Wife not coming back form her home
sravankumar
(Querist) 21 October 2012
This query is : Resolved
i am Hindu and got married in feb 2012 my wife separately living in her home since marriage working in PSU ( mining company) in chhattisgarh,Dantewada dist. naxal affected area and earning of 50K she was working Andhra Pradesh GOVT. Hospital as a staff nurseon contact basis with salary of 6K
Now the problem is she not coming back form home because she is doing job in her home town her argument is i am not in position to left or resign my job and not interested to live in forest area ,after few days present contract staff nurse would be permananent/regular.Her mother argument is at the time of marriage my self give assurance that i will come to Andhra pradesh do job ( but i have never give any assurance to come andhra pradesh . many times my mother-in law told to i never send my daughter long with you not stay in chhattisgarh forest area.Sep 2012 recently i am ill , doctor suspect that you getting chance of TB disease( starting stage) than my mother- in-law agin argument that you suffering from TB so, i am not able to send my daughter along with you, after use of medicine for 6 months of cure we will talk/discuss the matter.since 1 month no communication my wife and me.since my marriage many times i tray to convince my wife but she is not.she was obey/fallow her mother suggestions.so i thought she would change as time goes.20 days before i send a SMS to her mobile after few hours later her mother ring to me said that ' why you are send SMS to my daughter and also said she not spoken to you ,we will talk after 6 month in between no communication.And mother-in-law taken away my husbands mobile.if she really interested to do job,chhattisgarh,dantewada( where i presently working)opurtnity is there. my family members once again thinking that go to her home ask to send her back and to stay along with me.
In this state what should i do?how can i get back her ?if i go legally what are the options i have and if i go ahead and do it what will be the reaction from there side?If i go ahead and file child visiting rights & RCR can this proceed to divorce or reunite?
plz ans the above questions as i am confused on what step to take
ajay sethi
(Expert) 21 October 2012
your wife is not going to come back . the sooner you accept the reality the better .
she does not want to come and stay in naxal effected charrisgarh .
the dact that she has not come back even after you contracted TB speaks volumes .
she wants her career as a nurse and for her a job confirmation is important . the only way your marriage can be saved is if you settle down in AP .
if you file for RCT she will file DV and 498A case against you .
wait for 6 months . after one year of separation go in for divorce by mutual consent
Devajyoti Barman
(Expert) 21 October 2012
RCR is only a legal step to get back your wife. As far as practical step is concerned it is her own wish.
Engage her in negotiation. If she agrees then it is fine. Else go for amicable settlement.
For the sake of the child you should try to bring her back amicably.
Rajeev Kumar
(Expert) 22 October 2012
I aggrree with both experts views
JANAK RAJ VATSA
(Expert) 29 October 2012
for the sake of child and saving your family, try and find a suitable job for yourself in andhra. rcr may be invoked but she is unlikely to comply. an amicable and mutually acceptable proposal is the answer
