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Anonymous
(Querist) 11 April 2011
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hi. i am 23 F working in a medical background. i loved a guy who is an IT professional . i told my love to my parents. they said " the guy is 90 % ok. but the main matter is he is of different caste. so cant help". since both of us belong to OBC community, i regarded their reason is silly. hence i did register marriage with him last year and we lived seperate. we dint say abt our marriage to anyone and decided when time comes, we will say, only if needed. bcoz i had faith in god that my family will accept him. there is no prob in his family though. they are ready to accept our marriage in any case. but the main thing is to follow. since i work in alcholic de-addiction center, i always hate drinks, even in minor form. i grew up avoiding all those who drinks or smokes. thats the thing i hate to the core. before our marriage,my husband said he too had the habit of drinking before( as a result of some break-up). now again, he started drinking and he is lying to me. i know he loves me to the core and he is crazyy about me. but still i cant accept him, as he is not loyal to me. we broke up now. but he is still behaving like mad and he says , he is ready to quit all bad habits. but i cant trust him. i cant adjust myself to live with him anymore. but i am afraid of of my future. shall i seek for divorce? on what grounds? is there anyway i can get divorce without knowing to my parents? everyone is saying that i should give him one chance. but the thing is, i cant. what if he does the same mistake again? i will not get any support from my family side in the future too( since marrying him was my own decision) i have not live with him . can i get divorce on harresment? i cant prove it though. moreover, in the society , does anyone believe that i am a virgin even after married for one year? there is a possibilty that it may cause prob, even when i get married to another person, after getting divorce?
one of my friends said that, if a married couple lived seperate for 6 months immediately after thier registered marriage date, it becomes null and void. is this true?
actually i told him to wait for a year, so that , we start a life after solving all our family prob. what if he says, i was not willing to cohabitate and so take any action against me?
Jitendar Kumar gupta
(Expert) 11 April 2011
you have to apply for the divorce. As you said that you are virgin only on this ground the marriage can be anulled.
J.K.Gupta Adv.
New Delhi
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