Want to bring my wife back
somesh
(Querist) 26 July 2013
This query is : Resolved
as discussed with esteemed experts i went to my inlaws to bring my wife back.
when i went there they kept condition that we have searched a job for you in haryana near their house and you have to join it then only they will allow me to take her away.
i simply denied saying i am a businessman in mumbai why should i shut my business to do a job for you? they said we want you to take care of our children (i.e. my brother & sister in laws) then i asked them to send in your children's to mumbai i ll take better care then you do.
Later on they left this condition and asked me to stay at their place for 10 to 15 days, but i was having my return ticket with me so i requested that i will come back and stay with you as much day you want but this time please excuse me. later i told them that i can stay a day with you and next day i ll take my wife with me and they agreed.
next day when we were about to leave her mom denied that they will not allow me to take my wife (she was ready with her bag to come with me) my MIL told the girl that if she goes with me she will finish herself due to which even she stayed with her mom and i left.
Her father was speechless on this matter as he is not allowed to interfere in house matter only her mom will decide what is to be done.
So please advice me what should i do now as i totally depressed and unable to take any decision as i don't know whether my wife will stand by me or not.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 26 July 2013
Before adopting legal path, try to talk as many times as possible to your wife on phone, if not possible at her home she may talk from outside. Tell her that you want her, want to live with her for life. Explain her the consequences of divorce and her necessity for your life. Take the help of relatives.
If she agrees convince her and her parents.
Law can not force your wife to live with you it can direct only.
If no result outcome, proceed as advised by the expert adv. rajeev (rajoo) ji.
R.K Nanda
(Expert) 26 July 2013
nothing to add.
Adv Archana Deshmukh
(Expert) 26 July 2013
Try thru amicable means first i.e thru mediation of relatives. If not possible then, file a RCR in the court.
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 27 July 2013
If your wife is not coming back then you have no other legal option but to file a petition seeking restitution of conjugal rights.
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 27 July 2013
Legal remedies should be attempted as last resort.Legal remedy in your case is RCR.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 27 July 2013
filing of RCR petition is almost guaranteed method for inviting allegation under DV Act and S/498a.
You have to wait for right time.
somesh
(Querist) 27 July 2013
Dear Experts,
The girl is very much ready to come back but afraid of her mother she is the only culprit to destroy our marriage even girls father is ready to send her back but he is also afraid of her wife.
filig RCR may effect my and my wife's relation thats why i am not willing to go legal.
I am waiting for last 01 year and my patience level has finished, now i want some action to be taken
can i contact some NGO or file FIR in police station?? will it work??
please advice my life is miserable now.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 27 July 2013
Talk to your wife and convenience her live with you against the wishes of her mother. Assure her full respect and dignity. Take the help of common friend.
As advised by Expert Sudhir Kumar ji, any RCR would invite reaction through cases against you and your family.
On what grounds you want to lodge FIR.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 27 July 2013
you have a dominating mother in law . where in laws interfere in married life of their children it is arecipe for disaster .
you say your wife wants to stay with you but her mother is against it . send her emails/letters asking her to come back . call her often . it may help in changing her mind . file RCR only after your wife agrees to above strategy .
contact a local lawyer
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 27 July 2013
I can't become agree with you that your wife is ready to come to you but her mother restrains us. If your wife has such courage for her married life then she should not care for her mother. it seems that you are still kind towards her otherwise she is not having such feelings for you.
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 27 July 2013
Adopt only legal recourse as already told to you instead o making mails and so on.
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 27 July 2013
Filing any FIR may prove disastrous.
Sometimes it becomes hard to speak about true actions one should take really just due to open public portal.
prabhakar singh
(Expert) 27 July 2013
There are many extraneous circumstances to be considered in private consultations to dig why a mother in law does not wish her daughter in matrimonial home?
AMONG crores THERE MAY BE A REASON WE CAN NOT QUERY OPENLY?
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 07 September 2013
Facts are scattered on several threads :-
http://www.lawyersclubindia.com/experts/want-to-save-our-marriage-411886.asp#.UitCqX_Qzmk
http://www.lawyersclubindia.com/experts/laws-for-harassed-husbands-387421.asp#.UitCt3_Qzmk
http://www.lawyersclubindia.com/experts/want-to-bring-my-wife-back-410526.asp#.UitCr3_Qzmk
http://www.lawyersclubindia.com/experts/want-to-bring-my-wife-back-403956.asp#.UitCs3_Qzmk
http://www.lawyersclubindia.com/experts/planning-to-file-rcr-415581.asp#.UitCpH_Qzmk
It would have been in your interest of have all facts in one place so that the experts do not have to spy around for facts of the case and you get complete advise at one thread.
You have got enough advise if you really intend to save marriage then go ahead.
V R SHROFF
(Expert) 08 September 2013
Somesh,
your Q:
So please advice me what should i do now as i totally depressed and unable to take any decision as i don't know whether my wife will stand by me or not.
ur statement"Her father was speechless on this matter as he is not allowed to interfere in house matter only her mom will decide what is to be done."
So my Advice in this particular situation:
My Answer:
Why you worry about taking decisions, as your MIL already doing your work. Even your FIL is speechless, so you be speechless.
You need not open your mouth.
As they are ready to treat you well , allow you to be with your wife in their home FREE OF COST, take full advantage of the situation. Enjoy your life going there as often as you can, be there as long as you can, Love your wife as much as you can.
get as many babies as you want.
Your MIL will get fade -up looking after babies and send your wife with all your babies to Mumbai. All babies free of cost!!
OK. Reply me if u like this idea.
