Wife filed case against me as dvc
Subramanian B
(Querist) 07 October 2016
This query is : Resolved
Hi All,
We got married during 2011 and we have kid daughter 2 years now. I even dont know the exact problem what happened exactly. From July she left me alone with kid and staying with her Uncle family. I tried to speak to her in person by going to uncle house and office, but she didnt turned up.i dont really what is happening. If we meet once atleast we can sit and discuss the pros and cons, but she is avoiding that.It has been 3 months since i seen my kid and my wife. She is very good and smart and very motivational to me.
Now, yesterday i received a courier from court and it was given as DVC***. I dont have any help or guidance. How to proceed now?? Please someone help me..
Nadeem Qureshi
(Expert) 07 October 2016
Appear before the court on date fixed along with your lawyer and file vakalatnama on behalf of you and approach to court for mediation and sit with your wife and try to settled the matter amicably with her, you may take help of your relatives, friends, lawyer and mediator for settlement.
Feel Free to Call
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 07 October 2016
Appear and attempt to settle the matter amicably.
Find a very able counsel for you.
Advocate M.Bhadra
(Expert) 07 October 2016
Appear in Domestic Violence Case on fixed date by filing Vakalatnam and along with a petition for reconciliation.
You can also file a Suit for Restitution of Conjugal Right in Family/District Court for defend strategy in D.V.Act case and other case.
Subramanian B
(Querist) 07 October 2016
Thank you so much.
I don't know why she is avoiding me to see, sit and talk. As a normal human being i thought, without going legal it will get solved, but completely unexpected that she would go to court. I don`t want to miss my wife and baby.
What would happened if i couldn't make it to court on the specific day they mentioned?? Is there any other way to resolve this??
Sir`s, Please don`t mistake me, i am just asking for the options.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 07 October 2016
Try to understand; the dispute has already precipitated.
Find a very able counsel for you.
Subramanian B
(Querist) 07 October 2016
Ok Sir. I understand..
What would happened if i couldn't make it to the court on the specific day they mentioned??
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 07 October 2016
You can take help of common friends, relatives to get the problem solved.
since case is filed by her, you have to engage a lawyer and defend yourself.
Siddharth Dev
(Expert) 07 October 2016
First know allegations against you
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 07 October 2016
You are welcome.
malipeddi jaggarao
(Expert) 08 October 2016
You should consult an able advocate in your area and the attend the court on the specified date along with the advocate. It is very important. It is unbelievable that you do not know the reasons. What about your in-laws? Have you contacted them? Who is that uncle who gave shelter to her without any reason for abandonment? Please do not hide the facts while seeking legal advice. At the first instance, you should engage an advocate to settle matter legally and on the other hand consult your in-laws and other common relatives to settle the issue if you are not at fault.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 08 October 2016
Visit the court and you will be in knowledge of allegations.
Subramanian B
(Querist) 11 October 2016
Dear Mallipedi Sir,
Right from July 1st till now i am requesting my wife to sit and talk for a while, regarding what is the issue and even i want to know what is her problem. i went several times to meet her in her uncle house and her office also but literally no response from her. even i called her uncle and requested him to speak with her, he is avoiding my calls and being a escapism character in this case. The problem is me and my wife is not met in person and from my in laws side also they are not allowing me. Even i requested my wife and in laws that, wherever they want they can look for a marriage counselor for Rehabilitation for me and wife, atleast i can find where i am wrong and where she is wrong and we can correct our mistakes, but they say my wife will not come for anywhere and my wife is also saying yes for everything whatever they say.
You may get a question like those people are deciding at this extreme, and what i did wrong. even now i am blank what and where i did wrong. But they say many complaints against me which is never and ever happened in my life time. even my wife aware of that and supporting them and saying yes for everything. i dono what is their motive. But lies on me flies like anything from them. I am really depressed and stressed.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 11 October 2016
Perhaps you may like to go thru:
http://www.lawyersclubindia.com/forum/Spoilt-honeymoon-false-accusations-and-subjecting-the-husb-143067.asp
Subramanian B
(Querist) 11 October 2016
Dear Kumar Sir,
Thanks for providing a link and i read the case.
In my case we got married during 2011 and we have kid now. My daughter born on June 6th 2014. We had some small small controversy talks and not to the extent. we use to solve everything with in us and continued to peaceful life. After my kid born, we came to the commitment each other that we should not have any controversy or misunderstandings and agreed both side. And we have a great part of life from june 6th 2014 to june 5th 2016. One day before my daughter birthday my in laws came for the birthday party and from that week onwards my wife started avoiding me and not listening to me. even i am confused why she changed in this way. from that point she is totally forgetten me and separated my kid also from me. I requested many times to them for asking my kid to speak over phone, but till now they are not responding. It has been more than 6 months, i didnt see my kid and hear her voice.
Subramanian B
(Querist) 11 October 2016
I requested her to keep the kid along with her, or give it me, but she is saying that she is having lot of office work and she cannot manage the kid keeping with her.
My family state now is, I am alone here, my wife alone with her uncle family and going to job, my kid is the Coimbatore alone with my in laws family. At this situation i am worried more about my kid who is not having both father and mother nearby. My wife is travelling every weekend to see the kid.
Is there any possibility to have my the kid with me? becoz she will be physically good but mentally weak by not having parents around her.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 11 October 2016
Involve elders and try to patch up.
Subramanian B
(Querist) 11 October 2016
Elders are the main problems here sir.
To be honest, my parents and my in laws have some EGO`s. Even my wife aware of this.
I told my wife the same and asked her why should we three be separated and becoz of our parents. I am alone here, my wife alone there in uncle house, my kid alone there in Coimbatore.
My pro`s or con`s is, i never say to my parents if any misunderstanding or controversy between me and my wife, But she use to share all the things to my In laws. That is the problem here.
I literally confused now.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 11 October 2016
Involve common friends.
Subramanian B
(Querist) 11 October 2016
She is ignoring all the mutual friends.
She is out of facebook, Whats app and all social networks. If anybody try to speak to her, she is asking the friends to avoid talking about our cause and disconnecting the call.
Sorry Kumar sir for giving answers for all u suggesting. Since i tried only, i am sharing this. Please dont mistake.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 11 October 2016
Involve new ones/anyone and sit at the table.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 11 October 2016
You may visit her office during recess / break.
Send SMS time and again.
May try again to call her on telephone.
Can involve her office friend for patch up.
Subramanian B
(Querist) 25 October 2016
I and Parents appeared to court on specific date and received the petition from them.
None of the point in that is true. I have written my notes to my adv for counter. Meanwhile i received the divorce notice yesterday. Dear all, Please don`t mistake me in say this in public, Unnecessarily she is spending lots of money in this. But the reality is 200% she got influenced by her parents, mainly by her mother. Now they pushed her into the core where she is not understanding about life and having a 2 years girl kid. I submitted all documents/proofs for what and how much i spent on her and kid. Even as an individual my wife knows my kid is very very attached to me more than her and she made this statement every time in public also. There are more genuine reasons where my kid is 100% not safe by proper growth. I want her and kid back or can i have my kid with me? Please suggest..
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 25 October 2016
Pick up your phone and speak to LCI Expert Mr. Shonee Kapoor.
He has a success story similar to your case and got custody of a very young child.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 25 October 2016
Yes send PM to expert Shonee Kapoor ask for his mobile no. and talk.
Subramanian B
(Querist) 31 October 2016
How to contact Shonee Kapoor?
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 31 October 2016
Send a PM thru LCI.
Type Shonee Kapoor in google and contact.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 01 November 2016
To send PM click name of the expert _ profile would open - click - PM - write and send.
Subramanian B
(Querist) 07 November 2016
2 weeks before, judge ordered for the counselling for both of us. Wednesday is the counselling. Let me know who will be there? what will happen? will counselor support men also? How should i react and how should i be there??
I want my wife and kid back. Please help and guide me.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 07 November 2016
Did you approach Mr.Shonee Kapoor?
If yes, you can prepare.
Subramanian B
(Querist) 07 November 2016
Tried to get his number, but unlucky.
Please suggest how should i get prepared? how it will be there?
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 08 November 2016
Your lawyer would guide properly / the points to be raised / stand you should take.
Subramanian B
(Querist) 24 November 2016
Went for the counselling. Not given enough chances for me to speak out. She took longer time and she was saying all not 100%, 200% lies on me. I am really getting surprised how can she able to talk these many lies about me. If i am not wrong, she is standing in one point as she want divorce. I requested the counselor for one more chance and they given that chance on Dec 2nd. She is very vigorous, i dont know how to make her understand or atleast talk to me separately. Is it possible to get influenced at core like this?? How to make her realize or understand... I am getting depressed day by day, i want my wife and kid back.. But meanwhile i am having confidence also that i will get them back.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 24 November 2016
Discuss in detail with your lawyer.
It seems she has been taught enough by her lawyer / parents.
Understand one thing, if she do not want to live with you, it would be hard for you to continue with the relation.
If possible, take help of some of her near friend / relative to talk to her on telephone, record your conversation if get a chance to talk.
Subramanian B
(Querist) 24 November 2016
sir, you believe it or not, within one week she is changed. May end we went for movies, malls dinner and lived happily only. June 1st week her mom came and stayed here for one week, that week i went to B`lore officially. When i come back that weekend, my wife was not normal and not speaking with me. From that time this issue started.
Till now i am blank on what happen that one week and continued till now. Really not bearable..
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 24 November 2016
No other alternate but to face the situation as per circumstances and if possible make her understand and save marriage.
Rest is to be left on her as you have no control over the situation.
Kumar Doab
(Expert) 24 November 2016
Mr. Goyal has appropriately concluded.
Agreed.
