own decisions,and so on.that is the benefit of education and economic independence.
but i doubt that in india,working women really have any such independence,whether they are researchers or clerks.
when prospective boys come to see them,they prefer the one who's earning well,over non-working gals.
they want her to bring monthly earnings,so that they lead a lavish lifestyle,and also expect a good dowry and a good marriage.
so the arguments given by learned members here,that education and economic independence of a woman is a sure shot way to eradicate dowry holds no logic.
also, real problem starts after marriage.in many houses,the families expect the new bride to hand over her salary to her mother-in-law.
now her husband must already be contributing to his parents.they are already well off.then why is the newly wed also expected to hand over her salary to her MIL?
Isn't this a way to control her?they keep her jewels also under their control.and want her salary too.
the bride must spend her earnings in household expenses.there's no harm in that.but i dont digest this when she is asked to hand over her salary.this is too much of suppression.
suppose her parents become needy some day,and she needs to help them financially,if she has made her in-laws habitual of eating away her monthly earnings,she will have a hard time asking them to compromise since her own parents are also in need of her money.
there will be lots of opposition from in-laws.
please share your opinions over this