Urgent! marriage cancellation before engagement
Querist :
Anonymous
(Querist) 01 November 2017
This query is : Resolved
Hi
We had supari(Roka) of my younger brother in January 2016. It was decided to have the marriage done, after my marriage as this was a love marriage. It was agreed by bride's side. I got married in May 2017. After my marriage we started discussion on his marriage date and 23rd November was confirmed for engagement and marriage.The expenses to be beared by bride's party.
In September 2017, bride found an affair of my brother with his colleague. He had sexual intercourse with this girl. He confessed the same with bride. She also got some photos of them, but those are not inappropriate. When we came to know about this, my brother claimed he went on to wrong path due to possessive nature of bride. They earlier had some quarrels due to her nature. But they never brought this to either's parent's attention. She had tried to block his female friends on facebook using his credentials.After this incident, she checked messaged his female colleagues asking if he has any relationship with them. This has caused him a reputation damage in his office and now he is avoiding any contact with his female colleagues.
During our first meet with bride's side, it was decided to still get the marriage done in order to avoid any reputational /social damage to bride's party. Both were told to not bring the issue again future and both agreed.Still she brought up the issue after 2 days, due to which my brother requested to not have the marriage on 23rd November and instead give some time for their relationship to settle down.
This was not agreed by bride's side and instead they asked to have the marriage done on 3rd November. During our discussion my brother shot a video, of which we were totally unaware. The video shows a discussion wherein bride's parents confirm that they are having this marriage earlier despite being aware about the differences between the two. Unfortunately,he also shared the video with bride.
Upon coming to know about the video, bride's parents decided to cancel the marriage. They came to our home and asked us to give a note of marriage cancellation and said they need no money. Next day when we went to their town to settle things, they threatened us to write note of cancellation from our side instead of mutual agreement. They also threatened us to write that we were not threatened to write cancellation note. They did not even give us a chance to copy the note. After receiving the note, they immediately asked for Rs. 5 lakh as an expense. As the marriage has not happened such huge amount is not actually invested. We did not even had a single penny from them. Now they are threatening us of filing defamation case if we do not pay the amount in 2 days. Also they are not ready to negotiate the amount.
Kindly guide me on what can be legal implications if we are unable to pay the amount.
Is there anything we can do from our side as my brother is also suffering from mental stress due to the act of bride.
We do not have any proof of them threatening us to write down the note, however my brother is still ready to marry the bride if some time is given. However, truth is bride's side is the one who want to cancel the marriage.
Ms.Usha Kapoor
(Expert) 01 November 2017
BOTH THE BOY AND THE GIRL'S SIDE INVOLVE SOME NEUTRAL ELDERS TO AMICABLY SETTLETHE THE ISSUE REGARDIBG THE ENGAGEMENT EXPENSES T0 BE PAID BY BOY'S SIDE SO THAT FUTURE LITIGATION CAN BE AVOIDED FR0M EITHER SIDE. ESPECIALLY GIRL'S SIDE. THE NEUTRAL ELDERS OR WELLWISHERS OF BOTH SIDES SOULD ENSURE TO ARRIVE AT A NEGOTIATED EXPENDITURE FROM GIRL'S SIDE AND GET PAYED TO GIRL'S PARENTS. REGARDING THE EXPENSES FROM GIRLS SIDE ON ENGAGEMENT AND THEN CANCEL THE ENGAGEMENT IN AN ATMOSPHERE OF BONHOMIE. AND GIVE AND TAKE SPIRIT.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 01 November 2017
It appears that they were simply letting you off by paying nothing and the things have been escalated by your side.
now settle the refund and walk off.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 01 November 2017
Anonymous author should consult a local lawyer, no reply.
Guest
(Expert) 01 November 2017
Well Advised by Ms.Usha Kapoor and Mr.Sudhir Kumar
Guest
(Expert) 01 November 2017
Mr JC Vashista It is your wish and choice to reply an Query Posted by Anonymous
Guest
(Expert) 01 November 2017
But Mr JC Vashista you can not decide or you should Not Dictate the Innocent Anonymous querist should consult only Local Lawyer and Not Here.
Guest
(Expert) 01 November 2017
Mr JC vashista you could have very well ignored the Query if you do not want to reply Or do not have a reply Please.
Guest
(Expert) 01 November 2017
Insulting the Querist and demanding money from the Querist in open forum to be avoided
Querist :
Anonymous
(Querist) 01 November 2017
Hi
Thank you for the response.
Our all attempts for settlement are failed. Elders at both side are aware of the issue but could not come to a mutual agreement.
We are not even done with engagement yet.
Now, if we deny to pay the amount what all cases can be lodged against us. Are there any steps we can take from our side as well?
Guest
(Expert) 01 November 2017
Discuss with a local good senior Advocate and first you serve the Legal Notice to them and be protected.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 01 November 2017
No advice to an author who is anonymous.
You can post the query in fresh thread with your identity and material facts.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 01 November 2017
More vague / unwarranted / irrelevant / posts.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 01 November 2017
It would be better if the expert would have posted / contributed for the thread rather to go on posting just to satisfy his ego / irritation / frustration.
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 01 November 2017
This time senior expert J.C. Vashishta ji is targeted by a person who does not know the definition and meaning of insult.
Advised to refer dictionary for meaning of the word.
Guest
(Expert) 01 November 2017
The Child A Baby should not involve it self in elders family and marriage matters
Guest
(Expert) 01 November 2017
The Child should sit quietly and complete its tomorrow's school home work please
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 01 November 2017
what pleasure do some experts get (except Number game) by entering into such type of argument.
Guest
(Expert) 01 November 2017
Advising an innocent child is it a number game please
Guest
(Expert) 01 November 2017
advising an ignorant child is only as responsibility and not for pleasure please
Guest
(Expert) 01 November 2017
Now do not say additional 3 numbers please
Guest
(Expert) 01 November 2017
It is only in the interest of the Child.
Guest
(Expert) 01 November 2017
Now the Child would turn up please
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 02 November 2017
@ Dear Mr. NJS Rajkumar alias narasimha,
Unwarranted suggestion shall neither be welcomed nor appreciated/digested.
Instead of posting such suggestion on public domain may I request you to remain within your own shoes and concentrate to professionalism maintaining the decorum and respect for each other.
We can discuss privately any such/other issue(s) if we so think to be presented. to the queriest/litigant.
I hope you will accept my submission in right prospective and in a positive manner.
Thanks and regards
Yours sincerely
Dr. (Maj) J C Vashista, Advocate
Cell # 9891152939
Guest
(Expert) 02 November 2017
When the Innocent Querist is insulted for posting as Anonymous that have to be corrected then and there and where is the necessity of Private Discussions
Guest
(Expert) 02 November 2017
Mr.JC Vashista If you could kindly stop Insulting the Experts that too Lady Experts,and Anonymous Querists and repeated querists and stop using indecent words towards them I would not be certainly interfering with you be sure please
Guest
(Expert) 02 November 2017
Also Demanding money in Open Thread from the Innocent Querists Posting here should be avoided.We are not bothered about when they contact you directly or thro private messages but not in open thread
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 02 November 2017
Respected expert Dr. J.C. Vashishta ji,
Agree with your comments.
He is habitual for such posts.;
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 02 November 2017
Some experts are expert in commenting on other experts.
I do not like any comment on other experts, if I differ any point I do so with proper respect and honor.
I never initiate such comment / action, just try to contradict / reply when on me / on other experts in wrong way / unwanted / for satisfaction of ego.
Guest
(Expert) 02 November 2017
The Child is seeking some one who could console it while it is crying please.
Guest
(Expert) 02 November 2017
How sad his uncles should take care of the Child Please
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 02 November 2017
Some experts are in the habit of posting cheap comment on me / experts. They should not take pain to send message for feeling sorry and regret to me at least.
Any regret message from anyone embarrasses me. I do not like anybody feel sorry before me and hence feel small. I believe in respect and equality to all.
Guest
(Expert) 02 November 2017
Very Good then what happened please..................
Guest
(Expert) 02 November 2017
Have some sweet dreams and sleep child with out dreaming about me Good Night
Guest
(Expert) 02 November 2017
The Child should leave for the school tomorrow 8 A M Please
Guest
(Expert) 02 November 2017
See you tomorrow 4 P M
Rajendra K Goyal
(Expert) 03 November 2017
Some experts are very serious to increase no. of posts through vague / unwarranted / irrelevant posts.
A good method to increase replies without having legal knowledge
Guest
(Expert) 03 November 2017
Not able to find the Link
Guest
(Expert) 03 November 2017
Where is that Link mentioned Please.
Guest
(Expert) 03 November 2017
Post it in the same Link please..............
Guest
(Expert) 03 November 2017
So that the Facts could be Traced Please ............
Guest
(Expert) 03 November 2017
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