Fear of alse case from wife
SUNIL GEORGE
(Querist) 16 April 2012
This query is : Resolved
Dear Sir,
Let me introduce myself. I am working in Kuwait Ministry of Electricity as Engineer (on contract basis) since Jan 2010. My marriage (christian) was on April 30th 2011 (last year). She is MSc in Microbiology. After marriage we stayed there in India together for 35 days (upto June 5th). Then I cam back to Kuwait. During that She never allowed me to touch her from the !st night itself. That time I thought She like me later on and will agree for sex. So I waited. She kept all her ornaments at her mom's locker. After 1st week of marriage she started to ask me a plot in bangalore in her name (arranged by her uncle- the plot belongs to Trust by church in bangalore in which her Uncle is a member) . AS I was not having much balance after marriage I refused. Then she asked me to get bank loan. Then to win her heart I tried but as the bank took much time I cancelled the loan request. Then I had to join duty in Kuwait. Before marriage we were engaged for 2 months. After very few days of knowing each other she asked about my bank details and I told her everything. There was not much money was there. I spend lots of money to look after my grand mother and my parents. As I was working abroad I had given my ATM card to my mother. I told her everything. Then she asked me to stop giving money to my parents as my father was having pension. But as it was not enough I was giving money to my parents. But never they miss used any amount. So I refused and continued paying money. She never liked that. Before marriage (4months back) I had bought a new car (Fiat Linea). I took it with loan. After marriage my wife and her dad asked me to sell my car as my car was used by my parents. Hoping that she will like me I agreed first. Even she refused to go for a tour. But still there was no change in her attitude towards me as I refused to buy plot in bangalore. So later I told her I wont sell my car as well. Mean time she asked me to buy a flat in Cochin so that when we come from vacation we can stay there. I disagreed strongly saying that I want to Stay with my & her parents during 1 month vacation every year. Due to all this differences we were not having any sex. Then in August 28th I take her to Kuwait. Even at 1st she refused to come saying that she cant part her mom. After my request she came with me. 1st day in Kuwait she didnt allowed for sex. But she had so may boy friends to whom she used to chat. So I was angry and questioned abt any affair. As she was also stubborn she refused saying that before marriage she can do anything of her like. In anger she cought my neck. Then I slapped her twice asking to take her hands from my neck. I had some scratches in my neck. I took some photo of that. Next day she called her dad and told everything. They told her to stay with me and clear the differences together talking. Then we agreed to stay together. After 2 days we had our first intercourse. It was a bit difficult first. But from the 3rd day we started good sex for about 12 days. Then came another problem. Before marriage they told they will give 20 lakhs including gold. I said infront of my parents that I dont want. After fixing marriage (before 2 months to marriage) we went to buy gold and dresses for our wedding. That day they give 5 lakh in cash. At 1st i refused to take then her dad kept the amount in my car saying that this is a custom. As my wanted to make grand marriage function I used all that amount for marriage. Even I had to spend 3 more lakhs from my pocket. When we were in kuwait living happily her dad again compelled to me to buy plot this time in thrissur saying that they will give 5 more lakh. But the remaining 6 lakhs I had to pay. As I had spend aroung 2-3 lakhs to set flat in Kuwait and to get visa & for her air ticket I told no. Then she started making problems then I strictly told her to do the house hold works (before we used to do everything together: cooking, cleaning etc.) Her parents used to call her when I go for my work. They asked her to come back. So she told me that she want to leave. I refused. At that time I didnt had much money to take ticket as well. Even she started not speaking to me from that day. Then after discussing with her brother and uncle I agreed as they to she will come back after 2 weeks. As I was not having much money her brother took ticket and took her back to home on November 1st 2011 (he send the ticket to my mail). After reaching home they refused to end her back. then I went in Jan 2012 for counselling. The doctor was arranged by her father (he is professor). As they knew the doctor before (I didnt knew that before) during counselling they never listened to me. Even they asked me to come early morning to hospital every day. As per them me & my mother went for 3 days. In that 2 days they came afternoon only (I had to wait from 8am to 2pm). Then I understand that they want to trouble me. Then from the 3rd day I stopped going for counselling. Bcos of thet Her dad was too much angry to me. Even he threatened to me saying that they will file CRPC against me & my parents. Due to fear next day I came back to Kuwait. After 2 weeks I send RCR to her through my advocate to come to Kuwait or to my home (in my mother's name) in palakkad. She reused through their advocate saying that I am doubtful towards her (affair), I took all her gold of around 640gms (they buy only 240 gms of gold with bill for marriage), I am impotent, used to come from office to check whether there is anybody there with her in the flat, I am mad like that. Now they want mutual content for divorce asking to pay 10 Lakhs as compensation. but agreed that gold was with them only. Even my gold (80gms) was with her. I also dont want to continue. I am ready to pasy the 5 lakhs I got. But I cant pay more. They are threatening to file criminal case against me. So what I have to do? My parents and younger brother is in fear of arrest.Please advice me. I have some proofs that she was happy with me in Kuwait (Some audio clips of he singing songs & photos taken together) Thank you so much for your valuable advice and support. Awaiting your reply.
Shonee Kapoor
(Expert) 16 April 2012
Please negotiate and end this.
However, if your mother and brother are able to bear the initial shock of pre-bail harassment, then I would ask you to fight the case on merits.
Also join http://forum.498a.org/ and ask your mother and sister to attend SIFF meeting in your area.
If you think undersigned can be of any help, feel free to get in touch.
Regards,
Shonee Kapoor
harassed.by.498a@gmail.com
Raj Kumar Makkad
(Expert) 16 April 2012
Amicable settlement is the best option in your case. The ongoing litigation and mistrust shall further strengthen the possibility of multiplicity of litigation which shall not suit you keeping in view your size of pocket.
If any respectable person mutually respectable comes/brought for negotiation then it shall be best option otherwise you have no other option but to defend your case vigorously and effectively in your interest without caring for the attitude of other members of your family.
ajay sethi
(Expert) 16 April 2012
cpntact a local lawyer . it appears your wife is not interested in staying with you . mutual cosnsent diovrce is best option for you .
however dont bow down to her demand of rs 10 lakhs which is exhorbitant
M/s. Y-not legal services
(Expert) 16 April 2012
my advise also mutual consent divorce along with amicable settlement..
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SUNIL GEORGE
(Querist) 17 April 2012
Thank you so much for all of your valuable instructions. Can anybody guide me how to defend if they go for DV & Divorce together? Because my aged (above 60 years) parents and younger brother (26 years) is there at home (palakkad, Kerala).
Shonee Kapoor
(Expert) 17 April 2012
It can be defended on merits only.
Unless you know what are the allegations, what would you defend.
There is no one size fit all kind of solutions for defence.
Regards,
Shonee Kapoor
harassed.by.498a@gmail.com
